St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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You’re sweet to ask:heart: I don’t talk about my troubles much because it’s so painful. Please pray for my husband, he must go into counseling or there’s just no hope for us. He’s afraid. I’ve had to distance myself from him emotionally so he can’t hurt me as much. We’re not sleeping together anymore, and he’s not even asked why. We’re still pleasant to each other though.

My husband is emotionally sick. Our lives are such a mess. Prayer is probably the only thing keeping us together. If only he could hear Jesus calling him!
BeeSweet,

I’m so sorry. Praying for you and your dh.

Nikki
 
Belle:

I feel for you regarding your situation. I will keep praying that you dh gets a job so that you may be home with the kids. Life can be a challenge. Hopefully, your morning sickness will go away soon, too. On a positive note: it sounds like you have good husband. Please pray for mine. I am having outpatient surgery tomorrow and he won’t be with me. I don’t want him there because he doesn’t care. It’s very sad. Anyway, I’ll be praying VERY hard for you and your family! God bless you and take care of you! Much love,
mom4truth,

Praying that your surgery goes well.

Nikki
 
I don’t know if this has already been suggested, but can you transition over to a job out of your house? I have three part time online jobs that bring in real paychecks. There are some frauds out there, but it is possible to find real jobs online. I didn’t go back to work after my maternity leave for our third child ended in February and it was absolutely one of the smartest decisions we ever made. We have to cut way back and are planning for the fall when our savings will likely be gone, so of course it is not easy.

Can’t your husband find just ANY type of job (maybe two jobs), not necessarily in his field? Moving companies, pizza delivery, substitute teaching, stocking shelves, etc? I know not all husbands are supportive of their wives needing to be home, and maybe yours is not.

You have probably already thought of these options, but I just thought I would put in my two cents. Last year I had to leave my precious 4 month old (2nd child) to go back to my teaching job and it absolutely broke my heart. I know how you feel!
DH is supportive of me staying home, we just can’t swing it right now. 😦 Our health insurance is through my job, so if I quit, we have none, and we can’t do that. That’s why he can’t just take any job, you know? He has a college degree and is working on his master’s, so you’d think he wouldn’t have so much trouble getting hired. 😦

On the working at home, I would do it if I could, but again, it’s the insurance issue. You’re right, there are a lot of frauds out there, so if you have some suggestions (maybe what you do?) that you want to share, that would be great!

With our tax return (which we just got) we will be able to pay off some debt and our monthly bills will be manageable with only my income. So…if we can find something for DH that brings in at least what I’m making now (which isn’t that much) then I can stay home. I’m not praying to be rich, just to be able to cover our bills and be home with our little ones.

😦
 
You’re sweet to ask:heart: I don’t talk about my troubles much because it’s so painful. Please pray for my husband, he must go into counseling or there’s just no hope for us. He’s afraid. I’ve had to distance myself from him emotionally so he can’t hurt me as much. We’re not sleeping together anymore, and he’s not even asked why. We’re still pleasant to each other though.

My husband is emotionally sick. Our lives are such a mess. Prayer is probably the only thing keeping us together. If only he could hear Jesus calling him!
I’m so sorry Bee. 😦 :hug1:
Belle10,

I am so sorry for your troubles. I’ll continue to send prayers your way. If your dh didn’t get this job, then there must be a better one out there for him. I hope he finds it soon.

Nikki
Thanks Nikki. :hug1:
 
DH is supportive of me staying home, we just can’t swing it right now. 😦 Our health insurance is through my job, so if I quit, we have none, and we can’t do that. That’s why he can’t just take any job, you know? He has a college degree and is working on his master’s, so you’d think he wouldn’t have so much trouble getting hired. 😦

On the working at home, I would do it if I could, but again, it’s the insurance issue. You’re right, there are a lot of frauds out there, so if you have some suggestions (maybe what you do?) that you want to share, that would be great!

With our tax return (which we just got) we will be able to pay off some debt and our monthly bills will be manageable with only my income. So…if we can find something for DH that brings in at least what I’m making now (which isn’t that much) then I can stay home. I’m not praying to be rich, just to be able to cover our bills and be home with our little ones.

😦
I’m glad he is supportive. I understand the health insurance thing. That is why it took us so long. I was carrying the health insurance through my teaching job. My daughter had eye surgeries; I was pregnant. We couldn’t go through the exclusionary period for pre-existing conditions. Now we pay for our insurance privately. We pay $442 a month for no deductible and a family of five and 30% copay. With a deductible and fewer benefits you can get it down to $250 or $300 a month.

Anyway, about the online jobs. For the 3 companies I work for: esylvan, Alpha Omega Academy, and Michigan Virtual High School, you have to have a teaching degree. I originally got the leads for these jobs off ebay from a list of reputable companies to work from home, but I just looked and it’s not being offered anymore. They weren’t all teaching jobs. Some of them were writing jobs. I have it as a pdf file. Not sure if i can message it to you through the site. I will try it. I worked through both of my last pregnancies, was on my feet 8+ hours a day, and had to stop at least once each morning to throw up on the way to work. I feel for you!!!
 
I’m glad he is supportive. I understand the health insurance thing. That is why it took us so long. I was carrying the health insurance through my teaching job. My daughter had eye surgeries; I was pregnant. We couldn’t go through the exclusionary period for pre-existing conditions. Now we pay for our insurance privately. We pay $442 a month for no deductible and a family of five and 30% copay. With a deductible and fewer benefits you can get it down to $250 or $300 a month.

Anyway, about the online jobs. For the 3 companies I work for: esylvan, Alpha Omega Academy, and Michigan Virtual High School, you have to have a teaching degree. I originally got the leads for these jobs off ebay from a list of reputable companies to work from home, but I just looked and it’s not being offered anymore. They weren’t all teaching jobs. Some of them were writing jobs. I have it as a pdf file. Not sure if i can message it to you through the site. I will try it. I worked through both of my last pregnancies, was on my feet 8+ hours a day, and had to stop at least once each morning to throw up on the way to work. I feel for you!!!
I’d love info. on your health insurance – we pay more than $600 monthly for the 3 of us (they don’t could the unborn yet) and that’s with my company paying 100% of my portion! :eek:

Thanks for the info. on the jobs. I am not a teacher but I am a writer/editor…DH is working on his master’s in education and will be triple-certified once finished.

Checking my PMs…thanks for the help!
 
Dearest BeeSweet:

I’m so glad I asked how you are. Now I can pray like “all get-out” for you and your dh. (Not that I haven’t been before, but now the big guns come out!) It seems that many of us are in the same situation as you. My dh needs help, too. Of course, he gets it, but then doesn’t listen to the advice. That’s nice…So - there’s not much hope in this direction either. BUT - we can always hope for a miracle, Bee!! I’m counting on it, for YOU and for ME! I will keep you in daily prayer and in my rosaries! God bless you. You are truly a blessing to me! Much love,
 
Dear Friends, I am utterly overwhelmed and devastated by what the men who are supposed to love us chose to do to us and put us through. BeeSweet, it breaks my heart to hear you are living under such similar circumstances to my own. I feel your pain down to the bottom of my soul and pray we both have the strength to give it to God as prayer for the healing of our husbands and of ourselves. May we have the strength to make the decisions that have to be made and persevere through each day with our heads held high.

I am so grateful I have this thread and you friends to lean on who know how I feel and are still willing to pray for me. You are all truly a gift!

As always, I continue to pray for all of you!
 
Hello. It looks like I am joining this thread today although I’ve been praying to St. Monica with you for a few days now.

We’ve been married almost 11 years. We have 1 DD (9). It is possible we are expecting another - I plan to get tested today.

I am very concerned that my husband may be looking for a divorce. I am so scared and lonely right now and, although I am praying, I don’t feel like I can do anything. I haven’t been sleeping and I can’t eat either.

I am not sure if I am hoping for to be pregnant or not. We were trying (and it was the last cycle we were going to use fertility meds). I don’t know if it would help or hurt our marriage more than it is. Our two other pregnancies in the last 8 years have ended in miscarriage. I don’t think our marriage could handle another one.

Please pray for me as I am praying for all of you.
 
Hello. It looks like I am joining this thread today although I’ve been praying to St. Monica with you for a few days now.

We’ve been married almost 11 years. We have 1 DD (9). It is possible we are expecting another - I plan to get tested today.

I am very concerned that my husband may be looking for a divorce. I am so scared and lonely right now and, although I am praying, I don’t feel like I can do anything. I haven’t been sleeping and I can’t eat either.

I am not sure if I am hoping for to be pregnant or not. We were trying (and it was the last cycle we were going to use fertility meds). I don’t know if it would help or hurt our marriage more than it is. Our two other pregnancies in the last 8 years have ended in miscarriage. I don’t think our marriage could handle another one.

Please pray for me as I am praying for all of you.
((((stadre)))) Sorry to hear of your pain. May God’s will be done in all our lives, and may He give us the strength and peace to accept it. :hug1: :grouphug:
 
Belle:

How are you feeling today? You are in my prayers. Much love,:hug3:
 
Belle:

How are you feeling today? You are in my prayers. Much love,:hug3:
Thank you for your prayers. I’m feeling awful. 😦 I cannot focus on work and I just can’t do it anymore, but I can’t quit until DH finds a job. It’s very depressing and literally making me sicker each day. I was up with DD at 3:30 a.m. and then I couldn’t get back to sleep until after 4:30 b/c I was so nauseated…I just feel like I’ve given all I can and have nothing left. I’m upset because I feel like God won’t help us – which I know is a terrible thing to say and so untrue – but I’m not asking for millions, just for a job for DH so I can stay home with our children.

Sorry for the rant, I just can’t keep going this way. The stress is too much. :crying:
 
:console: Belle:

Awwww! I feel terrible for you! I think it’s o.k. to think that God’s not helping us (once in awhile). After all, you really KNOW He is, as you stated. It’s just things get so stressful and tiresome that it feels that way. I’m praying really hard that your husband gets a job. Please don’t overdo it! Remember the baby comes first (as if you didn’t know that:D ). I’ll pray that you have continued good health (besides the puking & nausea) and that you keep your stamina until dh finds a job. Hang in there! Praying for all of you! Much love,
 
Belle, I am sorry to hear you are going through such a stressful time.
I wonder ladies, can we start an extra novena for a job for Belle’s husband???
If Lana has so kindly nominated me as secretary (ha ha, that’s funny! The most disorganised person I know!) then can I suggest this?
I know others have pressing and very real and heartbreaking situations, but this seems more attainable quickly than those of us with mentally sick husbands to change, if you know what I mean. Not that I am dismissing anyone’s pain.

Stadre, sorry to hear of your situation. Why do you think he is thinking divorce? Hopefully your assumptions are wrong. We will pray.

Mom4Truth, how did your sugery go? How are you feeling?

Lamb, I know what you mean when you wonder how the men who are supposed to love us can treat us so badly. I wonder that myself sometimes. I just cant work it out when I try to be kind and charitable I am accused of the opposite.
It’s our Cross, I guess.
Beesweet, I will pray extra hard for those who have such seemingly hopeless situations.
I know we (my H and me) have no chance at all without a miracle. I do not know what will become of us, but it is all in God’s hands.
Praying for all you wonderful and courageous women on here. God bless you all and stay strong! God will not forsake us!
 
jules:

I think that’s a great idea that we start a Novena for Belle’s hubby. Let me know which one. I have my surgery at 1pm today. Getting butterflies right now. Plus, I have a MIGRAINE :eek: . Thank goodness my parents are taking me. Praying for all today! God bless everyone.😉
 
I found this…
I have changed it a little to suit.
Who would like to start it with me along with our St. Monica novena?

A Prayer For Employment

God, our Father, we turn to You seeking Your divine help and guidance as Belle’s DH looks for suitable employment.
He needs Your wisdom to guide his footsteps along the right path, and to lead him to find the proper things to say and do in this quest. Help him to use the gifts and talents You have given him, but he needs the opportunity to do so with gainful employment.
Do not abandon him, dear Father, in this search, but rather grant him this favor we seek so that he may return to You with praise and thanksgiving for Your gracious assistance.
Grant this through Christ, our Lord.
Amen​

"Bless, 0 Lord of the centuries and the millennia, the daily work by which men and women provide bread for themselves and their loved ones. We also offer to your fatherly hands the toil and sacrifices associated with work, in union with your Son Jesus Christ, who redeemed human work from the yoke of sin and restored it to its original dignity. - Pope John Paul II
 
jules:

I think that’s a great idea that we start a Novena for Belle’s hubby. Let me know which one. I have my surgery at 1pm today. Getting butterflies right now. Plus, I have a MIGRAINE :eek: . Thank goodness my parents are taking me. Praying for all today! God bless everyone.😉
Oh dear! I think you are suffering for many souls… just like so many others on here.
 
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