Be 16 years old, second oldest of 7 other brothers and sisters with no soup kitch or anything. Grow up in Leon, Oklahoma in the 1950’s and then let me know if it was anything like you have experienced. Where not only you, but your baby brother and sisters meals are your responsibility on top of your education.
Everyone goes through hard times, this is no competition of who did what. But when you start throwing the word “we” around as in “we” must do this “we” must not allow this. Then you need to take a good hard look in the mirror. You volunteer, you donate. Don’t worry about what I have to do or try and force me to do anything. I will take good care of my own and if fortunate enough help to take care of others.
BTW, there are kids around here to this day who have been raised in a similar means. Not quite as tough, but with only one parent and working almost full time hours along with schooling. When it’s possible the locals hire them to do whatever little jobs they can come up with to help them along. They also hunt and fish for their own food sometimes.