Progress with my "trans" child? Maybe

[GKMotley]

I like how you played that.

 

[GKMotley]

In my case, the end came 17 months before she died.

 

[whatistrue]

In my case, I corrected the dementia, every time.

In retrospect, do you think that was better for them? Or, for that matter, better for you?

 

[Rau]

To use someone’s so-called “preferred pronouns,” when not consistent with their objective biological gender, is to give in to a lie. Jesus insists we tell the TRUTH.

There are 2 truths for the person who experiences a genuine dysphoria. Their physical sex and their perception of their internal self. Neither need be hotly challenged. The question at hand is to which does the pronoun he/she refer? To agree to refer to the latter (internal self perception) is not to buy into lies, but it certainly is going to be a source of confusion in certain circumstances.

 

[whatistrue]

and the rest of my family didn’t sugar coat life for them.

Not deliberately causing pain repeatedly (even if the one experiencing it won’t remember tomorrow) is a far cry from sugar-coating.

I will expect the same treatment from my children and grandchildren once my brain starts to go.

I really don’t know what to say to that. It would at least be consistent.

 

[GKMotley]

In my case, the first signs came after the onset of functional blindness. And they announced themselves with a flourish. Downhill from there.

 

[GKMotley]

It made absolutely no difference.

 

[whatistrue]

You mean in the sense that no amount of reminding or repeating would make them remember the next time? If so, that is kind of my point. If not, then I confess that I don’t understand what you mean.

 

[GKMotley]

Have you been in such a situation. With 3 relatives, over 12+ years?

 

[whatistrue]

Even knowing that they (and you) will not actually benefit from it in any meaningful way? And yes, being told that their beloved spouse is dead will cause pain, every time they learn it.

 

[whatistrue]

Yes and no.

 

[GKMotley]

Things differ, doubtlessly.

What I mean is, one does what one must, and what one can, and what seems for the best, for as long as it takes. Particularly when, by blood and by legal paperwork, the decision lies on one’s own self alone. Bolstered by a couple of supports.

 

[GKMotley]

Or that their child is an adult, and not missing.

 

[VeryBlessed]

To the OP, I can’t imagine how painful and difficult this must be, I’m praying for you, and definitely for your daughter.

When someone I love is rushing into a marriage too quickly, I will generally say one thing to them. I usually say, “If it is right now, it will still be right in a year or two. Slow down and make sure.” Couched in a ton of love, urge her not to do anything irreversible until she gives it a whole lot of time. It is the height of wisdom to take your time and think carefully before permanently altering your life for the rest of your life. That’s why we need to proceed with caution into marriage. And in many ways, there is far more at stake in this decision than in a marriage decision.

Young women who have the surgery, and then regret it later, their stories are especially tragic.

Whatever happened to learning to become comfortable in your own skin? God help us.

 

[VanitasVanitatum]

“I will not call you Father as you are NOT a father and certainly not my father. Just because you think or feel that you are doesn’t make you right and I am not going to give in to your delusion.” Rude or just telling it like it really is?

That is a rude way to put it, but just not saying the word father would be okay.

 

[BornInMarch]

Hahaha!

Again, hahahaha

That’s not a coherent rebuttal, or even really mature.

 

[amt1985]

Ask a person who just went through either type of surgery.

Yes. Absolutely. By all means, ask me. I will gladly answer any questions, provided they are not too invasive. I’d even be willing to answer any questions privately if anyone prefers. The bottom line is, if you’ve ever wanted to ask questions of someone who’s had transgender surgery, now’s your chance! Cheers!

 

[VanitasVanitatum]

That’s not a coherent rebuttal, or even really mature.

There was laughter because detransitioning from an irreversible process is a contradiction.

 

[DeniseNY]

My father just turned 86 and while there are clearly some things that he can no longer do for himself, and his memory sometimes fails, we do our best to remember that he is a man. While we sometimes have to explain things a little bit more, or be more patient, we would never, ever treat him like a child. I can imagine how hurtful (and annoying) he would find that.

 

[DeniseNY]

And on subject of people who are transgendered, I have no desire to pile on and make life more difficult or hurtful for them by not addressing them in the manner in which they prefer to be addressed.