We must always recognize sin or we’re in deep trouble, if we don’t… Treating the sinner with great love and respect for his human dignity is also part of the Christian tradition. Christ never called on us to treat sinners with disdain.
His speech to the pharisees has been misused too many times. His speech to them has to be understood in its proper context. First of all, Christ is sinless. Therefore, he can throw the first stone. We cannot. Second, the early commentaries by St. Jerome tell us that they were engaged in a debate and that this type of speech was a common form of metaphore employed at the time, which the Pharisees and the Jews understood in a very different light than we would today, if someone were to say those things to us. They understood that these were not words meant to hurt or offend, but they were analogies that had a meaning in their culture and language. According to the Jerome Biblical Commentary, Christ was speaking to them in language that they understood and his purpose was to help them understand and to convert, not to shame them. The belief that Christ was verbally bashing the Pharisees is a very Protestant interpretation of this passage, not the Catholic interpretation.
An excellent example of someone who understood Christ’s mode of speaking and treating people in sin, from a truly Catholic perspective, is Mother Teresa of Calcutta. She too used language that was easy for people to understand, without causing them to feel that she was trying to shame them or experience condescension from her. What they experienced from her was someone who understood them and spoke their language, someone who shed light on their misunderstanding and on the error of their ways, but always in the most gentle manner, never with fury. Her lanaguage was tough, but not rough.
Jesus never spoke or treated people with fury. He treated people and spoke to them using what was easy for them to understand. We too have to learn the language of correction that is easiest for people of today to understand, leaving out the fury and the condescension. Otherwise we run the risk of becoming our brother’s judge. St. Paul warns us about that. He speaks very clearly about those who judge their brothers. He reminds us that this is not what we are to do. We are to speak the truth in a manner that is understandable. If we are not understood, we must continue to try to find a way to make ourselves understood. This takes patience and time, also a great deal of prayer. None of us gets it perfect on the first try.
I have served people who have committed horrible sins: abortion, pornography, infidelity, violence, and other things too. The list is long. My experience has been that when I speak to people in a language that they understand, while keeping my cool, being gentle, smiling, and recognizing before them that I too am capable of great sin, they begin to change. But this takes time, patience and prayer. I have never been able to break through sin and its effects in a single conversation with a person who is broken by sin.
My heart breaks for these people, because I can see Christ as he is portrayed for us in the Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary, beaten, bloody, abused, exhausted and weighed down by sin. Like my father St. Francis before me, I find that staying with them is the only way that God can work. Feeding them, providing food for their children, clothing, training them in the duties of Christian parenting, marriage and self-care is the means that Goid uses to pour the grace of conversion on people who, if spoken to uncharitably, harshly, condescendingly, would simply walk away. I for one am not willing to lose a soul, because I don’t take the time to chip away gradually and wait for the grace of God. If we are to be true brothers and sisters of life, we must be willing to invest a life-time in the sinner.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF