St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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I am in similar circumstances with a non-Catholic husband. I am sorry I missed the day of fasting - maybe we could do it again sometime? I will pray for all of you. My parish is participating in a pledge to say a family rosary every day in the month of October for the intentions of our families. I will offer my prayers for your spouses and families. God bless you all. I am praying for miracles!:gopray2:
 
You are all so wonderful in your advice!
The reason he has to stay for 10 months is because he’s in the military, so there’s no getting out of that early. He’s been doing better lately, and letting him know that I appreciate his sacrifice seems to help. Also I’ve been rubbing his feet after work, and this puts him in a much better mood!
We recently decided that we are going to move to Colorado when it comes time for him to leave his job, so that has helped in narrowing down the job search. He wants to start work doing something different than what he’s been doing in the military. He’s very outgoing, and can talk to anyone, so I’m sure we won’t have a problem finding him something he’ll enjoy. I pray!
 
Struggle,

Just curious how the Retrouvaille went for you and your husband? I think you said you would go in September if I’m not mistaken. We are going in January and I hope the experience is fruitful. 🙂

MNMOM
 
Yes, I’m curious how it went for you, too. I’ve given up asking my wife if she’ll go. She’s totally convinced that she has no choice but to get a divorce. I continue to pray that something will soften her heart just a little to try something. I have done almost web search I can on Retrouvaille, putting in lots of combinations of words to search with it. I should be careful with my conclusions, since I’m naturally looking for successful experiences that people have, but anything I’ve found clearly indicates that almost a very high percentage of people have had successful experiences. It seems to be the exception that I find comments that were negative regarding what they got from it, even if they later didn’t stay together.
 
OH I am so glad to have found ya’ll again!! I hope everyone has found time to pray the rosary this month. I haven’t been as diligent as I’d hoped but keep trying to squeeze it in as often as I can. That is bad I know, but real and honest.

Hope to visit w/ everyone soon.
 
Sorry, I am so slow these days and haven’t been able to check this forum for some time!

The Retrouvaille weekend was only ok for us. Nothing earth-shattering unfortunately. I was really hopeful it would “fix” us because I read so many great stories, but it just did not have that impact on our marriage. I see other couples from the weekend that say it changed them and things are going much better. I guess I am one of the few who did not see a drastic change. I have such a very sad and heavy heart. I think part of it is that I can not get over my husband’s proclamation of love for another.
 
Struggle

I am saddened to hear that your Retrovaille experience was not as successful as you’d hoped. 😦 I will continue to pray for you and your marriage. I pray that the change for the better may just take some time. I know that I keep telling myself that it all just takes time and some days it does get mighty discouraging. Please keep us posted when you have a chance. I know how busy raising young children can be so don’t fret about not posting sooner. My prayers are with you and also for your husband. I will try and keep you all posted how Retrouvaille went as we are going in January unless my husband backs out at the last minute which very well may happen. :confused:
 
losthope said:
Yes, I’m curious how it went for you, too. I’ve given up asking my wife if she’ll go. She’s totally convinced that she has no choice but to get a divorce. I continue to pray that something will soften her heart just a little to try something. I have done almost web search I can on Retrouvaille, putting in lots of combinations of words to search with it. I should be careful with my conclusions, since I’m naturally looking for successful experiences that people have, but anything I’ve found clearly indicates that almost a very high percentage of people have had successful experiences. It seems to be the exception that I find comments that were negative regarding what they got from it, even if they later didn’t stay together.
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i was in the same place 6 months ago but once you go in for the divorce and realise the implications, it is devastating… I have been trying to get back with my husband but it is too late for us now…
all i can ask you losthope to do is that if you two do go ahead with the filing of the divorce, please keep your heart open to any changes that you might see in your wife as when the reality of divorce kicks in - i hope she sees the light.
I will pray for the both of you and especially for your wife that she doesnt make the same mistake that I did but I also pray that you will not be as unforgiving as my husband if she does make the mistake.
God Bless~
 
Thanks for the reply and passing along hope. You didn’t say if you were the one to initiate the divorce or your husband. Why did it end up too late once you realized the severe implications of divorce? I am the one who caused the problems which is why my wife has decided to divorce me. However, once she was aware of the issue that I caused, I have done nothing except try and rebuild and atone for what I did. Many times she has said, “This isn’t where I want to be. I don’t want to do this, but I have to, etc.” And we have both said to each other, and to the counselor I see, that our family is THE most important thing to each of us. Yet even with that, and all the work I have done on myself, and my sincere desires to rebuild the marriage, she is stuck believing she has no options. It leaves me dumdfounded and confused. She has continued to state she doesn’t believe I love her, that my changes to myself won’t stick. No doubt you can sense my confusion and frustration.
 
he said some pretty mean things on our anniversary which got me so angry that the fight went on and he moved out… after all my pleadings he refused to come back… i waited for 5 months with no communication from him… finally i asked him one last time in an email and he said no again… so i decided to file for divorce as it became very evident that he was no longer interested in being in the marriage anymore…
i dont know what else to do… i am praying very hard that the holy spirit changes his heart…
after the experience with my husband, i would say that dont push matters… just be patient with her and keep showing her how you have changed in actions more than in words… since you are going for counselling, there is still hope and i will pray for you… and i think you are still living together so that is the greatest advantage…
hang in there and may the Lord’s strength be with you…
the fact that she keeps saying that means that she doesnt want the divorce… that was exactly what i was doing while i was filing as in my heart i didnt want to but in my case i didnt have a choice… he is no longer with me… for her she will not go through with it… trust in god
 
Losthope, I am sorry to hear that she has closed off her heart to true reconciliation with you. I will pray that she has a change of heart. Stubborn spouses!! I are one too!! I would say it’s just my hubby, but no, me too. Boy we have just fought for the past week and I am miserable about it. He doesn’t understand that I would like us to be of one mind, and get together more spiritually…he says I don’t know how much closer to you I can get, I married you. He says reading the bible with me is not going to get me off his you know what…he doesn’t understand how much he needs the Word of God and how powerful it can be. Like most people, he believes, and that is enough. It is a good thing but one of the seven deadly vices is sloth. Still God’s work to be done, by Him, not me I guess.

We just lack a level of intimacy that frankly now I don’t think we can ever get to, b/c he just thinks it’s about physical doing things I request or buying gifts - it’s not. He’s not a bad man or husband b/c there are way worse, but my desire for more in my relationship is misunderstood and not shared. huh!! Pretty much miracle time.
 
I thought I’d better join this thread. My husband and I have really been butting heads about religion and church lately. He thinks that I am absolutely bonkers because I go to church every Sunday and Holy day of obligation and insist on the kids coming with me. He thinks that we should only go once in a while when we “feel” like it, providing nothing better comes along (his words - just last night!). I wholeheartedly disagree, and it ensued into a bit of a fight. He informed me that my “dogmatic” and “inflexible” way of thinking is going to destroy our marriage and our family. I feel sad and frightened at this time, but I just didn’t feel like I could back down on this point. Any advice from those of you who have been here and done this would be greatly appreciated.
 
Hi mommy of 4

I too have four young children and my husband also does not go to church with us. He does watch the mass on TV and feels that’s good enough. He also told me this past week that I am becoming a religious nut and not the person he married. I don’t feel I’ve changed dramatically in my religious practice the only thing I’ve added is Eucharistic Adoration at our church on Mondays at Noon and I don’t think he even knows I go because I go on my lunch hour during work. Otherwise I believed in NFP, bible reading, going to mass every Sunday and Holy Day, going to reconciliation, received communion etc. since before we were married and I have shown this to him by getting out our Marriage Preparations book. He just laughs and said I probably changed my answers. :rolleyes: We have been struggling in our marriage for about seven out of our ten year marriage. All I know is you have to take one day at a time. Some days I think ah he’s starting to come around and other days it seems to be a couple steps backward. I will be praying for you and your family:thumbsup:
 
mnmom, thank you so much for your prayers! I’m praying for all of the marriages on this forum, too.🙂
 
I was told to search for this thread since I have been posting on another regarding my husband’s return to the JWs.

He was shunned and couldn’t preach. I had the hope that while shunned he’d figure out that this religion was not the truth, but he didn’t and was reinstated Tusday night, and of course I am heart broken by this. I wanted to ask if you gals can help me pray for the conversion of my husband to the CC, or actually, for him to come back since he was Catholic as a child.

I need all the help I can get. I really am suffering with this. I refuse to have children for the moment since he wants to raise them as JWs, and I will not bring a child to this world if they are not to be raised in the truth. I want them to be Catholic for their spiritual sake and well being.

Please pray for my husband so he can find the true path to God and so we can start a family w/o problems.

Any and all prayers will be truly appreciated!
 
yessisan said:
I was told to search for this thread since I have been posting on another regarding my husband’s return to the JWs.

He was shunned and couldn’t preach. I had the hope that while shunned he’d figure out that this religion was not the truth, but he didn’t and was reinstated Tusday night, and of course I am heart broken by this. I wanted to ask if you gals can help me pray for the conversion of my husband to the CC, or actually, for him to come back since he was Catholic as a child.

I need all the help I can get. I really am suffering with this. I refuse to have children for the moment since he wants to raise them as JWs, and I will not bring a child to this world if they are not to be raised in the truth. I want them to be Catholic for their spiritual sake and well being.

Please pray for my husband so he can find the true path to God and so we can start a family w/o problems.

Any and all prayers will be truly appreciated!
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Praying, yessisan.
 
yessisan,.

My heart goes out to you. You are in my prayers. Here are some words from my pastor - that he send to me this week - when I had emailed him about my situation with my husband:

“I encourage you to keep your desire alive, and look for opportunities for ongoing conversation about the meaning of your faith. Who knows what will happen over time. Perseverance is often the most difficult in matters most important to us!”

I hope that helps.

I would also suggest the rosary - which someone else had suggested to me. I haven’t started praying it regularly yet.

Have a Blessed Easter. My kids are getting baptized at the Easter Vigil. It hasn’t been easy. My husband has allowed this - but he isn’t a happy camper about the whole thing.
 
mommyof4 said:
Praying, yessisan.
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Thanks!
spalady said:
yessisan,.

My heart goes out to you. You are in my prayers. Here are some words from my pastor - that he send to me this week - when I had emailed him about my situation with my husband:

“I encourage you to keep your desire alive, and look for opportunities for ongoing conversation about the meaning of your faith. Who knows what will happen over time. Perseverance is often the most difficult in matters most important to us!”

I hope that helps.

I would also suggest the rosary - which someone else had suggested to me. I haven’t started praying it regularly yet.

Have a Blessed Easter. My kids are getting baptized at the Easter Vigil. It hasn’t been easy. My husband has allowed this - but he isn’t a happy camper about the whole thing.
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Those words are so true! Congrats on your kids’ baptisms! I’m hoping to pick up on the rosary praying. I ordered a cd so I can pray it in the car, I also have may prayers to saints so I can pray as much as I can for my husband’s converson…

I know God will bring him back when his time comes, but I hope it doesn’t take too long, I want kids so bad!
 
I was so touched by your plight that I had to post this. I was struck that you would not have kids until this was cleared up or improved…as I interpret it. I pray that you will have strength and courage in that regard. I myself am in a ‘mixed’ marriage with a non-Catholic believer. I want another baby but he thinks us too old. However, he has been extremely involved in Rs baptism when she was born and I think that I can see it may be through her that he actually comes into the Church. So postponing the babies may be postponing his own salvation as well. Just a thought and the advice regarding the rosary is certainly always comfort I turn to as well.

May God bless you especially this Easter!!
 
wgholland said:
I was so touched by your plight that I had to post this. I was struck that you would not have kids until this was cleared up or improved…as I interpret it. I pray that you will have strength and courage in that regard. I myself am in a ‘mixed’ marriage with a non-Catholic believer. I want another baby but he thinks us too old. However, he has been extremely involved in Rs baptism when she was born and I think that I can see it may be through her that he actually comes into the Church. So postponing the babies may be postponing his own salvation as well. Just a thought and the advice regarding the rosary is certainly always comfort I turn to as well.

May God bless you especially this Easter!!
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We do want children soon, but I don’t know if that will bring more problems. He thinks we’re raising them as JWs, but he knows I had to promise the CC I’d do my best to raise them Catholic. I just don’t want problems, but it’s up to God to decide if and when we can have kids.
 
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