St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[Lamb_Serenade]

DAY ONE

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the wisdom, perseverance, and patience for me and the continued sobriety, compassion and wisdom for my DH, (the cop) Roy,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[brandymmiller]

I’m hesitant to make this post. Call it superstition, but there isn’t room for superstition when we are praying is there? I’m hesitant as well to call it answered prayers because it is still so young and could be a ruse or placating to please what he perceives as my needs and not what actually needs to be done.

The last three days have been, well, normal…

I have my husband who is acting like a husband. Kissing his wife. Grabbing his wife (in a good way). Telling his wife he loves her. Having conversations with his wife. Spending MORE time with his wife and DD. Planning??? vacation, weekends, camping for the summer. I keep pinching myself wondering if I’m hallucinating or if it’s real !

He even called home tonight (he’s out of town for work) to let me know he made it safely, had a good dinner and to tell me he loves me :blushing: and what time he’ll be home tomorrow. I feel positively giddy! Like a school girl!

It has been three months of sleeping in separate rooms. Three months of him drinking and “hiding” it in our bedroom (like I didn’t know…sheesh!). Three months of denial. Three months of ignoring and avoiding me.

The last three days have been sober days. One day at a time right? The last three days he has been exercising. The last three days he has been eating good, healthy food (except for the fried chicken I bought last night…oops!). He has spent three days of making the effort to win me back.

I am feeling a sense of relief, a stronger sense of hope, and along with that a sense of apprehension. After all, I let my guard down before and I ended up with three months of hell.

It just occurred to me this post is full of threes. I’m having a strong feeling of the Trinity involved in this, so I can see it is prayers answered. I need to offer thanksgiving and praise for this! However short or infrequent. Whether temporary or forever I am thankful for these past three days and continue to pray that three days turns into three more days, then three weeks then three months and so on.

DH is in the middle of some remodeling on our bedroom, and my hope/plan is this will be real and I can move back to our marriage bed when he is done with the remodeling. I’m not going to just blindly say “Oh he’s cured!” and move back straight away. He has some proving to do to convince me this is in fact real. God PLEASE let it be real! I need my husband back!

I am going to begin another Novena to St. Monica for continued progress, for wisdom, perseverance, patience for me and continued sobriety, compassion and wisdom for my DH, the cop, Roy. I will also continue my Lenten sacrifice of a strict fast on Fridays, and I’m going to add Wednesdays as well.

I’ll pray with you that this time the change is permanent. Even if it isn’t, perhaps it is the spirit giving you the encouragement He sees you need to keep going. It can be tiring when you are in the trenches and feel like you are all by yourself.

 

[Lamb_Serenade]

I’ll pray with you that this time the change is permanent. Even if it isn’t, perhaps it is the spirit giving you the encouragement He sees you need to keep going. It can be tiring when you are in the trenches and feel like you are all by yourself.

Thank you Brandy. I know most, if not all of the women here at the St. M’s thread, are in the trenches to some degree or another and we all know how it feels. What I do know for sure, is you all have my back, and you all need to know, I have yours. You are all in my prayers every night. We struggle, but we should never struggle alone.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

I’m pretty :crying: today, and lately. I know I have so many blessings and I should be happy – it seems it’s easier to focus on what’s wrong, you know?..

Dearest Belle, I do not know how to make the sun shine a little brighter, :nope: the pain any lighter, and I most certainly do not know how to stop the tears from falling! :nope: But I do know this; Every winter has it’s spring, :heaven: so hang in there Baby! Prayers going up for you now my friend.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

I’m hesitant to make this post. Call it superstition, but there isn’t room for superstition when we are praying is there? I’m hesitant as well to call it answered prayers because it is still so young and could be a ruse or placating to please what he perceives as my needs and not what actually needs to be done.

The last three days have been, well, normal…

I have my husband who is acting like a husband. Kissing his wife. Grabbing his wife (in a good way). Telling his wife he loves her. Having conversations with his wife. Spending MORE time with his wife and DD. Planning??? vacation, weekends, camping for the summer. I keep pinching myself wondering if I’m hallucinating or if it’s real !

He even called home tonight (he’s out of town for work) to let me know he made it safely, had a good dinner and to tell me he loves me :blushing: and what time he’ll be home tomorrow. I feel positively giddy! Like a school girl!

It has been three months of sleeping in separate rooms. Three months of him drinking and “hiding” it in our bedroom (like I didn’t know…sheesh!). Three months of denial. Three months of ignoring and avoiding me.

The last three days have been sober days. One day at a time right? The last three days he has been exercising. The last three days he has been eating good, healthy food (except for the fried chicken I bought last night…oops!). He has spent three days of making the effort to win me back.

I am feeling a sense of relief, a stronger sense of hope, and along with that a sense of apprehension. After all, I let my guard down before and I ended up with three months of hell.

It just occurred to me this post is full of threes. I’m having a strong feeling of the Trinity involved in this, so I can see it is prayers answered. I need to offer thanksgiving and praise for this! However short or infrequent. Whether temporary or forever I am thankful for these past three days and continue to pray that three days turns into three more days, then three weeks then three months and so on.

DH is in the middle of some remodeling on our bedroom, and my hope/plan is this will be real and I can move back to our marriage bed when he is done with the remodeling. I’m not going to just blindly say “Oh he’s cured!” and move back straight away. He has some proving to do to convince me this is in fact real. God PLEASE let it be real! I need my husband back!

I am going to begin another Novena to St. Monica for continued progress, for wisdom, perseverance, patience for me and continued sobriety, compassion and wisdom for my DH, the cop, Roy. I will also continue my Lenten sacrifice of a strict fast on Fridays, and I’m going to add Wednesdays as well.

Debbie, this is a blessing, (but you already knew that) no matter where it goes from here! May God keep your husband close, and on the right path forever more! Thanks be to you God! :harp:

If you don’t mind my asking, your strict fast on Fridays, to which you are going to add Wednesdays, what does that involve? It sounds like more than just no meat? I’ve been thinking of fasting myself, but not sure how strict to be, or how long to fast… Was thinking a 3-day fast, monthly, with only clear fluids, and light broth.
Anybody else have any (name removed by moderator)ut on this?

 

[Diana_Lynn]

Novena to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

Day 2

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

 

[Diana_Lynn]

**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and in knowledge of you
and that these husbands become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble in mind and action.
Amen.**

 

[Rammy]

Debbie, this is a blessing, (but you already knew that) no matter where it goes from here! May God keep your husband close, and on the right path forever more! Thanks be to you God! :harp:

If you don’t mind my asking, your strict fast on Fridays, to which you are going to add Wednesdays, what does that involve? It sounds like more than just no meat? I’ve been thinking of fasting myself, but not sure how strict to be, or how long to fast… Was thinking a 3-day fast, monthly, with only clear fluids, and light broth.
Anybody else have any (name removed by moderator)ut on this?

A fast can be anything you choose. In my sons case being ill, he was never able to do more than no meat on Fridays. Doctors orders. He deeply took fasting to the heart, and with all of his might, he did smaller things, and at times, added them to others.

A complete sugar fast from things like pop, candy etc. One day is easy, but to do it 7 days is harder, and then the next week he’d change it, and so on.

The idea is to realize how easily things are there for us, and to use the displeasure or the lac of self controle to be a constant reminder of what God went through. He often wanted reminders in his life to be this flash card if you will…of Gods face…smile and then tell God, i will do what i can to walk beside you, to see your face, and know you are with me.

It is a form of prayer, dedication and bringing your struggles as a heavenly thankful prayer bank placed at the foot of the cross. He felt that God could use these sacrifices for the better of many still needing them in purgatory, or basically where he seen fit for his loving mission.

So, yes there is deep sacrificial fastings, but there are so many other ways for a busy mom to make her point of a loving sacrifice daily to her Lord. Like kissing his cheek daily.

Lana

 

[Rammy]

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[Rammy]

Lamb Saranade, this picture is for you…

I see you weary to trust, and trying to come out from the shade. With good cause, i understand, and to trust makes us vulnerable. If God had one thought, it was for you to revel in the three days, and to know there might be days back in the shaddows. BUT, with him, isn’t the struggle much easier, than alone. Often times keeping ourselves FROM him is the bitter hurt we feel…the pain from the seperation of him, and the hurtful pride we misplace to try and do it all alone. Funny how much lighter the load is WITH his hand in yours!

I want you to see this, that every day is a struggle, but the ones that do not hurt so deeply are the ones in the palm of HIS hands.

Remember this as well, you are percieved as a different person when in HIS light, and this might be a way your husband might find it easier to cope. Remember this, tell him each and ever time you are touched by the beauty of his thoughtfullness. It goes a long way. If he slips again, softly go to him and ask him if there is something you can do to help him, as he seems to be strugaling…and you love him and don’t want to see him in pain.

Then it is about his pain, not about his hideing in booze. If he says no, then smile, and say that you will be praying for him fo find another way around this, and you love him no matter what.

And walk away…and pray, pray, pray.

PS…a drop of holy water in that drink unbenounced to him might work wonders…holy salt in his food, blessing of the house etc.

Fr. Leo here on the forum might be able to help with particulars or Brotherhrolf. They are the few i lean on here.

You are in my prayers hun…

Lana

 

[BeeSweet]

Novena to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

Day 5

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

 

[mom4truth]

L amb:

What courage and strength you are showing! You are an inspiration to me right now, as I am going through a difficult time as well. I find it hard to “trust” the future myself. I guess all we need to do is trust God, right? I’m really trying to do that. My dh has been acting more “husbandly” too. I need it so badly! I love him, and I miss our old “feelings” we had for each other. I’ve been trying to be exceptionally “good” to him, and it seems to be helping the relationship. I’ve been in this place before, though, and things went awry. BUT - I do have hope - once again - as you do and as you show us here on this thread. You are a real blessing to me! I’ve got your back in prayer ALWAYS! Much love,

 

[BeeSweet]

**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!

 

[Belle10]

Friends,
Thanks so much for all the wonderful support and prayers. Today was another blue day==I feel lots better after I get off of work and am with my son and family. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
Belle 10,
thanks for the hug and suggestion for mother mary. Congratulations on your niece–what a blessing!!!

Sorry you’re blue too. It sounds like we’re similar: sad when we’re at work away from our children and families. I hate that today’s society virtually requires both parents to work – it’s so hard.

Our niece came home yesterday.

I’m hesitant to make this post. Call it superstition, but there isn’t room for superstition when we are praying is there? I’m hesitant as well to call it answered prayers because it is still so young and could be a ruse or placating to please what he perceives as my needs and not what actually needs to be done.

The last three days have been, well, normal…

I have my husband who is acting like a husband. Kissing his wife. Grabbing his wife (in a good way). Telling his wife he loves her. Having conversations with his wife. Spending MORE time with his wife and DD. Planning??? vacation, weekends, camping for the summer. I keep pinching myself wondering if I’m hallucinating or if it’s real !

He even called home tonight (he’s out of town for work) to let me know he made it safely, had a good dinner and to tell me he loves me and what time he’ll be home tomorrow. I feel positively giddy! Like a school girl!

It has been three months of sleeping in separate rooms. Three months of him drinking and “hiding” it in our bedroom (like I didn’t know…sheesh!). Three months of denial. Three months of ignoring and avoiding me.

The last three days have been sober days. One day at a time right? The last three days he has been exercising. The last three days he has been eating good, healthy food (except for the fried chicken I bought last night…oops!). He has spent three days of making the effort to win me back.

I am feeling a sense of relief, a stronger sense of hope, and along with that a sense of apprehension. After all, I let my guard down before and I ended up with three months of hell.

It just occurred to me this post is full of threes. I’m having a strong feeling of the Trinity involved in this, so I can see it is prayers answered. I need to offer thanksgiving and praise for this! However short or infrequent. Whether temporary or forever I am thankful for these past three days and continue to pray that three days turns into three more days, then three weeks then three months and so on.

DH is in the middle of some remodeling on our bedroom, and my hope/plan is this will be real and I can move back to our marriage bed when he is done with the remodeling. I’m not going to just blindly say “Oh he’s cured!” and move back straight away. He has some proving to do to convince me this is in fact real. God PLEASE let it be real! I need my husband back!

I am going to begin another Novena to St. Monica for continued progress, for wisdom, perseverance, patience for me and continued sobriety, compassion and wisdom for my DH, the cop, Roy. I will also continue my Lenten sacrifice of a strict fast on Fridays, and I’m going to add Wednesdays as well.

Debbie, how wonderful! Just keep praying – don’t ever stop!! :hug1:

I’ve heard there’s great “merit” in fasting, but I’ve never really done it except for on Ash Wednesday and on Fridays in Lent. Perhaps I’ll try it too (aside from the sacrifice for my family offered to God, it would probably help my waistline as well ).

**Dearest Belle, I do not know how to make the sun shine a little brighter, the pain any lighter, and I most certainly do not know how to stop the tears from falling! But I do know this; Every winter has it’s spring, so hang in there Baby! Prayers going up for you now my friend. **

Thank you friend. It’s like the end of winter is almost here (we have a plan but are waiting for one more piece before it’ll work) and spring just won’t come. Thank you for your prayers! :hug1:

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[Belle10]

Novena day 3:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for:

the conversion of my husband, the strong Catholic faith of our daughter,
the perpetual sobriety of my father and the renewal of my parents’ marriage,
and for all the marriages and families represented in this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Lord, I commend all husbands and wives
represented in this thread to you this day,
That you would raise us up to be men and
women after your own heart.
That you would cause us to grow in wisdom and
in knowledge of you and that these husbands
become holy and spiritual heads of these homes,
and that these wives become and remain vessels
that shine your light continuously.
Keep us all obedient to your will and humble
in mind and action.
Amen.

 

[mnmom]

Prayers urgently needed for my niece and her one year old Evan. They just moved into a new apartment and Evan fell through the screen on their apartment window on the third floor and fractured his skull. The bleeding in the brain has stopped and they are not sure if he will need surgury or not. Pray for his recovery and for his mom who is racked with guilt.

 

[BeeSweet]

Prayers urgently needed for my niece and her one year old Evan. They just moved into a new apartment and Evan fell through the screen on their apartment window on the third floor and fractured his skull. The bleeding in the brain has stopped and they are not sure if he will need surgury or not. Pray for his recovery and for his mom who is racked with guilt.

She must be absolutely devastated! How awful! May God speed Evan’s healing and give consolation to his mom. I pray he does not need surgery.

 

[Belle10]

Prayers urgently needed for my niece and her one year old Evan. They just moved into a new apartment and Evan fell through the screen on their apartment window on the third floor and fractured his skull. The bleeding in the brain has stopped and they are not sure if he will need surgury or not. Pray for his recovery and for his mom who is racked with guilt.

Praying now. You should put this in the prayer intentions thread too.

 

[katy]

She must be absolutely devastated! How awful! May God speed Evan’s healing and give consolation to his mom. I pray he does not need surgery.

Prayers as well for mom and son and family.

 

[Rammy]

Prayers urgently needed for my niece and her one year old Evan. They just moved into a new apartment and Evan fell through the screen on their apartment window on the third floor and fractured his skull. The bleeding in the brain has stopped and they are not sure if he will need surgury or not. Pray for his recovery and for his mom who is racked with guilt.

It is very devistating to know something could have been prevented. My little one at ten months grabbed a knife i had in my hand, and in trying to remove it, i cut her tendons in three fingers requiring stiches, and then two opperations. It still effects me due to the immence normality…moms fix, they do not cause.

The fact that she is devistated tells me she is a good mamma, and God is at her side. He would send his mother to comfort her i am sure, as she is the best mamma in heaven.

She would sit vigil over Even, no matter the outcome, for her love is deep…she too is his mother. If there are strings to be pulled, Mother mary is the one to interceed for one of her own.

I will pray to her for intercession…

Lana

Request of a lower level apt is understandable, or getting an air conditioner, and locking the windows from high up with sticks with rubber stoppers on each end. I did it in an apartment i had before. But like a patio door, you can do the track or the middle. With little ones, you need the highest point.

Poor thing, her heart must be breaking…