Well, she shouldn’t baptize the child Catholic until she’s made a thorough study of it and is sure that she can keep a promise to raise the child Catholic - which involves a lot more than just sending it to Catholic school.
I have done nothing of the sort. But I do feel like Priests should not “assume” that a parent who wants a Catholic Baptism would not raise the child according to Catholic teachings and traditions if the parent promised to do so…
According to the OP, the father left them. What does he have to do with it?
No we don’t. Did she tell you she plans to sleep with her boyfriend again tonight?
You should ask her… If she’s not already too hurt to post here again.
How do we know she is living in sin? Did she tell us that she is sleeping with her boyfriend as she types her posts…? She has admitted that she has sinned in the past, but that’s all she has told us. We’ve all sinned in the past.
Being sexually active out side of marriage is evidence of this. The priest is not assuming anything but is, instead, looking at the situation as presented using that to make his decision.
Unless he has surrendered his parental rights or the courts have granted her sole guardianship he does matter legally.
She has not stated this out right but we do have evidence that she has been sexually active with him and she stated that he does not wish to get married. She also appears to be reluctant to break off her relationship with him.
You are making assumptions that she has told us everything. You are making an assumption that she has told use everything that the priest told her.
Do you swear to God that you honestly believe the above quote to be true?
Not to be contrary, but how would this promise be carried out since nobody in the household is Catholic and knows about Catholic teachings and traditions? After Baptism, the child would be Catholic, but how would the child learn anything at all about Catholicism if no adult in the house knows about Catholicism?
Not in my parish.
You are the one making a lot of assumptions! An intellectually honest person would look at the objective facts like behaviors and canon law. Those are sufficient to make a decision. For an act to be moral you must have proper intent, not immoral acts, and not immoral circumstances. Nobody is going too much into intent right now, the acts and circumstances speak for themselves.
When a Child is Baptized, it essentially becomes the parents consent to admit to God Himself that the child is His and not their own. It’s the greatest act of humility that a parent can achieve.
I wouldn’t think in ANY Catholic parish.
Okay. Interesting. I’ve never heard anything like that before. Admit the child is God’s? The greatest act of humility that a parent can achieve? Hmm. I’m not sure what to say to that or how to react.
It is Catholic practice that a parent BE Catholic when his/her child is baptized, not that the parent will then become Catholic after the fact. That is pretty basic and has been the case for a very, very long time.
Yes, the parent or Parents should become Catholic first. But maybe there could be a set date for the baptism. It doesn’t matter what sins she has done… She can still become Catholic. She should go to RCIA. It’s a great Accomplishment -to complete RCIA.
Last year we had a mother and father and their two babies all come into the church at the same time after the parents went through RCIA. It was beautiful.
If you read back, I never actually disagreed -I just thought the way they were going about it was out of line… Way out of line.
That is exactly what others have been saying.
Indeed. The priest made an admittedly harsh comment about the mother being unmarried with two children from two different fathers. Mind you Our Lord commented on the woman who had been married five times and was currently living in sin.
That is exactly what others have been saying.
I have to provide a bit of correction.
