Shaking Hands

[wifeandmomoftwo]

“Love thy neighbor” in this little way.

Yup and some of us love our neighbor by just saying Peace be with you…it is the same love just no touching

 

[wifeandmomoftwo]

Nope, I don’t force anyone to shake my hand because I don’t like this gesture either. Infact, I am forced because everyone in the pew offers their hands to me and out of courtesy I shake their hands. But, I don’t force anybody to do this.

OK.
If I go to a new church for mass where they feel the need to touch each other, they usually get the idea when I turn to them with my hands clasped in front of me or at times behind my back that I have not desire to shake hands but just verbally offer a sign of peace

 

[Al_Masetti]

I was told decades ago, that the hand holding was “horizontal prayer”.

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[Maureen_Fiore]

OK.
If I go to a new church for mass where they feel the need to touch each other, they usually get the idea when I turn to them with my hands clasped in front of me or at times behind my back that I have not desire to shake hands but just verbally offer a sign of peace

That would work for me as well. I don’t need to shake anyone hands if I can verbally offer a “peace be with you”. At times I do this too.

 

[water]

Yup and some of us love our neighbor by just saying Peace be with you…it is the same love just no touching

I can’t disagree with that. But why people make a big deal out of hand shaking or not hand shaking? Why some said “it is between me and God”?

 

[Linnyo]

OK.
If I go to a new church for mass where they feel the need to touch each other, they usually get the idea when I turn to them with my hands clasped in front of me or at times behind my back that I have not desire to shake hands but just verbally offer a sign of peace

How rude!

I think that many of you are forgetting the purpose of Mass. We are there because God has shown His love by offering His Son as a sacrifice. We take the Mass from what Jesus said at the Last Supper. At the Last Supper, Jesus was spending quality time getting close to His disciples and preparing them for life after His crucifiction. They were there TOGETHER with Christ - united! This was social therefore the Mass should also be social. It should be a getting together of all those who love Our Lord. These people who you are ‘too disgusted’ to touch are your brothers and sisters in Christ! Take a good look at yourselves! Jesus would never have been ‘too concerned with germs’ to spend time with the lepers. He would never have been so self-absorbed to think that other people were not relevant to His relationship with the Father. I am unimpressed by a lot of people here- disappointed. You are so self absorbed that you thing that you only go to Mass for yourselves and thet you need not be united to your brothers and sisters. A handshake is what it is - a small token, an acknowledgement that we are all there together - united as the disciples were with Jesus. Don’t forget!

 

[water]

Simple…if I have my hands clasped in front of me …I am not willing to shake your hands
If I turn and say to you “PBWY” and clasp my hands in front of me I really dont want you to shake my hand.

Yes, I see something similar to that. People either don’t turn their head to the right, left, and behind. Others bound their head praying at the moment. I get their point and don’t bother except trying to say in my mind"peace be with them".

 

[wifeandmomoftwo]

. But why people make a big deal out of hand shaking or not hand shaking?

I personally, make a big deal outta it because I don’t like it and it is not needed just to do it because it makes someone feel good is not justification for me!

 

[water]

I personally, make a big deal outta it because I don’t like it and it is not needed just to do it because it makes someone feel good is not justification for me!

I understand your prefernce, others might need that handshake along with the intention of the handshake - it is not just about making someone feel good.

 

[wifeandmomoftwo]

How rude!

How ignorant to think that everyone wants to be touched or anything else

I think that many of you are forgetting the purpose of Mass. We are there because God has shown His love by offering His Son as a sacrifice.

DOES THAT MANDATE THAT I HOLD HANDS WITH PEOPLE OR TOUCH THEM? NOPE!

We take the Mass from what Jesus said at the Last Supper. At the Last Supper, Jesus was spending quality time getting close to His disciples and preparing them for life after His crucifiction.

SO QUALITY TIME TO YOU IS HAND HOLDING AND SHAKING HANDS

They were there TOGETHER with Christ - united! This was social therefore the Mass should also be social. It should be a getting together of all those who love Our Lord.

I AM TOGETHER WITH THOSE THAT LOVE OUR LORD…I JUST DONT FEEL THE NEED OR CALLING TO TOUCH THEM.
I DONT THINK THERE IS ANY CHURCH DOCUMENT THAT SAYS I HAVE TO EITHER.

These people who you are ‘too disgusted’ to touch are your brothers and sisters in Christ! Take a good look at yourselves! Jesus would never have been ‘too concerned with germs’ to spend time with the lepers. He would never have been so self-absorbed to think that other people were not relevant to His relationship with the Father.

WELL I FOR ONE NEVER CLAIMED TO BE JESUS.

I am unimpressed by a lot of people here- disappointed. You are so self absorbed that you thing that you only go to Mass for yourselves and thet you need not be united to your brothers and sisters. A handshake is what it is - a small token, an acknowledgement that we are all there together - united as the disciples were with Jesus. Don’t forget!

I FOR ONE AM DISAPPOINTED TOO.
I am not self absorbed but i do not need to touch, hug or shake hands to be united with my brothers and sisters in Christ.

You wanna shake hands or hold hands or whatever…knock yourself out but dont be insulted or hurt when not everyone wants to get touchy feely with ya at mass!

 

[water]

now, I believe we all need a handshake before Admin gets to work here.

 

[wifeandmomoftwo]

I understand your prefernce, others might need that handshake along with the intention of the handshake - it is not just about making someone feel good.

you sure about that? I do recall at least one poster stating otherwise

 

[BeeSweet]

We share the sign of peace only on Christmas and Easter, and that’s nice. I chose this parish because we do not share the sign of peace at every single mass. I’m usually alone, and I really dislike standing there waiting for people to finish up with their families and friends and then turn to take pity on the lone woman near them. And I never know how many people to turn to, and other such nonsense. It’s always been a major distraction for me. On special occasions it’s nice.

 

[Linnyo]

How ignorant to think that everyone wants to be touched or anything else

DOES THAT MANDATE THAT I HOLD HANDS WITH PEOPLE OR TOUCH THEM? NOPE!

SO QUALITY TIME TO YOU IS HAND HOLDING AND SHAKING HANDS

I AM TOGETHER WITH THOSE THAT LOVE OUR LORD…I JUST DONT FEEL THE NEED OR CALLING TO TOUCH THEM.
I DONT THINK THERE IS ANY CHURCH DOCUMENT THAT SAYS I HAVE TO EITHER.

WELL I FOR ONE NEVER CLAIMED TO BE JESUS.

I FOR ONE AM DISAPPOINTED TOO.
I am not self absorbed but i do not need to touch, hug or shake hands to be united with my brothers and sisters in Christ.

You wanna shake hands or hold hands or whatever…knock yourself out but dont be insulted or hurt when not everyone wants to get touchy feely with ya at mass!

Don’t shout at me - I thought you weren’t one to show your emotions!

 

[water]

you sure about that? I do recall at least one poster stating otherwise

the keyword is “just”. I believe that when we do a hand shake, we share the sign of peace. Because of this intention, I feel good that someone wants to wish and share that peace with me. For this, I do the same with others.

 

[water]

I’m usually alone, and I really dislike standing there waiting for people to finish up with their families and friends and then turn to take pity on the lone woman near them.

you might want to take this thought of feeling pity out. It won’t help you. For me, I don’t feel pity for anyone for the handshake. Feeling pity for someone to do this is not a true meaning of sharing peace.

 

[BeeSweet]

you might want to take this thought of feeling pity out. It won’t help you. For me, I don’t feel pity for anyone for the handshake. Feeling pity for someone to do this is not a true meaning of sharing peace.

It is pity, whether I feel that way or not. Pity is not as negative a word as it’s made out to be. I am pitied because I have to wait for people to first share the sign of peace with the people they genuinely care for and know well, then they turn to those whom they don’t know like me standing alone. Tell me water, when you attend mass with someone you know, do you share with them first, or the stranger who is standing alone near you? It’s a matter of being second best in a way.

Honestly, it feels like junior high school gym class when they paired up girls and boys who didn’t know each other and taught us how to two step around the gym floor. The dancing and the music are nice, but you totally miss the point when it’s forced.

 

[Linnyo]

I often shake strangers hands first Bee because I can share the peace with my family any time. I can’t say I have ever felt pity for people who are alone though! I suspect that is you mindreading wrongly. Please don’t be offended - I often presume to know what others are thinking and get it totally wrong.

It is pity, whether I feel that way or not. Pity is not as negative a word as it’s made out to be. I am pitied because I have to wait for people to first share the sign of peace with the people they genuinely care for and know well, then they turn to those whom they don’t know like me standing alone. Tell me water, when you attend mass with someone you know, do you share with them first, or the stranger who is standing alone near you? It’s a matter of being second best in a way.

Honestly, it feels like junior high school gym class when they paired up girls and boys who didn’t know each other and taught us how to two step around the gym floor. The dancing and the music are nice, but you totally miss the point when it’s forced.

 

[wifeandmomoftwo]

Don’t shout at me - I thought you weren’t one to show your emotions!

I noticed 1/2 way through that i was typing in caps…not yelling just to lazy to unlock the caps.
So dont take it personally linnyo.

So shaking hands is an emotion now???

 

[Maureen_Fiore]

It is pity, whether I feel that way or not. Pity is not as negative a word as it’s made out to be. I am pitied because I have to wait for people to first share the sign of peace with the people they genuinely care for and know well, then they turn to those whom they don’t know like me standing alone. Tell me water, when you attend mass with someone you know, do you share with them first, or the stranger who is standing alone near you? It’s a matter of being second best in a way.

Honestly, it feels like junior high school gym class when they paired up girls and boys who didn’t know each other and taught us how to two step around the gym floor. The dancing and the music are nice, but you totally miss the point when it’s forced.

Exactly, it feels ackward when you are by yourself and no one offers their hand. That is why they should just stop it altogether. The priest starts it off by saying, “now lets offer each one the sign of peace”. Which he should just leave it out altogether. IMHO.