St. Monica, Pray for us!

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JLCecilia said:
My situation too continues to have ups and downs, more of the latter and less of the former, as usual…
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😦 I’m so sorry JLC! :hug1: :crossrc: Prayers for you and your little ones and all in this thread. :hug1:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
hey girls…startin to feel like brushing off the cobwebs!
A few days here and i am not yet, but contemplating…

perky!!!

ok, time to shower…hehe…i am offending myself.
just imagine what others think…i did not care!

Lana
 
DH and I had a few tiffs this weekend. It speaks volumes to me that of all days, he wasn’t at mass with us on Father’s Day. I was so mad at how he talked to me this weekend that I emailed him a nasty-gram yesterday and then spent all day feeling horrible. I wanted to ask him to just delete it b/c it was so aweful, I just needed to vent. Still not sure if he’s read it.

He didn’t help one iota to get ready for our family outing on Saturday (to visit w/ HIS family 2 hrs away) and wouldn’t give me the time of day beforehand to discuss what needed to be done and how much time was needed to get ready and when we wanted to leave. It was all up to me! But when things didn’t go as quickly as he wanted, he flat out yelled at me. Forget the fact that he didn’t bother to set his alarm (which again speaks volumes to me about the priority he has placed on the day). He has this mentality that he should just roll out of bed whenever it pleases him and leave as soon as he’s ready. Then, when he didn’t get complete directions and we ended up 10 miles out of our way and had to turn back, he griped at me again like it was my fault.

I am so sick of our horrible communication and the fact that he has zero self control when it comes to his temper. Not to mention the example he’s setting for our sons and just the thought of having to deal with THREE total monsters and total disrespect from EVERYONE in my care.

I should be singing God’s praises that he finally agreed to go to a Retrovaille weekend on the weekend of my birthday. But I want to visit with our priest like every month from now till then (in 3 months) and start working on things now rather than just waiting for the weekend to come, spend 2.5 days working on it and then coming home and having/making no foundation with which to foster any kind of progress. I know first and foremost Fr. will mention daily prayer and one-on-one time. DH really needs to give up the computer in its entirety and get on some anti-depressants (IMO) in order for anything to work. I think he’s just got this idea, ok I’ll go to this thing for 3 days to make her happy and then come back and everything will be fine even if nothing changes. His cousin just happens to be getting married the weekend after our retreat and our 3yo is supposed to be the ring-bearer.

GOD HELP US!!!
 
JLCecilia said:
DH and I had a few tiffs this weekend. It speaks volumes to me that of all days, he wasn’t at mass with us on Father’s Day. I was so mad at how he talked to me this weekend that I emailed him a nasty-gram yesterday and then spent all day feeling horrible. I wanted to ask him to just delete it b/c it was so aweful, I just needed to vent. Still not sure if he’s read it.

He didn’t help one iota to get ready for our family outing on Saturday (to visit w/ HIS family 2 hrs away) and wouldn’t give me the time of day beforehand to discuss what needed to be done and how much time was needed to get ready and when we wanted to leave. It was all up to me! But when things didn’t go as quickly as he wanted, he flat out yelled at me. Forget the fact that he didn’t bother to set his alarm (which again speaks volumes to me about the priority he has placed on the day). He has this mentality that he should just roll out of bed whenever it pleases him and leave as soon as he’s ready. Then, when he didn’t get complete directions and we ended up 10 miles out of our way and had to turn back, he griped at me again like it was my fault.

I am so sick of our horrible communication and the fact that he has zero self control when it comes to his temper. Not to mention the example he’s setting for our sons and just the thought of having to deal with THREE total monsters and total disrespect from EVERYONE in my care.

I should be singing God’s praises that he finally agreed to go to a Retrovaille weekend on the weekend of my birthday. But I want to visit with our priest like every month from now till then (in 3 months) and start working on things now rather than just waiting for the weekend to come, spend 2.5 days working on it and then coming home and having/making no foundation with which to foster any kind of progress. I know first and foremost Fr. will mention daily prayer and one-on-one time. DH really needs to give up the computer in its entirety and get on some anti-depressants (IMO) in order for anything to work. I think he’s just got this idea, ok I’ll go to this thing for 3 days to make her happy and then come back and everything will be fine even if nothing changes. His cousin just happens to be getting married the weekend after our retreat and our 3yo is supposed to be the ring-bearer.

GOD HELP US!!!
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God will help you and I know he will help my marriage too. It’s just so hard to see sometimes.

Our parish is working on a new program and I am hoping my DH and I will be in the first group to go trough it. It’s called The Third Option and it looks very promising. I’m anxious for it to get off the ground because I think hubby may actually be interested in attending. Here is the link for you to look at. See if this is available in your area.

thethirdoption.com/index.htm

Prayer for all of you St. M’s spouses! May our blessed Lord be with us and may the Holy Spirit be ever guiding us along this dark and difficult path.
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
God will help you and I know he will help my marriage too. It’s just so hard to see sometimes.
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Amen! :yup:
Lamb_Serenade said:
Our parish is working on a new program and I am hoping my DH and I will be in the first group to go trough it. It’s called The Third Option and it looks very promising. I’m anxious for it to get off the ground because I think hubby may actually be interested in attending. Here is the link for you to look at. See if this is available in your area.

thethirdoption.com/index.htm
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I hope this goes well for you!
Lamb_Serenade said:
Prayer for all of you St. M’s spouses! May our blessed Lord be with us and may the Holy Spirit be ever guiding us along this dark and difficult path.
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Ditto. :crossrc:

You know, there are varied levels of marital situations in this thread, but the one thing that is constant for all of us is that we trust in God and know that He has wonderful plans for us, even when things are difficult. I often think about the people who have gone through similar trials without the benefit of the internet and being able to reach out to others going through it too…it’s a blessing to have CAF and this thread, even if we don’t post often. :grouphug:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
First, the good news. My DH converted with me into the Church several years ago after many years of me wanting desperately to convert, and with him making tons of excuses not to. I really wanted us to convert together, and we eventually did.
During this time, we sent our children to Catholic schools, had nightly family worship, went to an Anglican church every Sunday, our children were in the youth group, etc.
Now two of my sons have decided they are atheists because a philosophy professor at their university has poisoned their minds. I am distraught. One son is 22, the other is 20. How could they reject Jesus?
I am trying to be very careful and not preach to them, but just live my faith quietly. I have recently started praying to St. Monica and praying the Chaplet. I know that God hears my prayers but I am so distressed over the possibility of my sons dying suddenly and going to hell.
I cling to the Bible verse that says, “Bring up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Please, God, bring my sons back!
 
Hi girls…and guys…been a while since i was here. Just arrived down home for a two month stay in Cape Breton, Nova Scotia…with family…me and the two girls.

Soooo nice to be away from the normal stresses and pace of home. However, the change has a price of deep envy. An envy of caos with a shrug and a smile…stress is differnt here. It is about bills and life…the sure thing ~ the people. Everyone is sure of their lives with their significant others.

Such a simple thing…to count on a partner…something i forgot even existed beyond wishing for…

Lana
 
Hello everyone! Musician–I am praying for you and your sons!
My husband is not Catholic. He is very blah about the whole thing. The only reason he wants to become Catholic is so that he doesn’t stick out like a sore thumb at Mass. God Bless him but I’m afraid he is not doing it for the right reasons. We have VERY different personalities- I sometimes wonder why I ever married him. (BTW-We were married outside the Church-I came “home again” 2 years ago, and had our marriage blessed by the Church to make it valid…) Finally, I have resolved to the fact that nothing I say to him will open his eyes, only the Holy Spirit can do that. I will be married to this man until death- I offer up the trials I face being married to him for the intentions of the Holy Father. Sometimes I think that being in this marriage is my penance for the sins of my life. Don’t get me wrong, other times my marriage is great. I just ask God to help me convert him by prayer and example, rather than by words that may antagonize.
 
It’s been a while since I caught up on this thread, but I am glad to see that things seem to be more active again 🙂

I was surprised by how many of the posts I read today from you strong ladies reflected some aspect of my own marriage. Someone thinks her husband needs antidepressants, someone has a husband who agrees that things are his fault when she unloads on him but isn’t willing to change them, someone says that she thinks God led her to her husband for a reason and hopes it’s to bring him home, someone gets angry when her husband shuts her out. I can’t tell you how much these, and a half-dozen other things you’ve said, mean to me. It’s just so reassuring to know that I’m not alone, that others are working on a similar journey.

I sometimes think that the greatest stumbling block for us now is my own self. I need to live faithfully to the fullest extent of the grace God gives me to be sure that I am doing my part in God’s plan for my DH and myself. And yet, I find my expressions of faith to be lukewarm and lagging. Maybe it’s time for a “mini-Lent” for myself.
 
Hello, I have not posted here for a long, long time. Please pray for my husband. I desire so much for him to not be a lukewarm Catholic. He attends mass with me every week but really is just there to be with me and fill a seat. He is not really interested in anything Catholic. He will not go to confession but receives communion every Sunday! :eek:

*He is so hooked to golf that if he were to pray and go to church events or dedicate himself as much as he does to golf he would be such a holy man! I pray for him all the time and offer up every mass for his faith or lack thereof. I try to guide him towards God little by little but I feel he’s hanging on by a thread. I just feel he is concerned with things of this earth than with the things of God. He is a wonderful husband and father but I do worry about his soul/spiritual life. *

I continue to pray for you all. May God grant the desires of your hearts!

Blessings!
 
Hello,

thanks so much everyone for sharing, like others have said, it is SO good to know that I am not the only wife going through some of these very similar trials.

I am going to try so hard to remember to pray for my husband and my marriage everytime I have those nasty, negative feelings towards my husband. Instead of worrying about trust issues (since I can’t control what he does), I’m going to pray to Saint Monica and Saint Joseph that my husband will make the best choices for our family, that he will think of his marriage and children before himself. I know that I also need to pray that I do the same. Please pray for my family…for peace in my heart, and for trust in God.

Another prayer I need if you can…let me explain, in my parish they are trying to set up a house where pregnant girls/women can receive counseling etc…with the hope that they will carry their children through and not resort to abortion. Some of the neighbors have “complained” (who would do such a thing!) and now they are having zoning issues…please pray for a solution as this house would be such a blessing and most likely save some innocent lives.

I am praying for all the intentions here as well.

God bless all of you!
Dear Mary, Saint Monica, Saint Joseph, Saint Joachim and Saint Anne, please pray for us!
 
Praying for all – “old” and new members, all families represented here, all prayer intentions represented here. :crossrc: :grouphug:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

:crossrc: :grouphug:
 
Really struggling with charity for DH this morning. He is sick - AGAIN! He wasn’t well on Sunday, so I had to do mass with the little ones on my own (keep in mind I started potty training my 3yo this weekend, so there was THAT to deal with on top of everything else). Then again yesterday he wasn’t feeling well and he didn’t put in all his time at work. Today it appears that he won’t even be going to work.

He made himself a deal a couple of weeks ago that if he doesn’t get up and help with the boys in the a.m. and get to work on time and get home to help with them in the evenings, that he wouldn’t get on the computer, as a punishment to himself. That worked for about 10 days. But basically when he got up in the a.m., he would get dressed, have a smoke and just sit there on the couch while I’m running around like mad getting 2 little ones ready. When he’d get home, he’d busy himself with mowing the yard until it was time to get online - so how did that help me and the kids?

So his excuse for getting on the past couple of days and getting off schedule again is that it doesn’t count if he’s sick - BUT HE’S SICK ALL THE TIME!!! I really believe that his chronic illnesses are a consequence of his choices - that he has a weaker immune system b/c he forgets to eat and doesn’t get the rest he needs b/c of his computer addiction. I told him he needs to cut the computer out altogether if he’s going to get serious about being a better husband and father.

Now I have to call and cancel my volunteer hours for our church’s pro-life booth at the fair tonight b/c I have ZERO back-up help for the kids.

RRRGG! So frustrated and resent being the only dependable one! And it’s frustrating when he gripes at me for being short w/ him when he’s sick - well, when did he ever come to my rescue when I needed him to take the kids to the sitter so I could lay down and rest? Where was he those 2-3 weeks of 24/7 morning sickness when I still had to care for the kids all on my own in the evenings, crawling all over me and having to fix supper still and get them to bed?

WHY? WHY? WHY?
 
JLCecilia said:
So his excuse for getting on the past couple of days and getting off schedule again is that it doesn’t count if he’s sick - BUT HE’S SICK ALL THE TIME!!! I really believe that his chronic illnesses are a consequence of his choices - that he has a weaker immune system b/c he forgets to eat and doesn’t get the rest he needs b/c of his computer addiction. ** I told him he needs to cut the computer out altogether if he’s going to get serious about being a better husband and father.**
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I’m so sorry for all you’re going through. It sounds to me that he definitely needs to get some help with his addictive behavior. 😦 What would he do if you just got rid of the computer while he’s out one day? I know it’s probably not the best way of going about it, but it certainly would get his attention… 🤷 :rolleyes:
JLCecilia said:
RRRGG! So frustrated and resent being the only dependable one! And it’s frustrating when he gripes at me for being short w/ him when he’s sick - well, when did he ever come to my rescue when I needed him to take the kids to the sitter so I could lay down and rest? Where was he those 2-3 weeks of 24/7 morning sickness when I still had to care for the kids all on my own in the evenings, crawling all over me and having to fix supper still and get them to bed?

WHY? WHY? WHY?
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I had 24/7 morning sickness with both of our kids too, so I understand how hard it is. I’m so sorry that you don’t have the help you need from him, especially with how you’re feeling. :hug1:

Praying for you, and all in this thread. :crossrc: :grouphug:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

:crossrc: :grouphug:
 
DH went to Mass with us yesterday, and during the “Glory to God in the highest” at the beginning of Mass (I guess it’s just called the Gloria – you’d think I’d know that after being Catholic my whole life!) I looked over and he was praying part of it aloud!!! :crying: <—happy tears!

:love: Praise be to God and thank you St. Monica! 😃 I know there’s a long way to go, but baby steps certainly bring joy!

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

:crossrc: :grouphug:
 
Please pray for my husband. He is so full of hostility towards the Church, he says he doesn’t mind our girls being baptized and raised Catholic but he questions any and all of the Church’s doctrine. It has me feeling absolutely hopeless. Please pray that the Lord will soften his heart and open his eyes. Dear Saint Monica, pray for my husband.
 
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