Should I say something about my weird priest encounter?

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I just checked the Catechism. All Catholics, even priests, are permitted to sit in hot tubs.

Now, sneaking in to a hotel facility without permission is not what I would call Christ-like, however, I doubt it rises to the level of grave sin.
 
I would not report this now. What would be the possible purpose of this and that someone is sitting in a hot tub does not imply a sexual relationshipdid occur.

Just my two cents worth.
 
Since when did sitting in a hot tub become a crime?

Seriously.
Who’s saying it is?

This is just an observation about an odd encounter with a priest. Who was sitting in a hot tub, late at night, with a young guy…at an interstate motel. Who got up and left awkwardly/quickly when we saw him. And who now works at the local high school.
 
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If you don’t believe it is a crime why report it? I assume your implications is there was POSSIBLY inappropriate with this encounter to be concerned about his interaction with students grade 8 to 12?

If not this then what is the concern?

I am sorry if I misinterpreted your concern that this priest was doing something wrong
 
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I just checked the Catechism. All Catholics, even priests, are permitted to sit in hot tubs.

Now, sneaking in to a hotel facility without permission is not what I would call Christ-like, however, I doubt it rises to the level of grave sin.
That’s also a good point. I used to wonder why he never said anything to us…given we had just been caught sneaking into a motel. We lived in the Newman center with him and he never brought it up.
 
We cannot go back in time.

Maybe he had permission and assumed you did as well?
 
I think this is your decision to make. Those of us who aren’t you and weren’t there shouldn’t be telling you what to do.
This is the bottom line. You have to decide this for yourself. I can see how this could be an innocent misunderstanding. And I can also see how it might not be. But I’m sure not in a position to ascertain that based on the posts you made.

You didn’t witness something that was unmistakably clear he was doing something wrong. But it is something that could be suspicious.
 
Obviously all ages of consent are going to be more or less arbitrary. Likewise the ages at which we can vote, hold public office, service in the armed forces, drive a car, buy alcohol, etc. All legislators can do is take an average and then err on the side of caution or recklessness. The aim must always be to do what is best for most of the people most of the time.

But I think that you are in general looking at this from the wrong perspective. If the priest is now working at a high school he holds a position of trust with regard to the students of that school. In many jurisdictions there is a higher age of consent where a position of trust is involved. In the UK, for example, the age of consent is 16, but is raised to 18 where there is a position of trust. Most commonly this law prevents teachers from having sex with students aged 16 or 17.

We really don’t know enough about this situation, but let us suppose that this priest is a homosexual or bisexual man who from time to time has enjoyed sexual relations with adult males where no position of trust is involved. That is a problem for the Church because he is supposed to be celibate and homosexual acts are proscribed for all Catholics, but what he is doing is not illegal and does not suggest sexual perversion caused by mental disorder such as paedophilia. As soon as he takes up a position at a high school, however, he is required to follow a different code of ethics, which may or may not also have the force of law. There is no evidence that he is a sexual predator who seeks out forbidden relations with younger people where a position of trust is involved. I would not, therefore, leap to the conclusion that he represents any risk to children.

If you look back at the OP, the reason for the question being raised right now is precisely because the priest has taken up a position at a high school. What I am saying is that there is absolutely no reason to think that a gay or bisexual man is any more likely than anybody else to commit sexual offences against young people where a position of trust is involved.

I used to know an Anglican priest who quite openly carried on a relationship with a much younger man (early 20s I’d guess). At the same time he was doing a job in which he was responsible for the pastoral care of boys aged between around 7 and 15. I am absolutely certain that he did not represent any risk to those boys. Why? Because he was a gay man who had relationships with other gay men and had no sexual interest in children or desire to pursue sexual relationships where a position of trust was involved. At worst, it may have been an issue for his bishop, since Anglican clergy are not supposed to have same-sex relationships.
 
Is such a priest breaking his vows and corrupting a young person? If the answer is yes, then clearly it is reportable. It doesn’t matter whether that young person is legally an adult. “Consenting adults” is not relevant to Catholic norms AT ALL. Consent is relevant, but it is only one relevant thing. Consent is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for nonabusive, noncorrupting sexual conduct, from a Catholic perspective.

Or to rephrase my point: being a priest is always a position of trust.
 
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Being a priest is a position of trust, just as being a doctor, a lawyer, or a professor is a position of trust. But if I begin a sexual relationship with my doctor, lawyer, or professor I do not expect that to be reported to the practice manager, the senior partner, or the vice-chancellor. It may be unethical, but members of the public do not need to police ethics based on nothing more than suspicion. If the priest was having a homosexual relationship that was wrong, just as it would be wrong if a priest were having a heterosexual relationship, which could be more serious, as there is the risk that the woman will become pregnant, which opens up all sorts of new possibilities for people getting hurt.

The issues seem to be (a) how compelling is the evidence? and (b) how closely involved is the person lodging the complaint? If I caught my own parish priest in flagrante delicto with a sexual partner or either sex I suppose I’d consider it not unreasonable to tell the bishop, as my evidence would be certain and the impact on the parish would be clear. But in this case the OP has no particular relationship with the priest and his only evidence is suspicion. If I thought that five years ago I may have seen a priest slip his arm around a woman’s waist in the supermarket I would not consider that it was my place to police his morals by reporting him to the bishop. For one thing, a perfectly innocent explanation would be possible.

You are still overlooking the basic fact that the precise reason for the OP’s post here is that the priest has now got a job at a high school. If the priest were now working for the curia in Rome or working as a chaplain in a prison or the armed forces the OP would not be posting here. The reason he is posting here is because he is worried that the priest is a danger to children: ‘Right now he is a priest assigned to a local catholic school which is 8-12 grade. … given the news recently, I should probably let someone know, right?’ All I am trying to assure the OP of is that the possibility that this priest may or may not have had a homosexual relationship with an adult man some time ago has no bearing whatsoever on his safety working with children in a school. There is no evidence at all that homosexuals are more likely to abuse children.

In the final analysis, what this comes down to is nothing to do with child protection, since there is no reason to think that the man is a risk. The issue is basically, if we suspect that a priest may have had a homosexual relationship, do we have to tell the bishop? Sure, if you have solid evidence of an ongoing or recent relationship that is causing pastoral issues, go ahead and report it. But if it’s a mere suspicion of something that may or may not have happened years ago and doesn’t seem to have impacted anyone, it’s not our place to go potentially ruining people’s lives. If the priest is corrupting people and causing a scandal somebody in his new ministry will be sure to highlight this to the bishop. If it doesn’t involve criminality or a risk to vulnerable people I for one do not want to become the parish policeman reporting people’s sins to the authorities.
 
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I’ve got an idea! What if you popped over to the high school and asked him about it? 🤣
 
Being a priest is a position of trust, just as being a doctor, a lawyer, or a professor is a position of trust. But if I begin a sexual relationship with my doctor, lawyer, or professor I do not expect that to be reported to the practice manager, the senior partner, or the vice-chancellor.
I would expect it to be reported, for sure. I am a professor. If I have a sexual relationship with a student, you better bet my department chair ought to know!
If the priest was having a homosexual relationship that was wrong, just as it would be wrong if a priest were having a heterosexual relationship, which could be more serious, as there is the risk that the woman will become pregnant, which opens up all sorts of new possibilities for people getting hurt.
There are plenty of opportunities for people to get hurt in a homosexual relationship, too – after all, human beings have feelings. And things are not wrong simply to the degree that they cause harm. Cannibalism is a terrible sin, even though (if the cannibalized person is already dead) it’s not really harming anyone except the sinner.
All I am trying to assure the OP of is that the possibility that this priest may or may not have had a homosexual relationship with an adult man some time ago has no bearing whatsoever on his safety working with children in a school.
Do you know the age of the OP when the situation happened? I thought it was probably around 18. Many high schoolers are around 18.

Look, do I think that the priest should be drawn and quartered? Heck, no! Do I even think he should be removed from the high school? No. But I think his superiors might deserve to know this. In any rational world, it would NOT lead to terrible consequences for the priest (absent other evidence), but it would lead to better pastoral care for the priest.

If Bartholomew saw the Apostle Paul flirting with a cute co-ed in the bath, do you seriously think that he wouldn’t tell Peter about it?
…it’s not our place to go potentially ruining people’s lives…
If bishops would ruin a priest’s life over this, then we have huge problems with our hierarchy.
 
If Bartholomew saw the Apostle Paul flirting with a cute co-ed in the bath, do you seriously think that he wouldn’t tell Peter about it?
So, we have gone from a priest sitting in a hot-tub with another male to flirting with a cute co-ed in the bath? Seriously?

Extra prayers for every priest who faces such rash judgement.
 
So, we have gone from a priest sitting in a hot-tub with another male to flirting with a cute co-ed in the bath? Seriously?
The priest in this situation jumped up and acted ashamed, giving no explanation. That’s pretty suspicious.

Also, I was talking about the Roman baths, not a private bath. It’s a big room with lots of people, very similar to a bunch of modern hot tubs.
 
The only difference I see is the phrase “acted ashamed”. Elsewhere, however, the OP says that the priest left “awkwardly”. I don’t think “acted ashamed” is really a stretch.
 
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Well wouldn’t it be better to say something to the priest first? Maybe OP could just have a chat with the priest, and see if it comes up. Otherwise I believe chancery offices have a bunch of paperwork and stuff for any accusation. Why shouldn’t he talk to the priest about it first?
 
Is there any graceful way to sit down with a priest and say, “I saw you in a hot tub with a young guy and then you got up and left right away and it made me nervous especially since you now work in a high school”?
That’s right up there with “So when did you stop beating your wife?”
 
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Absolutely say something. Call the chancery. This incident in and of itself will not result in discipline, but it could be the piece of the puzzle that will unmask this guy and keep him from doing further harm. Maybe the guy reported it and the priest denied it. Your testimony could tip the balance in the kids favor.
 
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