St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Hello all, Great posts.

Can we include some prayers in here for wives as well. My wife exhibits all the signs of an agnostic/atheist. I did not realize the extent when we were married nor was I catholic at the time. She shows zero interest in religion and has said that it makes her uncomfortable. I feel as though I am in a constant fight with myself over our future and her soul. I love her dearly but feel that we will not make it due to our spiritual differences. I am in despair and cannot imagine another year or two of this, much less 7-life as many of you have mentioned. I fear for our future children’s faith, which makes me fearful of NFP (she wont even hear of it anyway) We have zero Catholic friends, nor Christian for that matter. I leave literature around to no effect, she wont read it for she doesn’t care. As she puts it, she doesn’t seek knowledge like it do, I think she is just lazy in this respect. I do not know what to do. Please pray for me and my wife and all husbands who deal with this as well. I feel as though i am on the edge of a precipice!
 
I’ll be praying for you, your wife and children as well WordisLove. I’ll keep you in mind when I pray the rosary this evening. :hug1: :gopray2:
 
please forgive any errors as i am new to lists and this is my first one. i’m not sure i am in the right list. my husband (cradle catholic and catholic education through high school) married in the church, and our engagement was pure and prayerful. our marriage of 43 years produced 4 sons, 4 daughters and now we expect our 12th grandchild. we have been through his window peeping, massage parlors, porn movies, 2 affairs, alchoholism, (aa member for 22 years some of which he sat out, but currently attends occasionally - he says. also he left the church from age 30 til 58. he has periodic periods of withdrawal. not speaking, sometimes for months at a time, since our retrouvaille his episodes while VERY quiet do not seem angry. simply coldness. he took antidepressants for about the last 5 years and for a while they seemed to help. at christmas he quit paxil as he felt it did not make any difference. for the last year he has been smoking (a habit he had given up about 20 years ago.) my mother died of lung cancer and his breath smelled like her, so i became very very turned off to intimacy and we have not been intimate but once this year. i am a woman who craves affection and would like the shared spirituality we had for 3 or 4 years after our retrouvaille (2002). he has of late stopped attending mass, praying together etc. i attend mass and communion daily and pray constantly. he seems to me to have let in the demons (and more) that his return to the sacraments had driven out. i know God never gives up but this marriage of mine seems less marriage, more torture!!! i know this may not be the right place for me to vent but i wish to know if in some way i am failing to be the child our Father created me to be. i am so lonely. help me and pray for us please.
 
Gerryanneco, I’m so sorry for your difficulties. Is there someone you can talk to? Maybe in alanon, Church, councilor, etc? You really need someone you can share this with, and who can give you good advice. I will pray for you and your husband.
 
I just found this sticky…and I am going to just jump in. OK? I hope!

Anyways, I have a darling sweetie of a husband. I am very, very blessed. Everyone wonders how on earth I got so lucky, and I know there’s no luck about it, he’s nothing less than a blessing from God! :heaven:

BUT, one minor detail, catch, problem, etc…he’s protestant. NOTHING wrong with protestant, of course, I used to be one myself. I just want the best for my best friend in the whole world!

So, I humbly ask for the conversion of my husband to the fullness of his Christian faith, the Holy Catholic Faith. And, while he is a good solid baptized Christian, he is nowhere near conversion to Catholic Faith. Though, since we met, he has made it a point to go with me to CATHOLIC Mass, every single Sunday!!! PRAISE GOD! :bowdown2:

Anyways, I just thought I’d jump in this group too. I am already involved in the infertility group too. Hubby and I can’t seemingly have kids 😦 , after sixteen months of trying (since we got married.) So, if you could pray for that too I would be so grateful!

Hubby’s conversion and kids…I believe in miracles!!! :heaven:

I will pray for all of you, your husbands, and families too! :crossrc:
 
gerryanneco said:
please forgive any errors as i am new to lists and this is my first one. i’m not sure i am in the right list. my husband (cradle catholic and catholic education through high school) married in the church, and our engagement was pure and prayerful. our marriage of 43 years produced 4 sons, 4 daughters and now we expect our 12th grandchild. we have been through his window peeping, massage parlors, porn movies, 2 affairs, alchoholism, (aa member for 22 years some of which he sat out, but currently attends occasionally - he says. also he left the church from age 30 til 58. he has periodic periods of withdrawal. not speaking, sometimes for months at a time, since our retrouvaille his episodes while VERY quiet do not seem angry. simply coldness. he took antidepressants for about the last 5 years and for a while they seemed to help. at christmas he quit paxil as he felt it did not make any difference. for the last year he has been smoking (a habit he had given up about 20 years ago.) my mother died of lung cancer and his breath smelled like her, so i became very very turned off to intimacy and we have not been intimate but once this year. i am a woman who craves affection and would like the shared spirituality we had for 3 or 4 years after our retrouvaille (2002). he has of late stopped attending mass, praying together etc. i attend mass and communion daily and pray constantly. he seems to me to have let in the demons (and more) that his return to the sacraments had driven out. i know God never gives up but this marriage of mine seems less marriage, more torture!!! i know this may not be the right place for me to vent but i wish to know if in some way i am failing to be the child our Father created me to be. i am so lonely. help me and pray for us please.
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I will keep both you and your husband in my prayers. Please hang in there. There is a book called Arise from Darkness by Father Groeschel. It might be particularly helpful for your husband if he is open to reading it. It is a wonderful book that everyone can benefit from. There are some prayers at the end that might be particularly comforting to you.

I will be praying for you and your family.

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
Just found this thread. I’m in the process of reconciling (not converting 😉 since I’m already a baptized believer) and my dh is not quite there. He’s reading some books I’ve given him (he’s not much of a reader so this is a God-thing) but he still has many hurdles to jump before he’s ready to make the move.

I want SO MUCH to call the priest at the parish I attend and talk to him about their accelerated RCIA program, if I even need to do RCIA since I am working through 4marks.com, but part of me thinks I should wait so that we can come into the church together. I really really REALLY want to fully participate in the Sacraments but I don’t want to move forward without him.

Thanks for the prayer posted at the beginning of the thread! I’ll be using it! 👍
 
I just found this thread. I can relate to many of the stories here. My husband is agnostic. He believes in God but has a serious problem with organized religion. All he sees is hypocrisy. He is totally closed to any kind of talk. He won’t read anything, discuss anything, listen to anything that is promoting religion of any kind. Since I am a convert, he sees the diffuculties that come with seeking God and rejecting one thing for another.

It can be frustrating. Most of the time it’s okay. He has agreed to let me raise the kids Catholic, although he balked at going to the alter with his arms crossed during my son’s First Eucharist mass a few weeks ago. I am almost to the point that I wish he would just accept Christ and get babtized.

I will pray for you all. I know how hard it is to live in a house divided. I am the only Catholic in my house, (besides the kids) and most of my immediate and extended family.
 
6YRSHOME said:
I will pray for you all. I know how hard it is to live in a house divided. I am the only Catholic in my house, (besides the kids) and most of my immediate and extended family.
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Welcome “6YRSHOME” 👋

Thanks for sharing your story. Thank you also for your prayers. I will pray for you too, as I pray for everyone that comes by here.

I relate very much to the above quote of yours! The only other Catholic in my whole family is my mother. She came in several years after me! YAY! :extrahappy: Now…if i could just get my husband to be that excited about Catholicism too! :whistle:

By the way…are you a convert or a revert? I am a convert! So mine would read 8YRSHOME…but, I chose Convert in 99 instead. I like yours better though! 👍
 
Convert_in_99 said:
Welcome “6YRSHOME” 👋

Thanks for sharing your story. Thank you also for your prayers. I will pray for you too, as I pray for everyone that comes by here.

I relate very much to the above quote of yours! The only other Catholic in my whole family is my mother. She came in several years after me! YAY! :extrahappy: Now…if i could just get my husband to be that excited about Catholicism too! :whistle:

By the way…are you a convert or a revert? I am a convert! So mine would read 8YRSHOME…but, I chose Convert in 99 instead. I like yours better though! 👍
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Wow, that is wonderful that your mother came in. My mother and most of her family are very staunch Adventists. I pray for her all the time, saying to myself that “Nothing is impossible with God” cause its going to take a miricle for them to cross that river.

I am a convert, and I didn’t think about by screen name when I picked it. It’s outdated now cause I came into the church in '99 as well. I have one cousin who is a non pracicing Catholic and unfortuantely, very uneducated in his faith. 😦 But I figure it’ll happen in God’s time, not mine.

I will be thinking of you and will dedicate a rosary for your family. Maybe Our Mother can help us out. 👍
 
6YRSHOME said:
Wow, that is wonderful that your mother came in. My mother and most of her family are very staunch Adventists. I pray for her all the time, saying to myself that “Nothing is impossible with God” cause its going to take a miricle for them to cross that river.

I am a convert, and I didn’t think about by screen name when I picked it. It’s outdated now cause I came into the church in '99 as well. I have one cousin who is a non pracicing Catholic and unfortuantely, very uneducated in his faith. 😦 But I figure it’ll happen in God’s time, not mine.

I will be thinking of you and will dedicate a rosary for your family. Maybe Our Mother can help us out. 👍
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Well the Converts in 99 will have to team up and pray for each other! Did you come in at the Easter Vigil? I was privately taken in June 1999, and made a profession of faith. (I missed the Easter Vigil “boat” and Father didn’t see any sense in me waiting another whole year.) I came from a Methodist background, where I received my baptism in 95.

Thank you for you kind words and the prayers! I will pray for you and yours too!.:crossrc:
 
6YRSHOME said:
Wow, that is wonderful that your mother came in. My mother and most of her family are very staunch Adventists. I pray for her all the time, saying to myself that “Nothing is impossible with God” cause its going to take a miricle for them to cross that river.

I am a convert, and I didn’t think about by screen name when I picked it. It’s outdated now cause I came into the church in '99 as well. I have one cousin who is a non pracicing Catholic and unfortuantely, very uneducated in his faith. 😦 But I figure it’ll happen in God’s time, not mine.

I will be thinking of you and will dedicate a rosary for your family. Maybe Our Mother can help us out. 👍
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I will keep you and everyone on this thread in my prayers. I am not married (still searching for the right one). I stumbled across CAF after breaking up with an Adventist I was dating. He had started thinking about marriage. While I wasn`t at that point, he would not allow any potential kids to be baptized Catholic, and his whole family was against him dating a non-Adventist (especially a Catholic non-Adventist). He was a wonderful person but I know it was for the best we broke up. Our differences in faith were the reason we broke up. When I get married, I want it to be in the Catholic Church and that was not acceptable to him.

I know this thread is for praying for the conversion of spouses and to provide support to one another. What would everyone think of starting a thread where we could all pray for the conversion or reversion of our friends and family? I think it would be nice to know that others were praying for our family and friends and would help us feel less alone. I started a new thread and hope that you will feel free to post your prayer intentions there as well.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=2224847#post2224847

I will continue to keep everyone on this thread (and their families)in my prayers.

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
Convert_in_99 said:
Well the Converts in 99 will have to team up and pray for each other! Did you come in at the Easter Vigil? I was privately taken in June 1999, and made a profession of faith. (I missed the Easter Vigil “boat” and Father didn’t see any sense in me waiting another whole year.) I came from a Methodist background, where I received my baptism in 95.

Thank you for you kind words and the prayers! I will pray for you and yours too!.:crossrc:
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I did not have to wait for the Easter Vigil. I had been studying the Catachism for over a year so the RCIA director let me enter early on October of '99.

I don’t think that my husband or family would have made it easy for me to go through the whole RCIA or the Easter Vigil. My daughter was only 2 weeks old at the time so things were a bit stressful already.

Keep us updated on your situation. 🙂
 
6YRSHOME said:
I did not have to wait for the Easter Vigil. I had been studying the Catachism for over a year so the RCIA director let me enter early on October of '99.
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I’d love for you all to pray that this is how it works for me, as well. I believe (and not pridefully at all) that I have a better grasp of RC theology than some (by no means ALL!!) cradle Catholics do, just because I am one of those “study everything, THEN decide” kind of people. It was because I was intensely studying the RCC (to find out where they went wrong, :cool: ) that God began to move me.
 
Hi 6YRSHOME and everyone else,

Well, I was borned and raised catholic then in my early 20’s left, and now I am coming back. It has been really difficult because my husband is mormon and of course he believe that the mormon church is the true church and he is having a really hard time.

I will pray for all of us.

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