I think Pope Francis’s comment was as much about the need to focus on our own interior life and that by focusing on the sins of others we distract ourselves from our own interior life - cf St Faustina’s Divine Mercy diaries paragraph 1716-1718.
I think the media are trying to turn his comments as a toleration if not approval of gay relationships and in doing so repeat the mistake of transposing a lobbying model on the church without understanding the nature of the deposit of faith.
Keeping the above point in mind, and as part of the practice of rhetorics as a means of personal understanding, I questioned whether the identification by sexual orientation (outside of the sacrament of confession and support groups) may be a barrier to overcoming that cross, but also feed into the broader legitimisation of gay relationships, in much the same way portrayal of co-habitation in media, advertising etc inculturates this practice.
I examined the letter to bishops on the pastoral care of homosexual persons for guidance on this issue:
doctrinafidei.va/documents/rc_con_cfaith_doc_19861001_homosexual-persons_en.html
I noted the following points:
i/ Paragraph 3 notes the difference between tendency and acts (paragraph 3) but whilst the former is not a sin, they are both ordered to an intrinsic moral evil:
'In the discussion which followed the publication of the Declaration, however, an overly benign interpretation was given to the homosexual condition itself, some going so far as to call it neutral, or even good. Although the particular
inclination of the homosexual person
is not a sin, it is a more or less strong tendency
ordered toward an intrinsic moral evil; and thus the inclination itself must be seen as an objective disorder."
ii/ Paragraph 15 covers what makes a good pastoral program and warns against being silent or countering church teaching for the sake of pastoral care:
“[n]o authentic pastoral programme will include organizations in which homosexual persons associate with each other without clearly stating that homosexual activity is immoral. A truly pastoral approach will appreciate the need for homosexual persons to avoid the near occasions of sin”
“we wish to make it clear that departure from the Church’s teaching, or silence about it, in an effort to provide pastoral care is neither caring nor pastoral. Only what is true can ultimately be pastoral. The neglect of the Church’s position prevents homosexual men and women from receiving the care they need and deserve.”
An authentic pastoral programme will assist homosexual persons at all levels of the spiritual life: through the sacraments, and in particular through the frequent and sincere use of the sacrament of Reconciliation, through prayer, witness, counsel and individual care. In such a way, the entire Christian community can come to recognize its own call to assist its brothers and sisters,
without deluding them or isolating them.
iii/ Paragraph 16 comments on the notion of sexual orientation identity:
'The human person, made in the image and likeness of God, can hardly be adequately described by a reductionist reference to his or her sexual orientation. Every one living on the face of the earth has personal problems and difficulties, but challenges to growth, strengths, talents and gifts as well. Today, the Church provides a badly needed context for the care of the human person when she refuses to consider the person as a “heterosexual” or a “homosexual” and insists that
every person has a fundamental Identity: the creature of God, and by grace, his child and heir to eternal life.