Pope claims condoms could make African Aids crisis worse

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I love it - the Church not counselling to live dangerously!

Try living with and being married to a man who beats you. I’m not talking about a slap (bad enough!) I’m talking about full on throttling, kicking me in the back and stomach days after an appendectomy; kicking, punching me when I was pregnant. Trying to push me down the stairs; wrapping a telephone cord around my throat and trying to choke me. Whipping me with his belt…Want to guess what the Church said when I asked for help?

I had a Cardinal (our parish priest at the time) tell me to stay with my violent, emotionally abusive and controlling husband. It was ‘for the best’ apparently. After he hit my son and put me in hospital, I used my own judgement. I’m now happily divorced and happily remarried - against the rules…but I trust in the grace of God and His wisdom.

We all live dangerously when we stop thinking for ourselves.
 
If the sexual impulse is really so irresistible, then it seems to me that it is the Catholic position that is naive. The pro-condom position assumes exactly what you assume–that people are like rabbits and have sex mindlessly and unstoppably.

Edwin
Who says it is irresistable? It is, however, powerful. just as the comulsion to eat is powerful, even when one is not hungry. We have a tendency to “oversex” the way we over eat, or enough of us do, that it does harm. Aristotle, though a pagan, had good advise in his Niomachean Ethics. All things in moderation. But we don’t like moderation all that well. Don’t sleep with stangers, don’t have sex on the firest date, don’t have unprotected sex— good advise for pagans. But they even less than we find the advise hard to follow. Get close to someone to whom we are sexual attracted and body heat tends to take over. How does does the condom we carry in our billfold get left there. How often is it carelessly used, or fumbled away by fingers made clumsy by passion.
 
I love it - the Church not counselling to live dangerously!

Try living with and being married to a man who beats you. I’m not talking about a slap (bad enough!) I’m talking about full on throttling, kicking me in the back and stomach days after an appendectomy; kicking, punching me when I was pregnant. Trying to push me down the stairs; wrapping a telephone cord around my throat and trying to choke me. Whipping me with his belt…Want to guess what the Church said when I asked for help?

I had a Cardinal (our parish priest at the time) tell me to stay with my violent, emotionally abusive and controlling husband. It was ‘for the best’ apparently. After he hit my son and put me in hospital, I used my own judgement. I’m now happily divorced and happily remarried - against the rules…but I trust in the grace of God and His wisdom.

We all live dangerously when we stop thinking for ourselves.
Well, the priest made a bad judgement, and you did also if you hadn’t called the cops on this guy.
 
Condoms will never prevent AIDS. At best, they result in risk reduction. The Pope was talking about true prevention. Why should the Church advocate about how to live dangerously while reducing your chances of contracting a deadly disease?
Comdums were never designed to prevent disease, but to prevent whores from getting pregnant.
 
Want to guess what the Church said when I asked for help?
The Church didn’t tell you to stay in the same house with your abusive husband. A misguided priest told you that. He was not speaking for the Church. The Church’s position is clear:

From the Catechism-
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Yet there are some situations in which living together becomes practically impossible for a variety of reasons. In such cases the Church permits the physical separation of the couple and their living apart. The spouses do not cease to be husband and wife before God and so are not free to contract a new union. In this difficult situation, the best solution would be, if possible, reconciliation. The Christian community is called to help these persons live out their situation in a Christian manner and in fidelity to their marriage bond which remains indissoluble.

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The separation of spouses while maintaining the marriage bond can be legitimate in certain cases provided for by canon law.
If civil divorce remains the only possible way of ensuring certain legal rights, the care of the children, or the protection of inheritance, it can be tolerated and does not constitute a moral offense.

It’s very regrettable that at a time when you and your children were very vulnerable, you got such bad advice from a priest.
 
I love it - the Church not counselling to live dangerously!

Try living with and being married to a man who beats you. I’m not talking about a slap (bad enough!) I’m talking about full on throttling, kicking me in the back and stomach days after an appendectomy; kicking, punching me when I was pregnant. Trying to push me down the stairs; wrapping a telephone cord around my throat and trying to choke me. Whipping me with his belt…Want to guess what the Church said when I asked for help?

I had a Cardinal (our parish priest at the time) tell me to stay with my violent, emotionally abusive and controlling husband. It was ‘for the best’ apparently. After he hit my son and put me in hospital, I used my own judgement. I’m now happily divorced and happily remarried - against the rules…but I trust in the grace of God and His wisdom.

We all live dangerously when we stop thinking for ourselves.
I grew up in this situation with my parents. It was the Church who helped my mom get out of the situation. And even after the divorce our local priest would always try to help my mom out financially. The church told my mom that she could get an annulment, she never did get one though, because she never wanted to get married again.

So please do not compare your one situation with the whole church. My mom’s cases is not the only one I am aware of either.
 
PS: As a faithful Catholic, I was really disappointed to hear the Pope’s statement. First, there is absolutely no statiscal evidence that promoting the use of condoms increases the instances of sex outside of marriage.
It’s not just condoms that increases sex outside the marriage, it’s contraception in general.
 
I grew up in this situation with my parents. It was the Church who helped my mom get out of the situation. And even after the divorce our local priest would always try to help my mom out financially. The church told my mom that she could get an annulment, she never did get one though, because she never wanted to get married again.

So please do not compare your one situation with the whole church. My mom’s cases is not the only one I am aware of either.
I still have the letter our priest wrote to my mom telling her (she had doubts about leaving a bad situation) that she did the right thing and she should have no regrets for the decision to leave.
 
I still have the letter our priest wrote to my mom telling her (she had doubts about leaving a bad situation) that she did the right thing and she should have no regrets for the decision to leave.
I know that there are many agencies that help women and men that find themselves in this horrific situation but I am always confident that it is the Church that does the most to help. I always find it appalling when someone blames the whole church for what one person did. The Church has always been my one shining light in a very dark and hard childhood and for that I will always be grateful to Her.
 
That is inaccurate. The rate at which the infection is spreading in DC is currently higher (at 3%) than in Africa, but the per-capita number of infected in Africa is significantly higher. 2/3 of the world’s HIV positive population lives in Africa and 3/4 of the worldwide deaths from HIV are in Africa.

The reason that the infection rate in Africa has been decreasing is multifold. First, there has been a concerted effort for several years at education, not just on condom usage, but on how HIV is spread (many Africans are without basic medical knowledge and did not understand the concept of blood-borne infection). Second, they may be reaching the maximum rate of infection (i.e. most of those likely to be infected because of the risky behavior are in fact already infected).

Whereas the reason that HIV is spreading so rapidly in DC as compared to other areas may be due to the fact that there is an increased incidence of IV drug use and a tendency among African-American males (who are 50% of the DC population) to avoid using condoms.

PS: As a faithful Catholic, I was really disappointed to hear the Pope’s statement. First, there is absolutely no statiscal evidence that promoting the use of condoms increases the instances of sex outside of marriage. Moreover, it is irresponsible to tell a couple where one is infected and the other is not that using a condom during sexual relations is a sin. In such cases, condoms absoultely are necessary.

It must also be understood that African women have a legitimate need to use condoms, both to protect themselves from being infected by their husbands since male fidelity is not a cultural norm for them, nor is it culturally acceptable for a woman to deny sex to her husband. Furthermore, the level of poverty is so high, it is imperative to allow women some control over the number of children they have.

In a perfect world, condoms would not be necessary. But in the real world, which is far from perfect, especially in the poverty and disease stricken nation of Africa, condoms are not only acceptable but necessary.
I believe a faithful Catholic would read sites such as this one instead of the stuff you are getting your ideas from.
Condom fact sheet
hli.org/condom_facts_sheet_failure.html
 
Just for the sake of argument, if a condom could be developed that absolutely prevented HIV from spreading to one’s partner (as well as absolutely prevented pregnancy), would you then advocate its use? (within the context of this discussion–the epidemic of AIDS in Africa)

***No. Christ is the Ruler of His Church. We cannot change the rules. I do not care how good an invention is…the end does not justify the means. Contraception is an evil that no amount of a good invention could ever overcome.

Remember, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. The intentions do not change the outcome…which is hell.***
 
The Magisterium teaches that artificial contraception is intrinsically evil; she does not teach that the use of condoms is intrinsically evil. The reason, I think, is that contraception imputes a disordered intention while the use of condoms does not.

Tough cases make for poor law both in jurisprudence and morality. However, such cases instruct us on the caution we should employ in proclaiming absolutes in law or morality. For instance, assume one of the married partners contracts HIV as a result of a tainted blood infusion. Marital sex has both a unitive and procreative purpose. Does our moral compass instruct us that this couple must abstain and forego both the unitive and procreative purposes of the sex act because of the health risk? Is the condom permissible if intended not as a prophylactic for conception but rather HIV?

Is there a parallel for the pill and the condom? Neither taking the pill nor use of the condom is intrinsically evil. In the case of hormonal treatment for disease, married women may take the pill and, pastorally, are encouraged to use the rhythm method to regulate their sexual activity to insure that fertilization would be naturally unlikely. Is there a parallel justification for the condom?

Peace,
O’Malley
You did everything EXCEPT answer my post. Why don’t you answer my questions?
 
In response I ask what man, if he truly loves his wife, would subject his beloved to the risk of HIV infection for either the unitive or procreative purposes of marital relations?

Out of love for my wife, I would abstain. Who on this forum would not?

Peace all.
Absolutely!!! Sex is the end all, be all of life.
What happens when a wife or husband gets sick, and they cannot have sex? The other partner is called to abstain.
Well, if one partner had HIV, they would be called to abstain.

The world cannot understand this concept…because we are being drowned in sex as if it was life.
Love of God is the most important thing…and that will lead to TRUE love of family and neighbor. It will not lead to selfish, self satisfying sensual pleasure.
 
It seems that everytime the current pope says something, he upsets a different group of people. Whether it be women, muslims, jews, gays etc. John Paul II was a lot better at making the catholic position on issues a bit more palatable for the masses IMO.

As far as this whole condom/africa controversy, Pope Benedict speaks for the church and the church is against contraception. What were they expecting? At the end of the day, pretty much all non catholics don’t take him seriously anyway, so I don’t see the point behind all the outrage and indignation.
You are wrong about PJPII. The secular world who wanted to promote immoral laws were just as horrible to him…and he stood his ground just as much as our beloved Pope Benedict XVI.
I even heard clergy members speak out against JPII. The world couldn’t wait until he died…they tried to push him into retirement. They wanted another pope because they realized that they would never get what they wanted as long as JPII was pope.
 
I think the morality must address the rights and obligations of both affected parties. Do not both husband and wife have a right to the benefits of the sexual act in marriage?

What if one’s wife does not agree to abstinence? Does the good husband impose abstinence out of love?

And, what if the infected partner is the woman? Would every man on this list deny his innocent but infected wife who desires the unitive benefits of sexual union? Is it morally permissible for the husband to impose abstinence out of selfishness – the intent to remain HIV free?

Peace,
O’Malley
Abstinance would be the answer if the couple loved each other. The infected partner would never try to pressure the other partner into taking such a chance.
Not when LOVE is involved.
 
I love it - the Church not counselling to live dangerously!

Try living with and being married to a man who beats you. I’m not talking about a slap (bad enough!) I’m talking about full on throttling, kicking me in the back and stomach days after an appendectomy; kicking, punching me when I was pregnant. Trying to push me down the stairs; wrapping a telephone cord around my throat and trying to choke me. Whipping me with his belt…Want to guess what the Church said when I asked for help?

I had a Cardinal (our parish priest at the time) tell me to stay with my violent, emotionally abusive and controlling husband. It was ‘for the best’ apparently. After he hit my son and put me in hospital, I used my own judgement. I’m now happily divorced and happily remarried - against the rules…but I trust in the grace of God and His wisdom.

We all live dangerously when we stop thinking for ourselves.
The Church didn’t advise you to stay with him. A person in the Church advised it. You could have gone to another priest or bishop and recieved completely different advice…and probably help to get out of the situation.
You are against the Church because of what one person told you. Tell me, do your children go to school? Well, in that school, do you like and agree with absolutely everything that comes out of every faculty member’s mouth? Will you put down the entire school and education system throughout the world simply because one faculty member in one school said something wrong?
No.
Yet you do so to the Roman Catholic Faith lead by Jesus Christ through His vicar, Pope Benedict XVI.
 
Cherie,

I’m always impressed by the ability to mind read and fortune tell.

Nowhere in my post or elsewhere have I said that I am ‘against the Church’.

What I said was that it is dangerous to not use one’s own judgement. Perhaps I need to clarify this for you.

Using one’s own judgement does not mean using it all the time or in all circumstances. It means listening to what has been said and then using one’s God’s given intellect, education and faith to discern whether that is wise advice or not.

I appreciate the advice to have ‘sought another opinion’. Is that what the Church teaches? If you don’t like what one priest tells you, then find another who’ll tell you what you do. That’s an interesting piece of advice. Thank you. I think you made my point for me.

Do not be misled by my stated (very recently) religion of ‘unknown’. I am rethinking my faith and religion. It is what any intelligent person does periodically. Jesus himself spent time in the wilderness and in prayer asking God what was right. Have a look at some of my other posts before you leap in with your ‘impressive’ mind reading and judgements.

BTW, because I do care about truth and misrepresentation, I have remembered this morning that the priest was a monsignor, not a cardinal. Apologies - I was posting late at night and after a long day at work. I did not intend to misrepresent the case.

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You did everything EXCEPT answer my post. Why don’t you answer my questions?
Because I am not a moral theologian. Church theologians have been praying and wrestling with God’s will on this issue for nearly three years without, as far as I know, a Magisterial proclamation. In the absence of a teaching, one must do their own soul searching, praying, seeking informed counseling and then decide on their own.

Vatican draft document would approve condoms for married couples with AIDS
Traditional ban on birth control still stands
By JOHN L. ALLEN JR
April 25, 2006

"… In an October 2004 interview with NCR, Lozano Barragàn [Cardinal Javier Lozano Barragàn, president of the Pontifical Council for Health Pastoral Care] himself took the same view [in favor of condoms where one partner in a marriage is HIV-positive].

"‘If an infected husband wants to have sex with his wife who isn’t infected, then she must defend herself by whatever means necessary,’ he said then. This position, he said, is consistent with the tenets of traditional Catholic moral theology, which teaches that acts of self-defense can extend to killing in order to not be killed.

“‘If a wife can defend herself from having sex by whatever means necessary, why not with a condom?’ he said.”
nationalcatholicreporter.org/update/bn042506.htm

Peace,
O’Malley
 
No. Christ is the Ruler of His Church. We cannot change the rules. I do not care how good an invention is…the end does not justify the means. Contraception is an evil that no amount of a good invention could ever overcome.

Remember, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. The intentions do not change the outcome…which is hell
Yet the Pill’s use is licit for non-contraceptive intentions. Why, then, could not condoms be used for non-contraceptive intentions as well?

"15. On the other hand, the Church does not consider at all illicit the use of those therapeutic means necessary to cure bodily diseases, even if a foreseeable impediment to procreation should result there from—provided such impediment is not directly intended for any motive whatsoever. (19) Humanae Vitae

(BTW, the Pill does not “cure bodily diseases” any more than a condom would cure HIV. Yet the Pill is allowed.)
 
Cherie,

I’m always impressed by the ability to mind read and fortune tell.

Nowhere in my post or elsewhere have I said that I am ‘against the Church’.

What I said was that it is dangerous to not use one’s own judgement. Perhaps I need to clarify this for you.

Using one’s own judgement does not mean using it all the time or in all circumstances. It means listening to what has been said and then using one’s God’s given intellect, education and faith to discern whether that is wise advice or not.

I appreciate the advice to have ‘sought another opinion’. Is that what the Church teaches? If you don’t like what one priest tells you, then find another who’ll tell you what you do. That’s an interesting piece of advice. Thank you. I think you made my point for me.

Do not be misled by my stated (very recently) religion of ‘unknown’. I am rethinking my faith and religion. It is what any intelligent person does periodically. Jesus himself spent time in the wilderness and in prayer asking God what was right. Have a look at some of my other posts before you leap in with your ‘impressive’ mind reading and judgements.

BTW, because I do care about truth and misrepresentation, I have remembered this morning that the priest was a monsignor, not a cardinal. Apologies - I was posting late at night and after a long day at work. I did not intend to misrepresent the case.

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I think your posts are authentically Catholic. It is just that you tend to juxtapose “thinking for yourself” against being a faithful Catholic. I would submit that anyone posting here is de facto “thinking about the issues” There is a passion here to defend Church teachings because as Catholics we recognize that the authentic Church teachings carry the weight of the promise of Christ, just as Confession carries the weight of another promise of Christ to his priesthood.

Catholicism recognizes the primacy of conscience. That conscience should be informed by prayer, Church teachings, charitable acts and humility, imho. As a Catholic, confession forces us to think and think very hard. Confession is, I dare say, the thinking man’s sacrament. You physically get on your knees after having examined your conscience and then listen to a human’s advice, albeit hopefully a faithful well trained human, and you through the promise of Christ get absolution and graces from heaven. Wonderful, but it doesn’t come without thought and effort on our part. We have the thinking man’s religion.

Given the primacy of conscience comes the responsibility of forming that conscience. Is a political figure who claims to be a Catholic, advised and taught by the Bishop that abortion is an intrinsic evil and cannot be supported yet still says he cannot “make that choice” --to murder babies in the womb-- for others culpable?

The Church has teaching authority We are called to inform our conscience in light of that authority. So if the politician’s conscience is “clear”, ie their conscience is so deleteriously malformed that they can present themselves for Communion, then their course of action after being instructed by the Bishop is to do everything, everything in their power to reform their conscience, because the ontological reality is that they have been excommunicated and if they die and finally cling to their malformed conscience in defiance of Christ, they will be separated from Christ.

A thinking man’s religion? Our very souls depend on thinking, praying and humility. Christ was a real man and divine and that promise to Peter was authentic, then the Church’s authority is the most real authority in the world.

I rambled a bit, but I wanted to talk because you struck a real positive Catholic note, but it felt muddied in my reading of it. Jesus have mercy on us.

Now the Church is really holding the line against the world. Post sexual revolution, she is the only voice out in the entire world of both reason and moral restraint rooted in human dignity (that I can see) This forum is a place to exercise our beliefs as laity, because out there it is an evil reception waiting for us if we try to spread the Truth.
 
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