THANK YOU! Bless you!
Several years ago, our esteemed bishop, an orthodox and conservative Catholic who has encouraged the EF Mass in our city for two decades, wrote a column stating this very fact that you have stated and explaining his statements with great clarity and obvious expertise.
I brought this up on CAF and was excoriated, and my bishop was denounced as a “modernist.”
So now I keep my mouth shut, usually.
But I still grit my teeth and hiss whenever I see someone use the incorrect term “Tridentine Mass.” I can’t help it, especially when such a person claims to be a good, traditional Catholic. IMO, a good traditional Catholic should strive to be utterly scrupulous when it comes to adhering to the historical facts.
To the OP–my feeling about the names has to do with the “attitude” that someone holds. If someone uses a derisive tone of voice and a sniff and toss of the head when they refer to one of the two forms of the Latin rite, then I don’t care which “initials” they are using. It’s the attitude that’s wrong. But if someone refers to either form with graciousness and reverence, then again, I don’t care which “initials” they use–it’s their loving attitude that is a blessing to all.
I think it makes sense to use the terms that the Holy Father uses, so that there is unity of speech, which often leads to unity of hearts. We should not seek to be divided into factions, but rather, we should seek to practice our personal Mass preferences, but remain united in our devotion to Christ and His Church.
I also believe that if using a certain term is hurtful to a fellow Catholic that you are in constant contact with, especially if the contact is in person, not just online, I think it is a charitable thing to drop using that certain term, even if it is perfectly correct, and use the less hurtful term instead. It’s just a little thing, and no harm is done by using a term that is not your personal choice.