St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Shawna said:
Hello all,

This thread is the perfect spot for me. I am a fairly recent convert to Catholicism and I am with a non-Catholic. My story is as follows:

I married a man that is agnostic. We married at a time in our lives that were chaotic and and out of control. I became involved in the Church and began attending RCIA, knowing that because we’d both been married previously - without annulments - that I’d not be able to receive the Eucharist or be in the Church. I accepted that.

We eventually separated and during that time I entered the Church. Not long after, we divorced. Things were going along alright - I was in the Church - but I missed him terribly and my life was just out of synch. I eventually decided to apologize to him for how things went in our marriage - and hoped that we could have a friendship - hoped to repair some of the damage.

Well, we haven’t stopped talking… We have reconciled. That is a good thing, however, we are not married and now I am back at square one… I cannot receive communion and he will not get his previous marriage annuled so that we can get married in the church.

I am praying - please pray for him and for us. I want us to both be in the Church, fully.

Thanks,

Shawna
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I’m praying for you Shawna, this must be such a difficult situation for you. I hope you two can work things out together. God bless!
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Day 7 - DONE
 
Shawna

I will pray for you and your husband.

I’m also married to an Agnostic but he’s fine and has nothing against the RCC. Someday I hope he converts. But I am not pushing anything on him, I am leaving it in God’s hands. I know He will assist me in His time.
 
Day seven

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
We are back home. Made the trip home in one day. Long, long drive, but arrived safely.

Son’s wedding was beautiful and he managed to make me cry at the Mother Son dance… Many wonderful new memories made.

My DH did so good! He did not drink and was not tempted to drink at any point. I think my new DIL’s stepdad served as a sort of inspiration for him not to drink. (the stepdad is a bully and I won’t say more. Easy enough to figure that one out) We hosted the rehearsal dinner which included beer and he drank diet soda. The wedding reception had an open bar and they didn’t serve NA beer, so we smuggled in a 12 pack 😛 as well as several bottles of sparkling cider. One of the bridesmaids is pregnant, so booze was off limits for her as well, so the cider was nice so she could toast with the others.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Day 8-DONE
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
We are back home. Made the trip home in one day. Long, long drive, but arrived safely.

Son’s wedding was beautiful and he managed to make me cry at the Mother Son dance… Many wonderful new memories made.

My DH did so good! He did not drink and was not tempted to drink at any point.

Debbie, congrats on the wedding, and that your DH didn’t drink. It can be a long road, but counting each victory is important. 🙂
Shawna;3086036:
Hello all,

This thread is the perfect spot for me. I am a fairly recent convert to Catholicism and I am with a non-Catholic. My story is as follows:

I am praying - please pray for him and for us. I want us to both be in the Church, fully.

Thanks,

Shawna
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Shawna, I’m pretty new to this thread too. I’ll remember you and your husband in my prayers, as I’m sure everyone else will too! :hug1:
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PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
Day eight check.

Lamb, I’m so glad you had such a nice time at your son’s wedding, it sounds just beautiful. I hope when my son marries I get to have the same experience!
 
Well, today is the ninth and final day of my Novena. I believe it is traditional to follow a Novena with nine additional days of the Novena in thanksgiving, so I will be back posting my novena’s in thanksgiving.**

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Day 9-DONE**
 
Does anyone else have a husband who refuses to have anything to do with decorating a Christmas tree? Any ideas why? According to him, you put it up just to take it down and is a waste of time. That is true of many things and makes no sense.
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
Well, today is the ninth and final day of my Novena. I believe it is traditional to follow a Novena with nine additional days of the Novena in thanksgiving, so I will be back posting my novena’s in thanksgiving.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

**Dear St. Monica, **
**troubled wife and mother, **
**many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime. **
**Yet, you never despaired or lost faith. **
**With confidence, persistence, and profound faith, **
**you prayed daily for the conversion **
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
**and your beloved son, Augustine; **
**your prayers were answered. **
**Grant me that same fortitude, patience, **
**and trust in the Lord. **
**Intercede for me, dear St. Monica, **
**that God may favorably hear my plea for **

(Mention your intention here.)

**and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things, **
**through Jesus Christ, our Lord, **
**in the unity of the Holy Spirit, **
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Day 9-DONE
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Oh this is such a good idea! I finished my Novena a while ago. Do you think I could join being that I didn’t just finish the Novena? I would like to join you in the Thanksgiving Novena. Can you let me know how that works?
 
Cagrl said:
Oh this is such a good idea! I finished my Novena a while ago. Do you think I could join being that I didn’t just finish the Novena? I would like to join you in the Thanksgiving Novena. Can you let me know how that works?
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That would be just fine. There are no fixed rules about these devotions. The idea is to pray consistently, and to give thanks.🙂
 
katy said:
Does anyone else have a husband who refuses to have anything to do with decorating a Christmas tree? Any ideas why? According to him, you put it up just to take it down and is a waste of time. That is true of many things and makes no sense.
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As for my Dh, he doesn’t decorate or help decorate the tree. My DD and I have always been the ones that do it. He just watches. I don’t mind though. He does help bring it in the house and helps take it out when it’s time to get rid of it though. Do you mean, do we have any ideas as to how to get him to help with the decorating? As for ideas, sorry, I don’t have any. 😊 Never really thought about it, I guess. I just assumed the the job of decorating, I guess. I am sure the other ladies will be of more help. Sorry. 😊

By the way, thanks for the info on being able to do the thanksgiving. That does make sense what you say. I guess it’s about giving thanks to our Lord and St. Monica for her intercession.

Blessings.
 
Cagrl said:
He just watches. I don’t mind though. He does help bring it in the house and helps take it out when it’s time to get rid of it though.
Blessings.
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I suppose it is because I see others, esp. our kids, decorating their trees together and feel lonely. The main thing, I think, is that he doesn’t see any point to it, or to birthday presents, and things like that. He does see a great deal of point in staring for hours at the TV, tho. sigh.🤷
 
katy said:
I suppose it is because I see others, esp. our kids, decorating their trees together and feel lonely. The main thing, I think, is that he doesn’t see any point to it, or to birthday presents, and things like that. He does see a great deal of point in staring for hours at the TV, tho. sigh.🤷
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If the kids feel lonely decorating, have you tried to participate with them or have you maybe tried explaining to your DH that it would be nice to build those memories with the kids on Christmas or memories for the b-days? Do he participate at all? Maybe if he knows how much it means to you?

Praying… 😉
 
Cagrl said:
As for my Dh, he doesn’t decorate or help decorate the tree. My DD and I have always been the ones that do it. He just watches. I don’t mind though. He does help bring it in the house and helps take it out when it’s time to get rid of it though. Do you mean, do we have any ideas as to how to get him to help with the decorating? As for ideas, sorry, I don’t have any. 😊 Never really thought about it, I guess. I just assumed the the job of decorating, I guess. I am sure the other ladies will be of more help. Sorry. 😊
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My husband is the same way. He loads it up, brings it in the house, sets it up, and takes it out after Christmas, but won’t decorate. It’s always bothered me too, and I’m hoping that when our daughter is old enough to ask him why he won’t help that it might get him more in the spirit.

Growing up, my dad always loved (still does) to decorate the tree. He’d always do the lights, and then we’d all decorate the rest of it together. I so wish for that for our family…but at least he helps with the set up, etc. 🤷
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
Cagrl said:
If the kids feel lonely decorating, have you tried to participate with them or have you maybe tried explaining to your DH that it would be nice to build those memories with the kids on Christmas or memories for the b-days? Do he participate at all? Maybe if he knows how much it means to you?

Praying… 😉
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I wasn’t very clear. The kids are married adults and their spouses all enjoy decorating together. That makes me lonelier by contrast. He wasn’t interested in making memories with them when they were small, either, and he’d just as soon forget birthdays.

Belle, my dad was like that, too. Now that both my parents are gone, those are some of my best memories. I wish I could understand what my husband is thinking.
 
katy said:
I wasn’t very clear. The kids are married adults and their spouses all enjoy decorating together. That makes me lonelier by contrast. He wasn’t interested in making memories with them when they were small, either, and he’d just as soon forget birthdays.

Belle, my dad was like that, too. Now that both my parents are gone, those are some of my best memories. I wish I could understand what my husband is thinking.
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:hug1: Sorry katy. I’m glad that at least you have happy memories too.

Do your kids live nearby? Maybe you could decorate with them at their houses, then decorate at your house, make it a tradition that each year you go to a different one’s house all together, then back to your house to decorate and have dinner. If your husband wants to keep sulking while everyone else is having a good time, there’s not much you can do – I’ve decided I’m not going to let his being a “Scrooge” ruin my enjoyment of decorating the tree. :rolleyes:

I’ll remember all of you and your husbands and families in my Rosary and chaplet of Divine Mercy today! :grouphug:
 
Day nine check

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(Mention your intention here.)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
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