I figured someone would trot out the “you aren’t Catholic” mantra eventually, but guess what. Catholics are failing miserably at ministering to LGBT people as the Church has acknowledged many times and the PEW survey confirms. If the Church wants insight into how to effectively minister to LGBT people then it should listen to LGBT people and come up with a better strategy. Participating in Pride events produces results, as the parishioners at St. Andrews have noted.
That might be true if the event were about discussion of something. It is, rather, about, as is stated rather clearly, pride. A parade about gay pride is not a “let’s work out our differences” kind of event. It’s a ‘we’re proud of what we do’ event. And when it comes to differences between the Catholic Church and the LGBT community (sexually participatory LGBT community, I should say; to distinguish the person from the act, so to speak), the implied attitude of the ‘pride parade’ would then be ‘we’re right, you’re wrong.’
Now, there are undisputed overlaps between the two sides. On issues such as, for example violence against LGBT people, bullying, etc., Catholics are to oppose such things in themselves (violence and bullying) and so there is a shared interest. But to participate in a gay pride event, an advocacy event, is implicitly to assent to the belief underlying the event. If one does not want to to assent to the belief, for example, that homosexual sexual behavior is moral, then he could not, in good conscience participate in such an event.
When it comes to evangelizing to the LGBT community, there is only so much one can do. It’s not simply a question of ‘getting people into the ranks.’ It’s not a social club, remember, it is a set of beliefs, and members believe they are in the right, obviously, as if they though their beliefs were wrong, they wouldn’t hold them. In proselytizing to, say, Muslims, Catholics can voice opposition to discriminatory violence against Muslims, seek peace between Catholic and Muslim communities, encourage cultural openness by having masses in Arabic to encourage members of the Arab Muslim population to listen, and even note characteristics shared by Catholicism and Islam as a starting point for discussion. But the Catholic Church cannot and would not begin changing some of its philosophical and moral positions to those peculiar to Islam simply to make it easier for Muslims to call themselves Catholic. The same can be said of the LGBT community. People who identify themselves with their sexuality in this movement cannot really expect a great concession from the church. It asks them to give up something. One side may call it repression, the other sacrifice, or asceticism. At that disagreement, there’s really nothing more to be done. One can “agree to disagree” and part ways. But at some point there’s a bridge that simply cannot be crossed without ceasing to be what it is.