St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[mom4truth]

Dear, dear Belle!

You are a wise woman! Thank you for those couple of posts. You’ve helped me quite a bit. It does help me to share my feelings re: dh because I would lose my mind if I didn’t. I have a NEED to talk it out. Otherwise, who knows where I’d be? In “la la land” probably. I do love my husband, like you. I pray for his soul because he is so lost and doesn’t realize it. My children are hurt by him, too. It’s quite sad. But, I try to make the best of it. (I don’t always do this, but I TRY). Please pray that the kids and I make it through this Holy Week alone. I am saddened by this prospect. But, I’ll keep my focus on Jesus. Thank you,Belle, Please know you are in my prayers, too! God bless you, dear friend!

 

[Belle10]

Please pray that the kids and I make it through this Holy Week alone. I am saddened by this prospect. But, I’ll keep my focus on Jesus.

You are not alone.

Jesus was alone in the Garden, yet we know angels kept company with Him, bringing small measures of comfort during His agony. He wasn’t alone.

I know you wish you could celebrate this holy time as a family with no one missing – I know that hurt. But you are not alone – none of us are. God sends us His angels to comfort us, inspire us, lead us to Jesus. As tough as it may be, be as strong for your kids as you can, and God will do the rest. :grouphug:

 

[Pixie_Dust]

On a practical note, I would think those nasty text messages could be considered harassment, so I would not delete them – keep them as proof in case you need them. I hope you can reconcile and that he will come to God, but if he has a history of physical abuse and is now constantly harassing you, sadly you need to think “legally” about those texts.

That is a very good point - I hadn’t thought of that. Would something like that warrant a restraining order? I’m blissfully ignorant of how things like that work.

 

[Belle10]

That is a very good point - I hadn’t thought of that. Would something like that warrant a restraining order? I’m blissfully ignorant of how things like that work.

I only know from what I’ve seen of this on TV. I don’t know if this warrants a restraining order or not, just figuring if it gets worse, she may need these to as proof and protect herself.

 

[mom4truth]

Thank you, Belle. I will take comfort in knowing that the angels are with me and the kids during Easter! God bless your heart!

 

[Diana_Lynn]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and in knowledge of you
and that these husbands become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[eli1118]

Novena day 9

 

[jaq]

Originally Posted by jaq
Hi Everyone,

I’m a mother of 3, ages 26,22, and 18. I’m married but going thru a very rough time, with a husb who wants out and has at the same time left the church. He and I got together as a result of our strong Catholic faith as young adults. And now I grieve the loss of our shared faith. He has gotten himself into some NEW AGE beliefs which scare me and I have been praying to bring him back. Of course we all know that he has a free will, so I pray that there is some event or individual who comes into his life to bring him to his senses. As it is he plans to file for divorce in September when our youngest goes off to college. I was looking for a web site that would be congruous with my strong Catholic faith, in hopes that I can get some added direction in my prayer life and in how I am handling the problems of our marriage. This is likely a longer than usual beginning note, but may as well be open about this.

We have a daughter getting married this year, who is also graduating from college, and a son graduating from HS. With divorce also possibly around the corner I am really looking at the empty nest syndrome and a whole lot of other challenges. In the midst of a true mid life crisis, I have however found that I am closer to my God and wanting to be even closer. My comfort and hope comes from the Lord.

 

[Pixie_Dust]

I know this is the “husbands” thread but I wanted to ask you prayer warriors to intercede on behalf of my 12 yo dd. She’s supposed to be confirmed tomorrow night and is apparently telling all her “friends” on the internet that she doesn’t really want to be Catholic. This same girl 6 months ago was mildly complaining to the RCIA director that it wasn’t fair that only I got confirmed in August, when she and her sister had sat through nearly every class that summer as well. (Goes without saying that I had done considerably more ‘homework’ than they had, prior to RCIA last summer.) Please pray! I have been so looking forward to my whole family coming into the Church together and it would break my heart if she decided at the last minute not to be confirmed.

Know that even though I don’t post here much, I am praying for all of you and your families every day!

 

[mom4truth]

jaq:

You are going through a very difficult time in your life! I will be praying that you husband has awakening (by the Holy Spirit) and that Our Lady will look upon your family with love and mercy. You shall be in my rosaries! God bless you, friend.

 

[jules11]

=Belle10;3449432Jules, you have the heart of a saint. To deal with all he’s done and still to be so patient and loving toward him is definitely a saintly characteristic! It tells me that God is certainly with you, and that the Holy Spirit is “giving” you the words to pray, as well as helping you cope day to day.

Belle, thank you but I am far from a saint. FAR from being one. I know I have a long way to go but God has given me many graces in all of this, one being that the nastier he is the more love I feel for him, I mean, he is so lost and needs someone to care.
I will not give in to being horrible. I won’t take him back but I can love him by my prayers. I know that God loves him infinately more than I do and longs to have him turn to Him.

As far as your son, YOU KNOW that what your DH is saying isn’t true. Your little boy loves you so much - don’t doubt that! You KNOW DH is just saying those things to hurt you, NOT because they’re true.

I do know this, but it does hurt. He cries for him on times and it breaks my heart. I so hope that we can put this aside and do what is best for him. I love that little boy more than my life and I never wanted this for him, not to mention all the pain my other children are going through. Although he is not their father, they did love him. Now they are angry and do not want to see him at all.

On a practical note, I would think those nasty text messages could be considered harassment, so I would not delete them – keep them as proof in case you need them. I hope you can reconcile and that he will come to God, but if he has a history of physical abuse and is now constantly harassing you, sadly you need to think “legally” about those texts.

Yes, I have kept them. The worst ones, I won’t delete. All the others I write down and keep a record.

(((((((((((((((((Jules)))))))))))))))))))

Boy! DO i need a hug!
Thanks Belle, it means a lot to me that you respond with so much care, like the other wonderful women on here. Thank you and God bless

 

[jules11]

Originally Posted by jaq
Hi Everyone,

I’m a mother of 3, ages 26,22, and 18. I’m married but going thru a very rough time, with a husb who wants out and has at the same time left the church. He and I got together as a result of our strong Catholic faith as young adults. And now I grieve the loss of our shared faith. He has gotten himself into some NEW AGE beliefs which scare me and I have been praying to bring him back. Of course we all know that he has a free will, so I pray that there is some event or individual who comes into his life to bring him to his senses. As it is he plans to file for divorce in September when our youngest goes off to college. I was looking for a web site that would be congruous with my strong Catholic faith, in hopes that I can get some added direction in my prayer life and in how I am handling the problems of our marriage. This is likely a longer than usual beginning note, but may as well be open about this.

We have a daughter getting married this year, who is also graduating from college, and a son graduating from HS. With divorce also possibly around the corner I am really looking at the empty nest syndrome and a whole lot of other challenges. In the midst of a true mid life crisis, I have however found that I am closer to my God and wanting to be even closer. My comfort and hope comes from the Lord.

Welcome to CAF jaq!!
May God be with you at this difficult time. Remember through all of this, Trust God. It is hard to let go and watch those we love make such bad decisions but the best thing we can do is to love them and pray for them. This is a very heartbreaking time for you and I hope that you have the support of family and friends. Pray the St. Monica novena with us and God may give you the miracle you pray for. God bless! We will pray for you

 

[jules11]

I know this is the “husbands” thread but I wanted to ask you prayer warriors to intercede on behalf of my 12 yo dd. She’s supposed to be confirmed tomorrow night and is apparently telling all her “friends” on the internet that she doesn’t really want to be Catholic. This same girl 6 months ago was mildly complaining to the RCIA director that it wasn’t fair that only I got confirmed in August, when she and her sister had sat through nearly every class that summer as well. (Goes without saying that I had done considerably more ‘homework’ than they had, prior to RCIA last summer.) Please pray! I have been so looking forward to my whole family coming into the Church together and it would break my heart if she decided at the last minute not to be confirmed.

Know that even though I don’t post here much, I am praying for all of you and your families every day!

Oh Pixie! How hard for you! St. Monica was a mother as well as a wife! Praying for you and your daughter.

 

[eli1118]

Novena day 1

Hugs to all.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

Originally Posted by jaq
Hi Everyone,

I’m a mother of 3, ages 26,22, and 18. I’m married but going thru a very rough time, with a husb who wants out and has at the same time left the church. He and I got together as a result of our strong Catholic faith as young adults. And now I grieve the loss of our shared faith. He has gotten himself into some NEW AGE beliefs which scare me and I have been praying to bring him back. Of course we all know that he has a free will, so I pray that there is some event or individual who comes into his life to bring him to his senses. As it is he plans to file for divorce in September when our youngest goes off to college. I was looking for a web site that would be congruous with my strong Catholic faith, in hopes that I can get some added direction in my prayer life and in how I am handling the problems of our marriage. This is likely a longer than usual beginning note, but may as well be open about this.

We have a daughter getting married this year, who is also graduating from college, and a son graduating from HS. With divorce also possibly around the corner I am really looking at the empty nest syndrome and a whole lot of other challenges. In the midst of a true mid life crisis, I have however found that I am closer to my God and wanting to be even closer. My comfort and hope comes from the Lord.

Good morning, Jaq, and Welcome! I’m so sorry for what you’re going through with your husband.
You are in good company on the St. Monica thread. There are some wonderful women here, going through very similiar circumstances.
I will pray for you, your husband, and your family, jaq, each day, as I pray for my dh, and for all the others on this thread, and their spouses as well.

May God watch over you and yours!

 

[Diana_Lynn]

I know this is the “husbands” thread but I wanted to ask you prayer warriors to intercede on behalf of my 12 yo dd. She’s supposed to be confirmed tomorrow night and is apparently telling all her “friends” on the internet that she doesn’t really want to be Catholic. This same girl 6 months ago was mildly complaining to the RCIA director that it wasn’t fair that only I got confirmed in August, when she and her sister had sat through nearly every class that summer as well. (Goes without saying that I had done considerably more ‘homework’ than they had, prior to RCIA last summer.) Please pray! I have been so looking forward to my whole family coming into the Church together and it would break my heart if she decided at the last minute not to be confirmed.

Know that even though I don’t post here much, I am praying for all of you and your families every day!

Pixie Dust, you and your daughter are in my prayers. I would sit down and have a light hearted conversation with her, and find out how she really feels… (just to let you know, my daughter has in the past put down things that aren’t considered “cool” and used me as a scapegoat… ie: I don’t want to, but my Mom says I HAVE TO… Just to avoid feeling out of place, like a “nerd”, so to speak… ) It may be that in her heart, your daughter wants this, but she does not want her peers to think less of her for it.

We will all most certainly keep her in our prayers, and I hope all goes well for her today!

May God Bless!

 

[Diana_Lynn]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and in knowledge of you
and that these husbands become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[mom4truth]

Diana,
HAPPY EASTER! Thank you for all the encouraging words you have given me on this thread. You are truly a “prayer warrior” and dear friend! You are in my prayers ALWAYS!

 

[Pixie_Dust]

Pixie Dust, you and your daughter are in my prayers. I would sit down and have a light hearted conversation with her, and find out how she really feels… (just to let you know, my daughter has in the past put down things that aren’t considered “cool” and used me as a scapegoat… ie: I don’t want to, but my Mom says I HAVE TO… Just to avoid feeling out of place, like a “nerd”, so to speak… ) It may be that in her heart, your daughter wants this, but she does not want her peers to think less of her for it.

We will all most certainly keep her in our prayers, and I hope all goes well for her today!

May God Bless!

Thank you for your prayers! Last night was a beautiful night. My son was baptized and confirmed, my husband and both daughters were confirmed and they all received First Holy Communion. I suspect you’re right about my daughter - she was “feeling sick” (yet said she wasn’t nervous ) before we left but was fine when the time came for her confirmation.

Continuing to pray for all of you!

On Edit: There was a mother there who was being confirmed, and her husband and three kids were all baptized and confirmed. She chose Monica as her Confirmation name.

 

[mom4truth]

Friends: Have a Blessed Easter!