pasted on skin tight pants!

[Caesar]

Marilena, good for you for putting your foot down on this. We cannot have such disrespect at Mass- it is very sad that it happens at any Mass, but we must do all we can to keep such things away from the TLM.

 

[Karin]

I’d like to know where this church is, so that I don’t show up there.

I don’t wear cover my head and I don’t wear skirts of any kind.

Well I sure hope you did not do what this lady did and wear pants so tight we can see the cottage cheese (cellulite) on your buns

This type of dress is not appropriate for mass, IMHO…

 

[Marilena]

I’d like to know where this church is, so that I don’t show up there.

I don’t wear cover my head and I don’t wear skirts of any kind.

CAF rules forbid identifying individual parishes without permission. you don’t live where i live anyways.

 

[Cristiano]

You should hear a Scottish one!

Anyway, what others wear is their concern regardless of dress codes unless of course, you’re the one in charge of enforcing it?

Besides, there was a time when I was so broke all I had was one pair of jeans to my name and one pair of trainers. Would you have spoken to me as well?

I think that attire can become public concern when it creates scandal. The level of scandal changes from culture to culture. A flasher in front of a school is a scandal and a public concern even in a relativistic society. A Church where the Mass is being celebrated is a different cultural set and an attire that is not illegal can still be scandalous and so it is a public concern.

Reverence comes with attitude and not only with clothing. I have seen homeless people in my Church and I thought of helping them, not of pushing them on the side. I had seen people with immodest attire but self-conscious about it, I would smile to them to let them know that we all are human beings. I have seen people with in your face attitude that think that the Church has to accept their irreverent behaviors, we have to draw a line at that point.

However we must always err on the side of charity, before acting in any way. My personal take is that the priest is in charge, and I better curb my big mouth at least in those occasions. Bottom line, YES I would have probably spoken to you and I would have said Hi!

 

[Caesar]

Just a little observation,

My sister said something about long skirts and head coverings during Mass as discrimmination against women. The whole opression of women speech.

Now, I may not be a woman, but I would anyone say that tight, revealing clothes on women are not opressive?

 

[KathleenElsie]

the dress code is written on a large paper for everyone to see.
the guy could have told her about it. if she does come back,
and wears the same attire, i will talk to the priest.at least she knows now what not to wear to Mass.

i was not inappropriately talking harsh to her, i was very polite to her. she understood through the polite demonstration what i was talking about, and she shrugged it off like it was a hoot.


the pants were black, and one of those ultra thin type pants and low cut. her jacket was above her waist, and everyone could plainly see what she was wearing.

i have never been so disgusted in my life.

My family and I sit in the front pew. The reason is that some of the parents in our parish allow their girls (Young women) to dress in hip huggers that are skin tight or skirts the cover nothing.:banghead: It is very distracting. I don’t expect a BURKA but do expect modesty in dress.

 

[shirleytowers]

Maybe instead of an usher we need a bouncer or something. There could be a line outside and he could let you past the red velvet rope … or not. Only the cool Catholic people would be admitted to Club RC…how exclusive! Everyone else would just have to stand outside and listen to the singing, wishing they could come in too…

But seriously…I would not have said anything. That might be a good job for an usher, tho. However, let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

 

[Marilena]

well, i did say something. so its a little late for that.

 

[paramedicgirl]

perhaps she was part of the local "working class " and entered the church for some warmth??
But I agree…that attire is not proper for the Church!

I kind of doubt it though. Sounds like she’s part of the thoughtless generation.

 

[Karin]

I kind of doubt it though. Sounds like she’s part of the thoughtless generation.

 

[Caesar]

But seriously…I would not have said anything. That might be a good job for an usher, tho. However, let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

So we should get Our Lady to enforce the dress code at Mass then?

 

[dulcissima]

well, i did say something. so its a little late for that.

I know your intentions were good, so hopefully that came across despite the language barrier.

 

[Marilena]

I know your intentions were good, so hopefully that came across despite the language barrier.

they were good. despite my actions, it is too late to rectify it. i have to see what father says.

 

[bear06]

I wish more men would get on women for dressing like this. I’ve noticed that when discussing with women inappropriate dress, comments seem to be more respected when they come from the sex they are trying to please in the first place.

 

[lizaanne]

Wow - I’m so glad we try to keep “those types” out of our Churches, what is the world coming to where we let loose looking and poorly dressed women at the foot of the cross.

Oh wait…wasn’t St. Mary Magdalene?..

I can only pray she returns to mass after such treatment.

Yes - I totally agree that we should be properly attired for mass. But given the fact that I don’t know this woman’s personal story, I would refuse to pass judgment on a first pass. Now if I saw her there very single Sunday like that, maybe I would say something to an usher or the priest, but to approach someone personally I think is totally rude and arrogant and presumptive. Do you KNOW that she has other close in her closet that would be more pleasing to you? Do you KNOW that she has any idea of the proper attire at your Church? Do you KNOW anything about this woman you chose to demean and embarrass?

Maybe if you had taken some time to actually KNOW her and WELCOME her into your parish, and not make her feel totally unwelcome, you might understand why she came to mass that way.

I’m so embarrassed for you since you don’t seem to have the sense be embarrassed for yourself.

~Liza

 

[vz71]

I have considered going to a TLM…

But perhaps not. After all, my wife and I do not know if what we have would be considered appropriate attire.
Everytime I see some posters claim that the attire should not hold me back, I find another post (like the OP) that says otherwise.
I wouldn’t want to offend anyone. After all, their opinion is what is important there…right

IMHO, you have let yourself be robbed.

 

[maurin]

? none of my business? why shouldn’t i have politely taken her aside and told her? we have a dress code and her attire is not appropriate. it sends the wrong message and is a distraction. so yes, she needed to be told and i wont apologize for that. not at all.

Of course she was inappropriately dressed as you describe her. One wonders why people make such egregious decisions. As another Poster pointed out earlier, it is a sign of the vulgar times in which we live.

Maybe you could ask your Pastor if you can be the enforcer of the Parish’s dress code. It is not enough that this woman entered His House, was exposed to His Graces emanating like rays from the sun by His Real Presence in the Eucharist.

Metanoia now. Not a process over time, but now, darn it. Maybe even someone can politely wrap her lightly on the forehead with the dress code–if she ever shows up again, that is. Or have a long full coat at the ready–if she ever shows up again.

Not being a frequent visitor to CAF I think I shall do a search and see if you get enraged over unimportant things such as poverty, racism, homlessness, etc.

Jesus ate with the ostracized of His community. Made an Apostle of a tax collector. It also enraged the establishment of the time.

 

[Kielbasi]

Marilena, good for you for putting your foot down on this. We cannot have such disrespect at Mass- it is very sad that it happens at any Mass, but we must do all we can to keep such things away from the TLM.

Do you think its somehow “worse” for someone to be dressed inappropriately for TLM than for the mainstream mass?

Its the same Church, its the same nation and culture as well, I think its equally inappropriate regardless.

 

[Unfinished]

Marilena, good for you for putting your foot down on this. We cannot have such disrespect at Mass- it is very sad that it happens at any Mass, but we must do all we can to keep such things away from the TLM.

I concur.

In the Church, only the most BEAUTIFUL and REVERENT things are veiled. For example, the tabernacle is veiled. Veiling something is a sign of respect and “awe.” Women are being payed a compliment every time they are veiled.

It is not an oppressive act by “the man” to keep women down. In fact, if anything, we can respect women even more because the author of all life has chosen women to be his vessel for our life on this earth. Veiling women is merely a sign of our admiration of this.

When women understand how important they are to the Church, I believe they will not desire to have the masculine roles anymore. Instead, they will desire to dress like humble, modest women who know that the Lord has PERSONALLY chosen them to serve Him in that capacity.

 

[Woodstock]

I understand the desire and can completely sympathize. However, I think a different approach might have been more beneficial to her soul. If she felt welcome and invited, she might return. If she returns, she’ll hear the Gospel and see it lived. If she takes the Gospel to heart and sees it in action, she will change her attire. It takes a lot longer, but the end result is so much better.

Instead, you’ve pretty much assured that she won’t return dressed like that, or at all. You’ve protected your children, but you haven’t reached her.

Reminds me of a song my sister loves to sing.
youtube.com/watch?v=mkEteZ2OA28