Absolutely! Just like with your kids. It always helps to talk about it when you are calm. Pick a time during your cycle when you feel good and discuss stuff with your husband. If it isn’t worth talking about it then, then it isn’t something you should take out on him when you aren’t feeling well.
I swear, I haven’t been this even in my moods ever. It’s so wonderful. A bit extreme, so I don’t recommend it, but still, I’ve got to look at the bright side!
Sometimes it is not a hormone thing… people are so annoying spometimes they DESERVE to be chewed out!! Heehee!!
Exactly! This is what I always strive for and what I’m taeaching my dd. This is the lesson we teach in almost every other situation–just because you are tired, hungry, mad at something else–so I applied it to PMS also. And as I said before the suggestions in Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition madke a world of difference!This has been one amazing side effect of my hysterectomy–no PMS!!
I used to get really mad at DH and at my coworkers for little things. Things that normally I could brush off or ignore, because they weren’t a big deal and I could handle, but that time of the month would just get to me.
The best thing I found was realizing that I was being irrational, that 25 days out of the month whatever didn’t bother me, so I needed to calm down. It didn’t help how I felt, but I found I could control my reaction to situations.
**Not true, especially when you admit that you can get emotionally out of control and you lash out at him, how can he be responsible for the fight if you start it
Me, too, KCT. I’m just having a lot of trouble finding time to exercise.
Oh Pleeease! Are you seriously saying that unless I menstruate my opinion about this doesn’t count? Everyone around the female who is menstruating has to deal with this. I have two teenage daughter plus my wife and all of them seem to think that just because of this monthly occurance it gives them license to make life hell for the rest of the family. Obviously I can be annoying at times (like right now) but why would differing levels of pain be metered out as punishment for my offenses solely based upon what part to her cycle is controlling our lives at the moment. I have already started (with my DW’s approval) educating my daughters in the fact that when they are adults they cannot lay in bed and do nothing for one week out of each month so learn to deal with it. I will admit limited success with this approach so far but its either that or the entire household would shut down most of the month waiting for the limited time that its OK to be around them.
I disagree. It does not take two people to fight. If one person is set on fighting and is going to interpret everything in an antagonistic manner, it really only takes one person. If the other person is being rational but at the same time not going to say the sky is orange when they know it is blue, there can still be a fight. Even if the calm rational person doesn’t want to argue about it, they can still be bullied and yelled at and called names if they do not agree to the irrational person’s point of view.
ughhh~Never said we wanted to lay around and not function for a week…You can have 20 daughters, you still would not understand what WE are feeling emotionally and physically…yes we try our very best to function even though our bodies are out of wack for a few days, so dont act like every woman uses pms as a handicap 'cause we dont…a little understanding wouldnt be out of order ya know???
**My dad was a jerk in a lot of ways, but I’m so glad he never educated me on why I couldn’t lay in bed while hemmoraging and literally passing out from the pain, even while on vicodin.
I do not blame my husband for my PMS issues. Nor do I “lay around” unless the pain is extreme. It’s hard to explain to people who can not or do not experience it. It’s like someone gave you are drug that makes you feel foggy, out of sorts, weepy and short tempered. I am an easy going, generally mild person. It is upsetting for me to feel so out of sorts.
I am a female poster and I “go through it” too–although I admit not every month. I still say that it gives us no excuse to shout, be pouty, or otherwise ugly to the people around us. Women who have PMS should do all the can nutritionally, with exercise, etc to improve the situation. And maybe you’ll still need a ‘red tent’ day or two. But, it is better for all to say, “I’m really not feeling well, let’s have take out for dinner, I’m going to lay down” then to snap and snarl and then excuse this because “I’m PMSing.” God calls us to be loving and charitable at all times–even when we have PMS, even when our car broke down, even when we are dying of cancer. Ask Mary to help you. She was only pregnant and nursing once in her life–and while I don’t think she suffered from PMS–I’m sure she understands about womenly issues!!!Really!! The male posters have been way less than “Christian” with their responses…They really should button it up especially when they have absolutely no idea what we go through…