St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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I started today. I’ve never done a Novena before so am looking forward to it.🙂
 
Wow. Look how the Holy Spirit moves us. St. Teresa of Avila highly recommended St. Joseph. This one is easy mnmom. I know you can do it. I hope someone else will join in and start tomorrow. I can’t wait to see all the completed day 9’s in a row. I am on day 3.
 
I’m not much of a novena person but why not? I just prayed it the prayer for the first time, even though it’s not morning!
 
If hubby is not willing to hire a housekeeper and cook, than he and you will need to abstain during fertile times or just quit complaining.

I had twins. That is a spacing of ONE minute. Now there was a lot of involuntary abstinence due to the nature of my life at that time. I slept only 3 hours in a 24 hour period and had no help. There was no question about the need for abstinence. He and I had no time. I survived and for the next pregnancy, I practiced ecological breastfeeding to the hilt. Even with that some may still need to abstain, too. It is fine to do so. There is nothing wrong with abstinence for the sake of sanity and sleep.
This time with 4 or 5 under the age of 6 will also pass. Hubby just has to be loving and realize that the babies have to be cared for and in order to do that mommy needs some rest on a regular basis.
 
😦 Hi all. I am in serious need of a miracle for DH and me. DH does not want to leave other “woman” (platonic so he says), but is very secretive and controlling with me and the kids. This has been ongoing for years and years. With the “other woman” about 5 years now. I’ve prayed and prayed, had family members prayed and I cannot take the verbal abuse nor can my daughter. My son tries to keep the family together, which is not his job. I am ready to file separation papers asap. I told DH this and he said : whatever. This leads me to believe he doesn’t care. This has always been his response to anything of importance. I hope that God will forgive me for doing this.

😦 mom4truth
 
Mom4Truth

I don’t know what to tell you in this situation except to get in contact with a priest or spiritual director who can help you sort out everything. Sometimes God is asking us to stay the course but some times he is gently nudging you to do what is best for you and your family which may be filing for legal separation. I am in adifficult situation also (not another woman) but physical as well as mental illness issues with my spouse and some days are better than others. I will be praying for you.
 
mom4truth said:
😦 Hi all. I am in serious need of a miracle for DH and me. DH does not want to leave other “woman” (platonic so he says), but is very secretive and controlling with me and the kids. This has been ongoing for years and years. With the “other woman” about 5 years now. I’ve prayed and prayed, had family members prayed and I cannot take the verbal abuse nor can my daughter. My son tries to keep the family together, which is not his job. I am ready to file separation papers asap. I told DH this and he said : whatever. This leads me to believe he doesn’t care. This has always been his response to anything of importance. I hope that God will forgive me for doing this.

😦 mom4truth
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Sorry to hear what you are going through. I am praying for you and your marriage. I too agree you should talk to a priest.

God Bless you.
 
Hi all. I have talked to many priests regarding DH about his relationships with other women and they have all said directly to him he should stop. We have been to marriage counseling - same thing. He said (DH) they don’t know what they’re talking about and that I have made the whole thing up (which I haven’t). I’ve caught him e-mailing her and have even talked to her on the phone. One priest told me to try to draw him back into the family (DH, that is). Make it appealing for him to come home to me. Don’t bring up what he has done. Well, he continues to do it and has absolutely no remorse for it. I know I should forgive him, but Ijust can’t. Had he done this once or twice even and said he was sorry and wouldn’t do it again, that would be different. But to tell the kids and I that this is the way it’s going to be is a different story. I really don’t believe he cares about us. I think he gets some sort of sick kick out of making the household miserable and him causing the misery. I don’t know how long I can stay here without losing my mind. I appreciate everyone’s prayers and need them greatly.
God bless all and will keep all your intentions in my prayers at Mass this weekend.

mom4truth:(
 
mom4truth said:
Hi all. I have talked to many priests regarding DH about his relationships with other women and they have all said directly to him he should stop. We have been to marriage counseling - same thing. He said (DH) they don’t know what they’re talking about and that I have made the whole thing up (which I haven’t). I’ve caught him e-mailing her and have even talked to her on the phone. One priest told me to try to draw him back into the family (DH, that is). Make it appealing for him to come home to me. Don’t bring up what he has done. Well, he continues to do it and has absolutely no remorse for it. I know I should forgive him, but Ijust can’t. Had he done this once or twice even and said he was sorry and wouldn’t do it again, that would be different. But to tell the kids and I that this is the way it’s going to be is a different story. I really don’t believe he cares about us. I think he gets some sort of sick kick out of making the household miserable and him causing the misery. I don’t know how long I can stay here without losing my mind. I appreciate everyone’s prayers and need them greatly.
God bless all and will keep all your intentions in my prayers at Mass this weekend.

mom4truth:(
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’re whole family is in my prayers. :gopray::console:
 
Dear Mommyof4: thank you for all your prayers. I will keep your intentions in my heart at Mass tomorrow.

God Bless you.

mom4truth:thumbsup:
 
This is such a troubling time for you. I will continue to keep you in my prayers as well, for you to discern the best course of action.
 
Please read The Good News about Sex and Marriage by Christopher West to help you with the “other things” pressure he is putting on you. I know it helped a great deal with me.

Please all pray for me. Since we decided we “wanted” children the 2nd year of our 16 year marriage, we stopped contracepting and when my daughter was born I had an amazing act of grace in my life that I suddenly saw how wrong contracepting was. When baby’s 2 and 3 came my husband had no problem utilizing NFP for spacing because it was his will to have 2 and 3. He wanted me to then go on the pill, I refused and eventually became pregnant with number 4. These children were averaging 3 years apart - so being overwhelmed was not a cross to carry. We fought over him having a vasectomy, I refused to sign the papers. He refused to have anypart of me charting and refuses to abstain from fertile times - if he “needs” to go ahead with intercourse anyway he will rarely use a condom or pull out. Well now I am pregnant with #5 and he is furious with me for putting my beliefs above his will and claims that I have disrespected him. He is just starting to talk to me but refuses to show me any affection. And has extreme anamosity towards me. A cafeteria, Catholic I am starting to resent him not being the spiritual head of our household. I am so lonely and brokenhearated. Any advise would be most welcomed especially reading material on spouses who disagree on Humane Vitea - excuse that spelling!
 
dawnmarie said:
Please read The Good News about Sex and Marriage by Christopher West to help you with the “other things” pressure he is putting on you. I know it helped a great deal with me.

Please all pray for me. Since we decided we “wanted” children the 2nd year of our 16 year marriage, we stopped contracepting and when my daughter was born I had an amazing act of grace in my life that I suddenly saw how wrong contracepting was. When baby’s 2 and 3 came my husband had no problem utilizing NFP for spacing because it was his will to have 2 and 3. He wanted me to then go on the pill, I refused and eventually became pregnant with number 4. These children were averaging 3 years apart - so being overwhelmed was not a cross to carry. We fought over him having a vasectomy, I refused to sign the papers. He refused to have anypart of me charting and refuses to abstain from fertile times - if he “needs” to go ahead with intercourse anyway he will rarely use a condom or pull out. Well now I am pregnant with #5 and he is furious with me for putting my beliefs above his will and claims that I have disrespected him. He is just starting to talk to me but refuses to show me any affection. And has extreme anamosity towards me. A cafeteria, Catholic I am starting to resent him not being the spiritual head of our household. I am so lonely and brokenhearated. Any advise would be most welcomed especially reading material on spouses who disagree on Humane Vitea - excuse that spelling!
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I am so sorry for what you are going through with your husband.
Praying for you, Dawnmarie.
 
Hi all. I received the following in an email yesterday. I found it to be very inspiring. I thought you all might enjoy it as well.

St. Anthony on Love
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God, to a Christian says:
No, not until you are satisfied with living loved by me alone and have an intensely personal and unique relationship with me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in me is your satisfaction, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. I want you to stop planning, stop wanting, and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing…one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow me to bring it to you…just keep watching me, expecting the greatest things…keep experiencing the satisfaction knowing that I AM…keep learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait. Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry! Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or I have given them. Don’t look at the things you want. Just keep looking at me, or you will miss what I want to show you. And when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would ever dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until both of you are ready at the same time…until you are both satisfied with me and the life I prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me and is thus perfect love. And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me and to enjoy the everlasting union of beauty and love. I am God. Believe and be satisfied.
 
sandraladeda said:
Hi all. I received the following in an email yesterday. I found it to be very inspiring. I thought you all might enjoy it as well.

St. Anthony on Love
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God, to a Christian says:
No, not until you are satisfied with living loved by me alone and have an intensely personal and unique relationship with me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in me is your satisfaction, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. I want you to stop planning, stop wanting, and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing…one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow me to bring it to you…just keep watching me, expecting the greatest things…keep experiencing the satisfaction knowing that I AM…keep learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait. Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry! Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or I have given them. Don’t look at the things you want. Just keep looking at me, or you will miss what I want to show you. And when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would ever dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until both of you are ready at the same time…until you are both satisfied with me and the life I prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me and is thus perfect love. And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me and to enjoy the everlasting union of beauty and love. I am God. Believe and be satisfied.
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BEAUTIFUL!!!🙂 🙂
 
I was very happy to see this thread. My husband was born a Baptist, but non practicing today.
I too am a Catholic convert of 2 years now and pray for the conversion of my husband.

I would love to see a prayer group where we pray weekly/daily (much like praying4baby group) St. Monica as the patroness saint of this thread is a good idea.

Please check out the website I included below to see if we can adopt any of their ideas.

I have personal experience with praying4baby. I submitted my daughter and son-in-laws name for intercession and prayers, and prayers were answered. This group prays to St. Gerard and to Infant Jesus. They are a non-catholic group, whose countless prayers have been answered. Wonder how many converts we have in that group!

PRAYING4ABABY.COM http://praying4ababy.com/

Again, I am interested in your idea of group prayers for the conversion of our husbands.
 
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