Right, I do believe this! For example, I had a lot of trouble forgiving Osama bin Laden. I knew that I could forgive him someday, and I knew that God forgave him, but I couldn’t - yet. The element of control is so very important. That is why it is so extremely difficult, for example, for Palestinians and Israelis to forgive each other. When a situation seems out of control and there is no hope for better, the mind (conscience) keeps “pushing” the condemnation. Forgiveness is possible, but very difficult.
Your seeing that you cannot imagine God not forgiving someone is a gift from God. It means that you have forgiven everyone, and the ability to forgive is a gift. You will have plenty of opportunities to continue using this gift, though. If you are like me, you will continue to judge others. It is our nature.
Your explanation is so much simpler, and so much better.
All power comes from God. Our functioning conscience says “their use of power in that way is unacceptable.” and our conscience serves in helping us correct the behavior. However, there is no such thing as someone hurting someone else with full knowledge of what they are doing! Hitler is a perfect example. Hitler condemned the Jewish people in Germany, for a number of reasons. When we condemn, our brains automatically devalue (dehumanize) the people we condemn. Hitler wasn’t, in his mind, killing people, he was destroying something he saw as less than mosquitoes. I am just as capable of thinking that someone is of so little value. I saw this in the Nazis, in “terrorists”. It is an illusion. Hitler was destroying what he saw as evil. I know it is hard to believe, but it is true.
I’m sorry, but I am still a little confused by this question, “where does the teaching that we must confess sins to obtain God’s forgiveness leave us?” Perhaps you could clarify a little.
Are you wondering if God will forgive you if you have your own personal thoughts about how God will treat us, or are you wondering if the Church or other people will condemn your personal thoughts? If you are wondering about God, well, I think you have already answered that above. If you are wondering about the Church, or other people, then you need to be aware of this, about the “sin of presumption”:
2092 There are two kinds of presumption. Either man presumes upon his own capacities, (hoping to be able to save himself without help from on high), or he presumes upon God’s almighty power or his mercy (hoping to obtain his forgiveness without conversion and glory without merit).
There are those in the Church who believe that God does not forgive unconditionally, and will use this section to condemn those who do. There is plenty of “middle ground” though. For instance, we can say that God forgives people and sends them to hell anyway, if hell is a spiritual bootcamp, a temporary place. Or, we can say that “merit” is a perceived thing, and I can certainly prove that all people have merit. On the other hand, would heaven be heaven if the blind and ignorant people there cause the same chaos as they do today? That doesn’t make any sense either to my human mind, though I do have to admit that “with God, all things are possible”. Until I can figure out how it works otherwise, to me there has to be some kind of purging process, a process by which people’s blindness is cured and ignorance abated.
Do you see how people, myself included, conclude that some people’s interpretation of the “sin of presumption” contradicts what Jesus did from the cross, forgiving the unrepentant? Don’t get me wrong, though, most of what the CCC says about the sin of presumption makes sense to me, and I think should be part of our informed conscience.