St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[Diana_Lynn]

Ladies:
It appears that dh will not be with the kids and me during Easter. He said he is going to be with his “family” (out of state) where he can get pampered because I do not do that for him due to my illnesses. I am very hurt and angry! He wants to take the kids but they do not want to go with him. Long story. So, please pray that my kids and I will still have a pleasant Easter and focus on Christ’s Resurrection and not dh. Prayers out to all of you ladies also! God bless.

My dearest Mom. My heart cries out for the pain that must have caused you! :console: :hug1: :hug3: :grouphug:
I am so, so sorry!
Lord, you know how mom4truth suffers, and you offer this as yet another gift for her - how You must love her! Yet, Lord, she needs your support to carry her through. Be with her and her children this Holy Week Lord, and especially over the Easter weekend, as her husband leaves her to celebrate The Resurrrection without him at her side. Have mercy on her Lord! May you comfort her and grant her rest from her suffering, that she be strong enough to truly celebrate Your Sacrifice, through a joyful, and glorious time with her children.

We beseech You, O Lord,
visit this home,
and drive far from it all the snares of the enemy;
let Your holy angels dwell therein
so as to preserve them in peace;
and let Your blessing be always upon them.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen

 

[Diana_Lynn]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and in knowledge of you
and that these husbands become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[jules11]

What an absolutely beautiful idea Jules! Might I offer the following, which I have begun to recite in song (in my head of course, since I can’t hold a tune to save my life) each morning, before I get out of bed. I think it’s quite fitting. And you may remember the tune…
:harp:

Prayer of St. Francis

Make me a channel of your peace,
Where there is hatred let me bring your love
Where there is injury your pardon Lord
And where there’s doubt true faith in you.

O Master grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console
to be understood as to understand
to be loved as to love with all my soul.

Make me a channel of your peace,
Where there’s despair in life let me bring hope
Where there is darkness, only light
And where there’s sadness, ever joy.

Make me a channel of your peace,
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned
In giving to all that we receive
And in dying that we’re born to eternal life

May God be with you Jules!

Diana, I have that one in my book. But thanks for reminding me about it. I tend to go to the same ones over and over so I skip this one. It’s exactly what I need to pray

 

[jules11]

Ladies:
It appears that dh will not be with the kids and me during Easter. He said he is going to be with his “family” (out of state) where he can get pampered because I do not do that for him due to my illnesses. I am very hurt and angry! He wants to take the kids but they do not want to go with him. Long story. So, please pray that my kids and I will still have a pleasant Easter and focus on Christ’s Resurrection and not dh. Prayers out to all of you ladies also! God bless.

Mom, I find the Holy days leading up to Easter, the best time for uniting sufferings with Jesus’s. We can have a tiny idea of what He went through. Rejection, the loss of love and support from those who are meant to love us, betrayal. I feel for you. I am going through similar myself. It must be so hard when the suffering is emotional and physical. I pray that God gives you a deep and lasting peace in your soul, despite the suffering you endure.
God bless you.

 

[jules11]

Next time you get a nasty email from him just reply with, “I love you and I’m praying for you.” I think the Bible calls that “heaping coals on their head” or something like that.

I did exactly that last night. I told him that I loved him despite everything and that the best thing I could do as his wife was to pray for him. I was at peace and I truly meant what I said. He told me he feels nothing but intense pain and no love for me. I don’t mind him saying that, it doesnt matter. But I felt so sad, so responsible, so guilty. I would like nothing more than to alleviate his pain, but I can’t. I offer all the suffering I endure to God, for his soul. I got the expected abuse back. I get nothing but abuse and today it got to me. I was on the verge of tears all day at work. He is wanting a tug of war over our son. He is going out of his way to hurt, to be nasty and after awhile it really disturbs my peace.
But I would go through all this and more if it means he gets to Heaven.
Still praying for you all.

 

[jules11]

Novena day 7 (couldn’t post yesterday)

My husband is wearing a cross and saints medal. I think this is a good sign we are on our way. Thank you Saint Monica.

:grouphug: A big hug to all my friends on this thread. I look forward to having some time to read about how things are going in your lives.

I am wearing my Saint Monica medal (which I got blessed on Sunday).

That is wonderful! Thank God! Lets never stop praying for these men to find God.

 

[jules11]

Your stress-free day sounds wonderful! Let us know how your book turns out (pictures maybe?)…I think I need to make one too, since I have slips of paper everywhere with different prayers that I love!

Well, it was much harder than I thought. I have done it as an A6 size, (quater of A4) and the way I had to set it up to print correctly was so hard! It has 40 pages and wow! What a job. it is not finished yet but I will keep working on it.
I have a rough print out and will use that until I get it finished properly. It takes a long time to set it up and get it right.

 

[Belle10]

Novena day 7 (couldn’t post yesterday)

My husband is wearing a cross and saints medal. I think this is a good sign we are on our way. Thank you Saint Monica.

:grouphug: A big hug to all my friends on this thread. I look forward to having some time to read about how things are going in your lives.

I am wearing my Saint Monica medal (which I got blessed on Sunday).

Eli, how wonderful! Thank you Lord Jesus and St. Monica!

We beseech You, O Lord,
visit this home,
and drive far from it all the snares of the enemy;
let Your holy angels dwell therein
so as to preserve them in peace;
and let Your blessing be always upon them.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen

Diana, as always, beautiful. I’m “stealing” this prayer!

I did exactly that last night. I told him that I loved him despite everything and that the best thing I could do as his wife was to pray for him. I was at peace and I truly meant what I said. He told me he feels nothing but intense pain and no love for me. I don’t mind him saying that, it doesnt matter. But I felt so sad, so responsible, so guilty. I would like nothing more than to alleviate his pain, but I can’t. I offer all the suffering I endure to God, for his soul. I got the expected abuse back. I get nothing but abuse and today it got to me. I was on the verge of tears all day at work. He is wanting a tug of war over our son. He is going out of his way to hurt, to be nasty and after awhile it really disturbs my peace.
But I would go through all this and more if it means he gets to Heaven.
Still praying for you all.

Jules, you are so strong. I know you probably don’t feel it, but you are. Many people would walk away, and certainly wouldn’t keep praying for someone who treats them that way, but you are doing what Jesus told us to do: to pray for our enemies. (not saying he’s exactly an enemy, just that it’s VERY difficult to pray for someone like that!)

I do hope though that when you mention abuse, you are speaking only of the way he speaks to you. Not that that’s no big deal, because it isn’t right, but if he’s physically abusive you need to get yourself and your son out of that situation now. Just concerned for you… :hug1:

 

[Belle10]

Novena, day 9:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband, the strong faith of our daughter,
the perpetual sobriety of my father and my parents’ marriage,
and for all the marriages represented in this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and
women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and
in knowledge of you and that these husbands
become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels
that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble
in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[jules11]

=Belle10;3445590

I do hope though that when you mention abuse, you are speaking only of the way he speaks to you. Not that that’s no big deal, because it isn’t right, but if he’s physically abusive you need to get yourself and your son out of that situation now. Just concerned for you… :hug1:

He was phyically abusive 18months ago and I had to call the police. This is why we have been living separately for that long. He had to move out.
So I am in no danger, but its the nasty text messages. Every single one and every chance he gets, he calls me names and insults me. Stupid me, I don’t feel angry. I feel so sorry for him I wish I could alleviate his pain that causes him to do this but he believes that I am the cause. So there is nothing I can do. I am having another bad day today. I could not go into work as I can’t stop crying.
I just wish he would get help. I wish he wasn’t so consumed with anger. It is just heartbreaking.
He has been telling me that our son does not want to come home to me when he tells him it’s time to leave. We both love him and the constant insinuations that he loves HIM more is very hurtful. It’s all so unneccessary. I am just praying that the Holy Spirit will touch and soften his heart.
Sorry about going on. I am at such a loss about what to do to make this stop.
God bless

 

[eli1118]

Novena day 8

Hugs to all

 

[Pixie_Dust]

He was phyically abusive 18months ago and I had to call the police. This is why we have been living separately for that long. He had to move out.
So I am in no danger, but its the nasty text messages. Every single one and every chance he gets, he calls me names and insults me. Stupid me, I don’t feel angry. I feel so sorry for him I wish I could alleviate his pain that causes him to do this but he believes that I am the cause. So there is nothing I can do. I am having another bad day today. I could not go into work as I can’t stop crying.
I just wish he would get help. I wish he wasn’t so consumed with anger. It is just heartbreaking.
He has been telling me that our son does not want to come home to me when he tells him it’s time to leave. We both love him and the constant insinuations that he loves HIM more is very hurtful. It’s all so unneccessary. I am just praying that the Holy Spirit will touch and soften his heart.
Sorry about going on. I am at such a loss about what to do to make this stop.
God bless

Can you delete them before you read them, or does he include important information in the midst of insulting you? :console:

 

[mom4truth]

Keeping all our husbands in prayers, and ourseleves, of course!
Hail Mary…Our Father…Glory Be

 

[mom4truth]

Jules,

Thank you for your earlier post! I appreciate your sympathy and concern and I understand your state as well. I do feel, however, that I may be revealing too much of myself and embarassing myself in the process. I’m beginning to wonder if I “share” too much information and am doubting myself. It does seem to help to know that others are in the same situation, however, and that we are all banding together, united in Jesus Christ. So, I’m not sure what to do - if I should keep posting or not. I’m quite a reserved person, though you can’t tell from my posts. Must be the privacy of hiding behind a computer I suppose. Please remember you are in my prayers and rosaries always. God bless you Jules, and hang in there! Much love,

 

[jules11]

Jules,

Thank you for your earlier post! I appreciate your sympathy and concern and I understand your state as well. I do feel, however, that I may be revealing too much of myself and embarassing myself in the process. I’m beginning to wonder if I “share” too much information and am doubting myself. It does seem to help to know that others are in the same situation, however, and that we are all banding together, united in Jesus Christ. So, I’m not sure what to do - if I should keep posting or not. I’m quite a reserved person, though you can’t tell from my posts. Must be the privacy of hiding behind a computer I suppose. Please remember you are in my prayers and rosaries always. God bless you Jules, and hang in there! Much love,

Mom, there are two ways to look at it I suppose. Noone on here knows yours (or mine) husband(s). So we are not telling anyone that knows them, (as I feel I say quite a bit too!) so it cannot do their reputation any damage on here. Also a dear friend of mine told me a few weeks ago, that God blessed women with the ability to talk about their problems. He made us to share and we are good at working out problems when we talk about them. I for one, (and I know you are the same) am not saying anything to be malicious. I love my husband, despite everything he does. I do not wish ill on him. I do not want revenge. I want his soul to be saved even if there is no hope for our marriage. Our intention is not bad. I say the things I do because at the moment I am so confused I never know what the right thing to do is anymore.
On the other hand, it is ok to not reveal anything you do not feel comfortable with. Maybe I should not say as much as I do. I don’t know, it all depends on what your personality is like. Whether you are open or reserved. I do not think you say too much. Maybe I do. who knows? There are many threads that reveal intimate details and they must feel they need to. I do not think there should be one rule for eveyone. People deal with trouble and grief in different ways. If I did not talk about it, I would lose my mind! If you are being manipulated and controlled, like I feel I was, then if I believed him and did not ask other’s opinions to se if it was me, I would not be in any fit state to be a mother to my children. I wouldn’t worry. Say what you have to.Sorry for rambling. God bless.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

Good morning Ladies! I truly hope this day shines forth far more peace on us all than some have had in the last few days! :grouphug: I am praying for God’s healing grace for these men in our lives, who are suffering such pain and anguish in their hearts. How else could they inflict such pain on their loved ones? And for non-believers to have no faith in such difficult times… How do they cope? With no faith in God, I myself would be in such anguish now - I can’t even begin to imagine! My heart goes out to them. Lord, reach out to these men, and touch their hearts with your tender love. Let them know you are there, Lord! Let them feel your undying Love! Their pain and suffering is heart-breaking Lord, I pray for the courage and strength, patience and grace of the Blessed Virgin, as she endured this pain - watching her son suffer for our sins. Might you grant us women these virtues, that we too may stand gracefully, patiently, with strength and courage, through the immense suffering our husbands endure. Might we never lose faith in Your healing Grace, which can bring an end to their pain and suffering, warm their hearts, and restore their faith in you Lord! Might we always strive to bring love where there is hate, forgiveness where there is harm, hope where there is despair, light where there is darkness, joy where there is sadness, and where there is doubt - true faith in you.
Amen.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and in knowledge of you
and that these husbands become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[Belle10]

He was phyically abusive 18months ago and I had to call the police. This is why we have been living separately for that long. He had to move out.
So I am in no danger, but its the nasty text messages. Every single one and every chance he gets, he calls me names and insults me. Stupid me, I don’t feel angry. I feel so sorry for him I wish I could alleviate his pain that causes him to do this but he believes that I am the cause. So there is nothing I can do. I am having another bad day today. I could not go into work as I can’t stop crying.
I just wish he would get help. I wish he wasn’t so consumed with anger. It is just heartbreaking.
He has been telling me that our son does not want to come home to me when he tells him it’s time to leave. We both love him and the constant insinuations that he loves HIM more is very hurtful. It’s all so unneccessary. I am just praying that the Holy Spirit will touch and soften his heart.
Sorry about going on. I am at such a loss about what to do to make this stop.
God bless

Jules, you have the heart of a saint. To deal with all he’s done and still to be so patient and loving toward him is definitely a saintly characteristic! It tells me that God is certainly with you, and that the Holy Spirit is “giving” you the words to pray, as well as helping you cope day to day.

As far as your son, YOU KNOW that what your DH is saying isn’t true. Your little boy loves you so much - don’t doubt that! You KNOW DH is just saying those things to hurt you, NOT because they’re true.

On a practical note, I would think those nasty text messages could be considered harassment, so I would not delete them – keep them as proof in case you need them. I hope you can reconcile and that he will come to God, but if he has a history of physical abuse and is now constantly harassing you, sadly you need to think “legally” about those texts.

(((((((((((((((((Jules)))))))))))))))))))

I’m beginning to wonder if I “share” too much information and am doubting myself. It does seem to help to know that others are in the same situation, however, and that we are all banding together, united in Jesus Christ.

mom, and anyone else: we all share as much as we’re comfortable with. No one holds it against anyone else if they want to keep things private. Yes, there is a comfort in commonality, but to me, simply posting here once means you’re “in the club” – details or not. I’ve found that in addition to the compassionate fellowship here (thank you all for that) this thread has really helped me to keep up with my novenas. I know that sounds terrible, but having a place to “see” my prayers really helps me to remember them. So, if you never posted again, you’d still be part of this band of sisters in Christ. God bless you.

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband, the strong faith of our daughter,
the perpetual sobriety of my father and my parents’ marriage,
and for all the marriages represented in this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and
women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and
in knowledge of you and that these husbands
become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels
that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble
in mind and action.
Amen.

:angel1: Prayer to our guardian angels

Angels of God, who are our guardians
To whom Merciful God entrusted all those in this thread
Enlighten and keep us this day
Guard and lead us, Amen.

The St. Michael Prayer :knight2:

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil
May God rebuke him we humbly pray
And do thou, O prince of the Heavenly Host
By the power of God
Cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world, seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen.

Always remember: our God is bigger than our troubles. :grouphug:

 

[BeeSweet]

**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my son, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.