St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Lamb_Serenade said:
Hi Ladies,

I wanted to let you know I am here. I check in every day and pray for your intentions at night as I fall asleep. I’ve been sitting back and sort of regrouping. I haven’t been in to my spiritual director for over a month and am trying to remain calm in my spirit.

Things are up and down and quite frankly I have no idea where DH is in his thinking, drinking or spirituality, therefore I have no idea where I stand with him. At times he seems like he is reaching out and connecting only to draw back and “bite”, if you know what I mean.

I only reach out a hand when he reaches out to me at this point. If it gets rejected I simply step back and wait. The reaching out is happening more often but isn’t lasting for long. A day or two at most.

Tell me if you think this is awful. DH has had work obligations recently which have taken him away from home, out of town, for several days in a row two different times. He is leaving again this week. Him being gone has been like a mini vacation for me, and I look forward to it on some levels. I miss him when he’s gone, but it’s nice to not tip toe around wondering how he is going to be, wondering if he’s drinking, etc., etc. What
do you think? Is it wrong/bad for me to feel the way I do? I have a sense of guilt. I never stop praying for him, loving him. I just want our marriage to be solid, healthy, supportive and loving, so I guess it kind of feels like I’m betraying my own desires and prayers by enjoying his time away from us.

I just ask all of you to continue to pray for me. I get a sense something really important is around the corner. I just don’t know how long the road is ahead before I get to the corner. After all, this has been going on intensely for over a year and in my blindness for around 10 years, so the road is long.

On another note, I struggled and bit my tongue when we were being attacked here at St.M’s but I was so proud of all of you who responded with grace, peace and beautiful kind answers. You go girls!!

Oh, and jules, thanks for the list. It gives a greater sense of how real this is. I’m sure for each of us who have posted here, there are many many who have stopped in, read all or part of the thread and have been affirmed and/or prayed for us.
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Dearest Debbie,
Do not feel guilty at being relieved when he is gone. It is only NATURAL and human to feel that way!
Noone wants to live on edge all the time, not knowing what will make your husband blow up, lose his temper or hurl abuse at you. Do not spend this time feeling guilty but use it to relax and calm your soul so you can be better equipped for the next battle. Time to spend with God and renewing your strength and resolve.
I know so much how you feel!
You want the marriage to be happy and a place of love and comfort but it is not to be at the moment so the only time you get the happiness and comfort is your time with God, not your husband.
Please do not feel bad. Your feelings are not wrong. They are normal. One does get tired of battles. You need time to rest.
God bless you
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
Dearest Diana,

*** Heavenly Father hold Your dear daughter Diana close to Your Heart. Embrace this loving a sacrificial soul and bring relief for her in her pain. Sooth her soul and give her the answers and help she so desperately needs. Send those who are best equipped to aid her in her deepest and fervent time of need. May her Guardian Angel be ever at her side and may a blessed and holy army of Angels protect and guide her through this darkness. Holy Spirit shine Your Light so she may raise her face to the Glory and Love of our Savior, Jesus Christ.***
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AMEN!
 
Updated list.

Belle10
Prayerbead
Lamb Serenade
Erazo
BeeSweet!
EmergencyOps
Katy
Djgang
Yessisan
Dessert
Cagrl
yourview1
stpiomom
Skittles3074
Mdomashinski
mom4truth
Diana Lynn
Pixie Dust
alanswife30
Run Mom
eli1118
StarArien
Gstewart
Jennifer823
Jaq
Nancyannheath
Rammy
Imamom
JCLA
Peacefulpainter
ChooseLove
Mnmom
Brandymmiller
Gloria Lucy
Vicki333
Iris79
Galilea
AnotherChance
ahop0711
nannygirl
Zizi
**jules11 **
mommyof4
 
Indeed Lamb Serenade…never feel guilty, as the lac of care you believe you should be doing is done out of guilt, and feel guiltier when he is gone. This is merely a level of enabeling because we feel we are trying so hard to fix things, but others pass over their responsability onto us so often and we bring them to the best place we can, and they fall again.

Instead of the big realization of then feeling guilty we could not fix it, we feel guilty or like a failure.BUT, we were not meant to be passed someone elses responsability in life when they are able to do so. It is their guilt for doing so, not yours for not being able to make them responsible for themselves.

It feels like parenting and adult who will not listen!

we are meant to be good ears, and a comfort, and through our actions bring them to god. It is our actions of guidence that makes it a christian act. The mere thought that we are supposed to fix it i am sure baffles the Lord. He says, as we steal his clientele…It’s My job to fix them, not hers! (God saying this)

We are simply good semaritans, sheepherding them to the WELL. Only the well can truly nurish them of the living waters! They drink, or whatever because they are empty…

Never feel bad for not flinching for a day or so cause your nerves are wrecked. Take this time GOD has given you to recharge, and catch your breath. He has reason for everything.

And he loves you…

Lana
 
Jules, you are priceless…
Thank you for the list.
You can see how many
have learned to pray with
and for you.

:crossrc: :highprayer: :byzsoc: :nun2: :gopray: :gopray2: :angel1: :harp:
 
Rammy said:
Jules, you are priceless…
Thank you for the list.
You can see how many
have learned to pray with
and for you.

:crossrc: :highprayer: :byzsoc: :nun2: :gopray: :gopray2: :angel1: :harp:
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Lana, This is a wonderful thread for support and advice. I just love you guys and I think about you often and remember to pray for your situations.
This is the true meaning of family… in the church. We are all family and one day we will see the fruits of our prayers and sufferings.
God bless you all!
 
jules11 said:
Updated list.

Belle10
Prayerbead
**Lamb Serenade **
Erazo
BeeSweet!
EmergencyOps
Katy
Djgang
Yessisan
Dessert
Cagrl
yourview1
stpiomom
Skittles3074
Mdomashinski
mom4truth
Diana Lynn
Pixie Dust
alanswife30
Run Mom
eli1118
StarArien
Gstewart
Jennifer823
Jaq
Nancyannheath
Rammy
Imamom
JCLA
Peacefulpainter
ChooseLove
Mnmom
Brandymmiller
Gloria Lucy
Vicki333
Iris79
Galilea
AnotherChance
ahop0711
nannygirl
Zizi
**jules11 **
mommyof4
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Praying for one and all on this list and for all hurting spouses around the world…
 
jules:

I am so grateful to you that you have made this list! I am praying each day for everyone on this list and their husbands as well. Please everyone, let’s keep our chins up! We’re in this journey together! God bless us all!🙂
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Ladies,

Please pray for me today. I think I may be falling into a depression after the birth of my baby. It has happened to me before. I feel like I am not caring for my family like I should and it is hard to get up in the morning and get to work and see that the kids get what they need etc. I will be seeing the doctor today because kids are sick and will talk about me as well maybe get on medication again to get back on track to be there for my kids and husband. I think the list is great especially for me who has a hard time remembering lately. I will pray for all on this thread at adoration today after I take kids to the doctors.
 
mnmom said:
Ladies,

Please pray for me today. I think I may be falling into a depression after the birth of my baby. It has happened to me before. I feel like I am not caring for my family like I should and it is hard to get up in the morning and get to work and see that the kids get what they need etc. I will be seeing the doctor today because kids are sick and will talk about me as well maybe get on medication again to get back on track to be there for my kids and husband. I think the list is great especially for me who has a hard time remembering lately. I will pray for all on this thread at adoration today after I take kids to the doctors.
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I will pray for you, mnmom. I have a new baby too. It can get overwhelming, but hang in there. I have been praying for support and more energy to care for my family in the way God wants me to, and it has been helping.

Thanks to the group for posting the list of participants in this forum and to the individual who took the time to search out each name. I had only posted once here, but have been reading each post since then.

I am in the process of converting to Catholicism. My husband was baptized Catholic, but is a lapsed Catholic. He is not really supporting me in my journey to the Catholic faith, so it has been more difficult than it could have been. I know in my heart what I am doing will be best for our children, because they will be able to be raised in the Catholic faith, even if their father chooses not to actively attend.

Lately DH has repeatedly said how he doesn’t want to have any more children (we have three). This has been painful, since I am going in the other direction since having started to study Catholicism. Thanks everyone for being here.
 
Hi Ladies,

Jules11, thank you for taking the time to make the list. I know it will help me immensly.

Mnmom, I will pray for you. I also have suffered depression after the births of two of my babies, including the current one.

A little update on my son, for anyone who might be interested. He finally got in to see the public health nurse for that hearing test, and he failed as we knew he would. He has partial hearing in his right ear and none at all in his left. So now we are on to the next step, which is waiting to see the audiologist. I pray we can resolve whatever the problem is easily, and before he starts school in September.

I’m still praying for all you ladies and especially that Diana Lynn returns soon.

Nikki
 
AnotherChance said:
I will pray for you, mnmom. I have a new baby too. It can get overwhelming, but hang in there. I have been praying for support and more energy to care for my family in the way God wants me to, and it has been helping.

Thanks to the group for posting the list of participants in this forum and to the individual who took the time to search out each name. I had only posted once here, but have been reading each post since then.

I am in the process of converting to Catholicism. My husband was baptized Catholic, but is a lapsed Catholic. He is not really supporting me in my journey to the Catholic faith, so it has been more difficult than it could have been. I know in my heart what I am doing will be best for our children, because they will be able to be raised in the Catholic faith, even if their father chooses not to actively attend.

Lately DH has repeatedly said how he doesn’t want to have any more children (we have three). This has been painful, since I am going in the other direction since having started to study Catholicism. Thanks everyone for being here.
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AnotherChance,

Prayers for your journey into the Church and for your family.

Nikki
 
I should clarify since it’s been several pages since the update - my husband is Catholic now. 😃 He and my kids did RCIA last fall/winter and entered the Church at Easter Vigil. I still pray for all of you here, though! HOWEVER please PLEASE pray for my 12 yo daughter, Rosey. She entered the Church mostly because the rest of the family was and she had that “tween” attitude - Mass is boring, she doesn’t pay attention, she doesn’t see why she should go, blah blah blah… This same child last August was complaining that it wasn’t fair that I got to enter the Church after a Summer Intensive RCIA (she came with me to most of the sessions, but spent a lot of the class time getting donuts and juice so she wasn’t exactly there, y’know?) but still had to wait and go through the full RCIA course.

So anyway, if you could continue to pray for her I’d appreciate it.
 
JCLA, of course we will keep DS on our prayer list, and finally you are able to move forward to the next step.

Pixie Dust…and for your daughter…as she excells way past my husbands involvement, i still see your point! Praying for her.

mnmom, i am praying very urgently for you. Being a mom under these circomstances is so dificult, and the fact that you can step back and analize this very clearly is a god send. Please follow through, and seek the doctors help. I to am in this situation, but meds are not covered so i try and make them stretch out.

StarArien, bless you for adding our list in to your prayer list…blessings.

AND, i nominate Jules as our secretary in charge…👍

Lana

PS, this is 14 days for Diana…please keep praying guys!
 
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