The best thing to do is to get a group of men on your side. Start with your husband, and let him find some other men in the parish that you all can trust. Spread the word about what’s going on. Don’t go to any parish authority, they cannot be trusted.
I pray you will at some time be able to forgive this person and find healing. Things we hold on to can rot away at us and like you said, kill us inside.
This “group of Catholics” are correct!
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Maybe there weren’t any altar girls for heterosexual priests to abuse. And if a priest had been hanging around 14 year old girls a lot, he would probably have drawn more attention to himself than a priest hanging around boys.
This is really stretching.Theo2:
Maybe there weren’t any altar girls for heterosexual priests to abuse. And if a priest had been hanging around 14 year old girls a lot, he would probably have drawn more attention to himself than a priest hanging around boys.
I didn’t say that boys weren’t being abused, and apparently in much higher numbers than girls. I was only answering Theo’s question as to why a lot fewer girls were abused. Well, one obvious reason is that priests would have had far fewer opportunities to abuse girls.Thorolfr:
This is really stretching.Theo2:
Maybe there weren’t any altar girls for heterosexual priests to abuse. And if a priest had been hanging around 14 year old girls a lot, he would probably have drawn more attention to himself than a priest hanging around boys.
These people are abusing who they are abusing. There are hard statistics.
Why do you want to dance around that and exculpate that?
geez.goout:
I didn’t say that boys weren’t being abused, and apparently in much higher numbers than girls. I was only answering Theo’s question as to why a lot fewer girls were abused. Well, one obvious reason is that priests would have had far fewer opportunities to abuse girls.Thorolfr:
This is really stretching.Theo2:
Maybe there weren’t any altar girls for heterosexual priests to abuse. And if a priest had been hanging around 14 year old girls a lot, he would probably have drawn more attention to himself than a priest hanging around boys.
These people are abusing who they are abusing. There are hard statistics.
Why do you want to dance around that and exculpate that?
No, but there are priests who are not gay men. Or at least I assume that that is the case. And some of the priests who are not gay were involved in abusing female children and adolescents. And if they had had easy access to girls, the number of girls abused would probably have been higher.
They really don’t. How many priests like “Uncle Ted” could have easily invited a few nuns to go to a beach house with them and maybe share a bed together. And most of the men I know personally who were abused as children were altar boys (there weren’t any altar girls back then). One person I know was abused by a priest who was the principal of his Catholic school starting when he was 14. The principal would take him off campus with him to his house during school hours and none of the staff at the school thought anything about it. But I think that if the principal had been taking a student home with him who was a 14 year old girl, it would have drawn more scrutiny.
Boggles my mind.goout:
No, but there are priests who are not gay men. Or at least I assume that that is the case. And some of the priests who are not gay were involved in abusing female children and adolescents. And if they had had easy access to girls, the number of girls abused would probably have been higher.
Let me tell you, your line of thinking is what allows things like to go on and on. Because you don’t deal with the simple realities. And if don’t address reality, you cannot solve problems.goout:
They really don’t. How many priests like “Uncle Ted” could have easily invited a few nuns to go to a beach house with them and maybe share a bed together. And most of the men I know personally who were abused as children were altar boys (there weren’t any altar girls back then). One person I know was abused by a priest who was the principal of his Catholic school starting when he was 14. The principal would take him off campus with him to his house during school hours and none of the staff at the school thought anything about it. But I think that if the principal had been taking a student home with him who was a 14 year old girl, it would have drawn more scrutiny.
It’s someone’s anonymous comment left in a thread at The American Conservative. Maybe that was his experience of the gay community based on the kinds of people he hung around with. But gay men and the gay community are not some sort of uniform and monolithic entity. I know plenty of gay men who never use drugs, don’t engage in anonymous sex, etc. You can’t say things like, “Look at the sexual choices gay men (collectively speaking) make…”. They don’t make choices collectivity, they make them individually. People don’t usually go around saying things like, “Look at the sexual choices straight men (collectively speaking) make…” as if all straight men are the same sexually.