St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Please know you are loved by me! Thank you so much for remembering me in front of the Blessed Sacrament. Today I feel especially “dry”.😦 I don’t like this feeling. Trying not live on “feelings”, though. God bless you! Much love,
 
I am so scared…have met the decision to have no other choice but to move from the home we rent amd go back into Apartment living. In some senses, i am likeing the idea of downsizing and keeping what we need, more so than everything we want.

And, there will be no place to play like before. I am weary of going backwards, as my husband only reaches for as far as i insist he reach…nothing more. I drive the children to another township for schooling, and will plan on returning to our own.

Worst thing is this…6 months ago we finally got two little cats for the girls…they waited so long to have an animal, and renting an apartment means no animals. This one will be tough, as getting rid of them will break the childrens hearts, and again faceing the “death/Loss” of Big Brother Will type of feelings.

It is the worst part, as they agreed to return to the old school with elation…the move will be a nice change…but less freedoms space wise. We have been out of an apartment for 9 years now, and things accumulate…plus Wills belongings. This is the right move for us, i know, as we are sinking renting a little house for 1100/month plus utilities. Heat this winter was over 400 per month, then water, gas, phone, wood and cable brings us to an even 2000 per month before other living expences.

The Apartment is a three bedroom with onsuite storage for 800/month, all utilities included. Phone and cable extra. We could cut our expences in half. Litterally, and the Apartment is 4 doors down from where we live, and will make for the second time living there. It was where we left to get more room.

Of course i had a teenager, and two todlers. Now Will os gone, and we need less space…want lots of space, but need less.

Please help me (by praying) in breaking the kitty news to my children, and pray we find them good homes.

Lana
 
Ah, Rammy, so many tragedies and difficulties. I will certainly be praying for you and your family. :crossrc:
 
Lana,

Life can sure be TOUGH! Please know you will be in my prayers as long as needed. I will also be praying for your little girls. Hang in there…things will get better…Much love,
 
Thank you dear…the more i prayed, the more i think i was somehow expecting the bag of money to drop from the sky.
Of course this is not what ever happens, and i foud that when the thought came to me to downsize, my pride was hit hard thinking i might appear to my kids like we are on skid row.

Wen i told them today, and explained everything (accept the cats) to them, they fully understood, and agreed with me, and actually felt very excited about it. The oldest, 10 in may, said there was no problem as long as they can finish what the started in the other school…i agreed.

Then the cat situation…more like an A Bomb. Oh the tears, they were awful. So here we are at a restaurant parking lot where i got them an ice cream cone with the change i had…all three of us bawling…but could not run away…i am smart at hopefully the right times!

We have left it at this. If the move runs through, we can try and place the cats with loving homes berfore we move.

They seemed pretty ok when i sugested they come visit them once in a while. This dried up a few tears.

Thank you…oh i am so sleepy2.5 hours sleep last night ~ fidgitty

Lana

PS, shockingly my biggest wall is my husband. He firmly said, i have no money for it right now. I said, borrow from your dad, and pay him back the next month when the business starts up. He said ok. And ok to the move, and was shocked how much less it might cost to live.

Someone must have wispered my woes to the angels above, and it cirtainly is and was a miricle not hitting a brick wall with him over things like this.

Lana
 
:ouch: DH did not come home last night, no answer at the farm, and i did not sleep. Most likely he is simply irresponsible but there will always be the case that some day he will be hurt or dead in a ditch, and from crying wolf so many times, we simply will not go looking for him.

Lana
 
OhI, Lana! That’s awful. I feel just terrible. I don’t know what’s wrong with our husbands sometimes. They can be so selfish, it seems. I will pray right now that he sees the light and that God will open his eyes to what he is/is not doing. I will pray very hard for you, my friend. I know what it’s like. God be with you! Much love,😦
 
eli1118 said:
Belle,
How are you feeling?🙂
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Better, thanks! 😃 Everybody has down-in-the-dumps days sometimes, you know? But it’s Friday, and we’re going to my parents’ tonight and seeing my youngest sibling in her final high school play tomorrow night, so it should be a great weekend with the family. I’m only 7 hours and 24 minutes away from getting out of here and going home! 😃 (by getting out of here I mean getting out of work…my sadness the other day (and daily) was b/c I long with my entire being to be home with my DD but for financial reasons I have to work. 😦 It’s tough.)

Novena, day 2 of thanks:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband, the strong Catholic faith of our daughter,
the perpetual sobriety of my father and the renewal of my parents’ marriage,
and for all the marriages and families represented in this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and
women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and
in knowledge of you and that these husbands
become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels
that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble
in mind and action.
Amen.
 
Rammy said:
:ouch: DH did not come home last night, no answer at the farm, and i did not sleep. Most likely he is simply irresponsible but there will always be the case that some day he will be hurt or dead in a ditch, and from crying wolf so many times, we simply will not go looking for him.

Lana
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Lana, how awful! I pray he’s OK so you can strangle him. ;):mad: I hope you’re able to catch up on sleep soon, sleep is so important, especially when you’re suffering stress.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
mom4truth said:
OhI, Lana! That’s awful. I feel just terrible. I don’t know what’s wrong with our husbands sometimes. They can be so selfish, it seems. I will pray right now that he sees the light and that God will open his eyes to what he is/is not doing. I will pray very hard for you, my friend. I know what it’s like. God be with you! Much love,😦
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Guess what…i sent this message before i went to sleep. When i got up at 7am, there was the paperwork and a signed blank cheque for the Apartment hunting i am doing.

Now i wonder who’s prayere (yours) got him off his duff, and home so i did not continue worrying all this day!

Thank you dear.
 
BeeSweet said:
Lana, how awful! I pray he’s OK so you can strangle him. ;):mad: I hope you’re able to catch up on sleep soon, sleep is so important, especially when you’re suffering stress.
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Yep, he is lucky, cause it is my temper that he is now staying away from…well we all booked off, one child here, and one child there…and i am going over a friends for movies, wine and probably a bit of crying, you know girls!

When he gets home…“ecco”…no girls! He HATES that.

I know, games, but it is better than beating him with the frying pan…lol

did i mention i am a scorpion…hehe…i don’t get back, i get even.
ok, i know we don’t believe in horiscopes, but traits are so right on…i am best away from him angered so!

"tomorrow…isah beddah dayy*

Lana
 
What a few hours can do…

Well it seems that there is a new problem here now…Rob just left me. He’s gone to live at the Farm…i am so sick of living with a drunk. I am glad both girls were not here, cause he started calling me down, and then threw something at me and i jumped him and i put a beating on him. I guess it could have been worse if he had of fought back, but i am so tired of everything being my fault.

He through the garbage can at me, and told me i was useless, and can’t even do dishes or the wash, and he is sick of keeping me when i do nothing to earn my keep.

Well i flew at him down over the stairs and into the garage. He screamed, "You never do anything, no dishes, no laundry…nothing, your useless…get a f… job, and pay for your keep, im not paying your keep anymore. "

I said, “nothing is stopping you if you don’t want to live here, it has been years you have refused to admit this to yourself. You are a dead beat dad…a no show, and a disapointment to my girls…they deserve better than that…so go to the farm, and drop the cheque off…that fofils everything you believe a father is, a pay cheque.”

I continued, “How the heck am i to work when i can not even count on you to come home, let alone, need you to be here if i have to work. This is perposterous, and is never gonna happen, i am both parents, and you are simply the spirm doner, and financial depository. There is nothing in those kids that is you, you wonder why…i have begged for you to be around, to have some (name removed by moderator)ut, you are not a good father to break their hearts like that…never being here.”

He spit at me and i hauled off and open handedly smacked his face and then grabed him by the hair and pulled him to the ground backwards and then hauled off and kicked him several times not forgetting to punch the **** out of his back.

I will not be abused in this physical manner ever again, and i will let him know he has barked up the wrong tree here.

He came home obliderated, threw things at me and spit on me. That transends verbal abuse. And i will fight back this time, i will not be beaten ~ever~ again…if he lays a hand on me, i will put him away for as long as i can.

I have spent my life, and still to this day, trying to walk away from the scaring that being beaten and raped has done to me.

He’s not one iota different.

I hate that he has been so scared that he is unable to tell the truth to me, or my children, that he never once wanted to be with us…he simply strung us along. My kids now have nothing. No home, no future, and no father…hopeless…He needs to be institutionalized, but that is my saving grace, as it is not my business. If he makes it my business, i will fully document his sorry arse out of this province and lock him up for a long time. I am so sick of men getting what the want, and the kids are left to pick up the pieces…what’s with a man and a sense of devotion, and love for his family? What about honour…Will had him beat at age 14.

Rob will never be a man, just a sorry drunk willing to place blame on every single person he knows, for everything he failed to ever do right.

Thanks a lot (to DH’s dad) for teaching him such a deep devotion to work, and great work ethics, and teaching him that his self worth was pinned to this. Nothing else he ever did was good enough, and Robs f’ed up because of it…

Either that, or he really is scytsophrenic (sp)

Guaranteed, the business will go so far under this year if he drinks insesintly.

What the stars DOES he want? It is such a controle thing for him. I will compromise, i will barter, but i will not loose everything so he can self gratify his life, at my childrens expense. He does not get it, i have met him half way a long time ago…but that is not good enough for him, he must have full surender, his way, or nothing.

Love is just an empty word now, and has been for a very long time. It does not exist and anyone who believes in it deserves a year with Rob, that will kill anything.

I hate how much he has pulled me down, destroyed what was ever left of my self esteme.

There is nothing left, but the girls!

Lana
 
Please pray for my family, and for my temper.
I am loosing everything it seems…when life is like this
I ache so terribly for Will…he was true blue…the ideal person of my dreams…yet my kid. We grew together, and compromised together, and life was sweet…

How do i salvage this, now it is just me and my two girls!Oh God, this means welfare…wonderful! Well at least we will have the same amount of food…not much!

I simply can’t go that route again…i want more for my children.

Lana
 
Lana,

You are in a horrible situation! Especially for your children. They certainly don’t deserve to live in this type of environment. Neither do you. I think I would stay away from Rob - period. You don’t want to get yourself hurt nor your children. Go somewhere else. Stay away from him and don’t talk to him. See a priest. Pray A LOT - I’m sure you have. I’ll be praying for you very hard. Remember - you are a daughter of God. You deserve goodness as do your girls. Let God work out the justice in this situation.
Stay calm, please, for your girls. You’re in my prayers!
 
Dearest Lana,
you seem so angry, so hurt and in turmoil. You need to see someone to help you. You need to unravel your life, the terrible injustices done to you. You do not want to pass this onto your children.
Please, no matter how angry someone makes you, no matter how much they hurt you, do not retaliate. It just brings you down to their level, makes you feel worse and is not what Jesus wants us to do.
I know you are hurting, please try to stay calm and trust in Jesus. He will never let you down, He will lift you out of the pit and comfort you. Keep saying, ‘Jesus I trust in You’ over and over. and before long, you will truly feel yourself letting go of control and giving it to Him.
I don’t think you have ever healed from your terrible ordeal many years ago. You need to heal and forgive. Do not carry around such anger, it will eat you away.
Lana, find a good priest and go to confession. It does wonders for your peace of mind.
Praying for you.
 
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