Here’s a question worth asking. Is it the punishment itself? Or it is being raised by the kinds of parents who would punish you this way?
Talking about rose-colored glasses, I think some people here have manure-colored glasses.
Good for you. I’m glad your kid was perfect. Mine wasn’t. A lot of teenagers try a lot of stuff. He was in rebellion at the time. He was in fine fettle, just being a punk, having an attitude, etc. I was not going to sit there and analyze what had happened with him, I didn’t and don’t really care. That kind of thing is out of bounds, WAY out of bounds. He had gotten away with a lot since my husband was traveling and was too tired and stressed to deal with this son’s garbage when he was home. Looking back, I think more discipline when he started the attitude would have solved a lot, but in a moment of nastiness and rebellion, I believe the punk teenager needs to be brought up short. If a slap is warranted, then a slap it shall be. He expects to call his mom a b*tch and get away with it? He was testing his power. He scowled the rest of the afternoon. So what.
You’re right, the Baby Boomers have caused so much of what is wrong with the world. It makes me very
to be considered part of that mess…My father and mother both grew up in the Depression, though, so I grew up with another attitude about life. No entitlements, no handouts, you make your own way, you make it, mend it, or make do. I have one aunt who is 97 who still grows a garden. My uncle was a waist gunner on a B-17 in WWII and no one even really knew what he did until he finally retired and started looking up the members of his unit on line. Another uncle on my mom’s side was taken as a German POW. Those men had HONOR and so do our warriors today, so please don’t disparage them (I know you aren’t).(red emphasis mine)Good for you. I’m glad your kid was perfect. Mine wasn’t. A lot of teenagers try a lot of stuff. He was in rebellion at the time. He was in fine fettle, just being a punk, having an attitude, etc. I was not going to sit there and analyze what had happened with him, I didn’t and don’t really care. That kind of thing is out of bounds, WAY out of bounds. He had gotten away with a lot since my husband was traveling and was too tired and stressed to deal with this son’s garbage when he was home. Looking back, I think more discipline when he started the attitude would have solved a lot, but in a moment of nastiness and rebellion, I believe the punk teenager needs to be brought up short. If a slap is warranted, then a slap it shall be. He expects to call his mom a b*tch and get away with it? He was testing his power. He scowled the rest of the afternoon. So what.
) How can you NOT have a “civilized conversation” with your son who just called you a b*tch, and ask him what kind of distress and frustration made the poor guy call you that? Don’t you know everything must be explained and over-analyzed? 
To make matters worse, God also refused to take responsibility for “making” Adam and Eve disobey - he just punished them as if it was their fault that they rebelled, he threw them out of the Garden! 
Godbless your Aunts and Uncles. My uncles were in WWII (great uncles but they were uncles to me cause I had no uncles) one served in the Army…artillery. The other was a combat engineer who saw enough he never spoke much about it and has just recently passed and one who served in the Navy in the Pacific who received a horrible scar during an appendectomy when his ship was hit by a Kamikaze and his doctors had to patch him up in pitch black…and then there was uncle Vinny on my dad’s side who was awarded the Legion of Merit posthumously for his actions on Omaha Beach…My grandfather couldn’t serve because he was classified 4-F due to his flat feet…but he still was a better man than me and so was my dad who served in Korea.You’re right, the Baby Boomers have caused so much of what is wrong with the world. It makes me very
But the sooner the Baby Boomer generation finally dies off, the better off the rest of you will be. Sorry for the ruination.
Oh, yeah…I also got spanked. Not that often, but when I did, I remembered not to do what I’d done ever again.
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A city next to mine has a street downtown, “Broad Street” that is a split street with trees lined up in the middle.
My son is far from perfect. I still don’t spank him.Good for you. I’m glad your kid was perfect. Mine wasn’t. A lot of teenagers try a lot of stuff. He was in rebellion at the time. He was in fine fettle, just being a punk, having an attitude, etc. I was not going to sit there and analyze what had happened with him, I didn’t and don’t really care. That kind of thing is out of bounds, WAY out of bounds. He had gotten away with a lot since my husband was traveling and was too tired and stressed to deal with this son’s garbage when he was home. Looking back, I think more discipline when he started the attitude would have solved a lot, but in a moment of nastiness and rebellion, I believe the punk teenager needs to be brought up short. If a slap is warranted, then a slap it shall be. He expects to call his mom a b*tch and get away with it? He was testing his power. He scowled the rest of the afternoon. So what.
That he really didn’t do anything about it. So slapping wasn’t a last resort.Well thankfully not all of America was the South.
Agreed.
Hi, my name is Bruce. Glad to meet you.My son is far from perfect. I still don’t spank him.
My point is, parents that spank claim it is not hitting, or slapping or beating. It is spanking. But then they do something like you said, they slap. Or they claim it is used as a last resort. That they have tried every other option. But you admit that your husband was letting your son get away with a lot.
So, again, my point is, spanking leads to hitting. And once you spank, it rarely is used as a last resort. I am sure there are parents out there that do only spank on the butt, and only after nothing else has worked. But I have never met one
If you want to spank/hit/slap you child. Fine. But don’t claim that spanking isn’t hitting or that you only ever use it as a last resort.
Oh, and I was spanked too. And slapped. And that is why I will never do it.
You are a name on a forum. You could be anyone.Hi, my name is Bruce. Glad to meet you.
Oh yes because racism has only been an issue in the South
A last resort…Hmmmm…No, I wouldn’t say it is a last resort. That is a term that comes from people who don’t understand spanking. It’s one of many disciplinary techniques, that vary with each child. With some children, you need little more than a fierce expression. With others, they take it to the limit each and every time, or at least plenty of times. Our first son was in the first category. I spanked him once, after he crossed a street without me. One spanking his entire childhood. I could give him “the look” and he would dissolve into tears. A mom’s dream, really. He wanted to do the right thing by nature.My son is far from perfect. I still don’t spank him.
My point is, parents that spank claim it is not hitting, or slapping or beating. It is spanking. But then they do something like you said, they slap. Or they claim it is used as a last resort. That they have tried every other option. But you admit that your husband was letting your son get away with a lot.
So, again, my point is, spanking leads to hitting. And once you spank, it rarely is used as a last resort. I am sure there are parents out there that do only spank on the butt, and only after nothing else has worked. But I have never met one.
If you want to spank/hit/slap you child. Fine. But don’t claim that spanking isn’t hitting or that you only ever use it as a last resort.
Oh, and I was spanked too. And slapped. And that is why I will never do it.
If all this Dr. Spock garbage or reassuring your child, and “talking” with them, and giving them praise and never spanking them, and telling them “Everyone’s a winner!”
…Then why are our children more drug-using, porn-obsessed, mentally unstable, slothful, suicidal and socially defecient than all the previous generations who were all spanked.
…I don’t know, I think grandpa’s generation was raised better than today’s kids who are raised to be “little Nero’s” because their parents put the world around them.
Just my opinion as a childless father and wifeless husband.
I’m sorry, He Man. Maybe you missed these posts.
I do find it interesting that you are making the issue we are discussing about yourself instead of the larger issues in society at large the rest of us are talking about.
And smacked.