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Peacefulwishes
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jumping in 
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for
my husband, so that he may come to accept God’s will for our family,
and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for
my husband, so that he may come to accept God’s will for our family,
and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
M
mnmom
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MonicaRose,
Congratulations to you and your family. Welcome
Felix
Congratulations to you and your family. Welcome
Felix
D
desiringhim
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I posted in the old thread back around August asking for prayers because I wanted to pursue converting to the Catholic Church and my husband was irate about it (we come from an evangelical background and he viewed Catholicism as the ‘whore of Babylon’). I wanted to come back and share that very shortly after my post, my husband’s heart began to soften and within weeks he even agreed to join RCIA with me. Praise be to God, we are both going to be joining the Church this Easter and afterward both our young children will be baptized.
So thank you for your prayers. I wholeheartedly believe they are what helped change his heart. I am so grateful. :extrahappy:
So thank you for your prayers. I wholeheartedly believe they are what helped change his heart. I am so grateful. :extrahappy:
J
JLCecilia
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Praise the Lord for all of the dreams he has placed in DH’s heart and mind. DH is on week 5 of the patch to quit smoking. He recently expressed to me the desire to quit drinking soda - he drinks a TON of it, but he’s recently gotten hooked on bottled water. He is also very intent on getting a workout bench to start working out at home. On a recent excursion w/ me the and kids to the supermarket, he was defeated at how much it took out of him!
He is - and has been for most of his life - addicted to the computer. He has friends who live several hours away whom he never gets to see, but he can talk to them on a daily basis thru their online game. He has even expressed quitting, or at least cutting back on this. DH struggled with indecent material on the computer as well. In listening to a Jeff Cavins CD on this issue, he recommends re-formatting your hard-drive and starting over. DH has not heard this, and this wasn’t even his intention, but he started last night to reformat the hard-drive on our computer. PRAISE GOD!!! I will be sure to bless it with holy water and ask God to use this for the good of our family. Still praying that DH will allow me to install a filter and keep the password for our kids sake.
Continuing to pray that God would grant him the grace to desire an increased devotion and affection toward his vocation as a husband and father. Praying that God sustain and preserve DH in all his good efforts to become healthier. Please ask me with God that DH will desire to know, love and serve the Lord thru prayer w/ me and the kids and to take delight as I do in teaching them the faith and just everyday activities, but also how to be a good husband and father. Praying that God will work thru DH to bring his family to the Church (we have a SIL who is marginally Catholic and I believe her faith suffers somewhat in part due to her DH has never shown an interest - married for 12 years, no kids).
Watching an episode of Marriage Works in Christ last night about tithing from your ‘first fruits.’ I am currently in charge of our money/budget and I normally just tithe out of what’s left aftr the bills and justify it by saying that we’re trying to get out of debt and save for some things. Ask God w/ me to soften my own heart, but DH’s too toward tithing from our firtst fruits and really trusting in Him to provide. Also would like DH to be more involved in planning and praying about our money.
Thank you all for your prayers.
He is - and has been for most of his life - addicted to the computer. He has friends who live several hours away whom he never gets to see, but he can talk to them on a daily basis thru their online game. He has even expressed quitting, or at least cutting back on this. DH struggled with indecent material on the computer as well. In listening to a Jeff Cavins CD on this issue, he recommends re-formatting your hard-drive and starting over. DH has not heard this, and this wasn’t even his intention, but he started last night to reformat the hard-drive on our computer. PRAISE GOD!!! I will be sure to bless it with holy water and ask God to use this for the good of our family. Still praying that DH will allow me to install a filter and keep the password for our kids sake.
Continuing to pray that God would grant him the grace to desire an increased devotion and affection toward his vocation as a husband and father. Praying that God sustain and preserve DH in all his good efforts to become healthier. Please ask me with God that DH will desire to know, love and serve the Lord thru prayer w/ me and the kids and to take delight as I do in teaching them the faith and just everyday activities, but also how to be a good husband and father. Praying that God will work thru DH to bring his family to the Church (we have a SIL who is marginally Catholic and I believe her faith suffers somewhat in part due to her DH has never shown an interest - married for 12 years, no kids).
Watching an episode of Marriage Works in Christ last night about tithing from your ‘first fruits.’ I am currently in charge of our money/budget and I normally just tithe out of what’s left aftr the bills and justify it by saying that we’re trying to get out of debt and save for some things. Ask God w/ me to soften my own heart, but DH’s too toward tithing from our firtst fruits and really trusting in Him to provide. Also would like DH to be more involved in planning and praying about our money.
Thank you all for your prayers.
B
BiologyBrain
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I guess I’ll join the group.
My DH & I have been married for 28 months. When we were dating & engaged he was attending Mass w/ me weekly and even started RCIA. Once we were married he dropped out of RCIA after becoming an Elect (signed the book w/ the Bishop’s blessing). He only goes to Mass w/ me now when he feels like it (not every week). He gets angry w/ me for not liking that he’s not attending Mass to help me w/ our 13 month old son. He has anxiety problems that (he says) make him stay home from Mass. He has also admitted to using his anxiety as an excuse sometimes when he just doesn’t want to go. He’s also admitted that he wants to be Catholic, but he doesn’t want to have the obligations (like Mass on Sundays & Holy Days).
I pray for faith like St. Monica had, but I’m not really feeling it right now.
I pray that his eyes will be opened eventually to the Truth.
My DH & I have been married for 28 months. When we were dating & engaged he was attending Mass w/ me weekly and even started RCIA. Once we were married he dropped out of RCIA after becoming an Elect (signed the book w/ the Bishop’s blessing). He only goes to Mass w/ me now when he feels like it (not every week). He gets angry w/ me for not liking that he’s not attending Mass to help me w/ our 13 month old son. He has anxiety problems that (he says) make him stay home from Mass. He has also admitted to using his anxiety as an excuse sometimes when he just doesn’t want to go. He’s also admitted that he wants to be Catholic, but he doesn’t want to have the obligations (like Mass on Sundays & Holy Days).
I pray for faith like St. Monica had, but I’m not really feeling it right now.
I pray that his eyes will be opened eventually to the Truth.
L
Lone_Catholic
Guest
Just wanted to say that I am the person who originally started this thread, before it was moved. I came into the Church Easter vigil 2004, so 5 years ago. Throughout that time, my dh and I have certainly had our issues, and many of my threads are still on her to prove it! The good news-- he is in RCIA and is I would guess, about 98 percent sure he is entering the church this Easter vigil-- as in 2 weeks!!! I am amazed. I also don’t think the Adversary is gonna let it happen all that easily, so I am starting a novena to St. Monica today for him, and I will include all of your husbands as well.
God bless you all!
I am amazed. I also don’t think the Adversary is gonna let it happen all that easily, so I am starting a novena to St. Monica today for him, and I will include all of your husbands as well.God bless you all!
S
St_Gabriel
Guest
I’m still praying for all us. I am so happy for you Lone Catholic! And also for you desiringhim. Please don’t forget the rest of us when your DH’s convert!
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for
(conversions of our husbands)
and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for
(conversions of our husbands)
and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
J
JACQUE_D
Guest
Desperatly asking for prayers to bring my wayward husband home and to help him stop drinking and being abusive PLEASE.
JACQUE D
:imsorry::sad_bye:
JACQUE D
:imsorry::sad_bye:
M
MonicaRose
Guest
Praise God for the good news that some have posted here!!
I am praying for all here, please also include my husband in your prayers, he is now on anti-depressants (yea! a HUGE step) but is still not actively looking for work.
St. Monica and St. Joseph, please pray for all of us here, that we may have strength and patience and that our husband’s may hear the word of God in their hearts.
I am praying for all here, please also include my husband in your prayers, he is now on anti-depressants (yea! a HUGE step) but is still not actively looking for work.
St. Monica and St. Joseph, please pray for all of us here, that we may have strength and patience and that our husband’s may hear the word of God in their hearts.
L
LongingForLight
Guest
I only just now realized the thread had been changed! I got really caught up in our finances (fired in early January, stayed afloat for 2.5 months, hired mid-March for 25% less $$ as the sole breadwinner), and haven’t been posting about DH for the most part.
Things are good, overall. DH has agreed to support me in giving a 10% financial tithe, *as well as * a 10% work-time matching tithe of time. Although he’s not entirely sure about this all - he was asking me today if we could count the time against the funds we give and keep more of the money. I said I’d rather not, since giving time and treasure both is the ideal anyways, but that I’d be open to the idea if he wanted to discuss it. He’s the man of the house, and if he takes a stand on this I’ll follow his lead . . . but if he defers to my judgement on this, I think he will be touched by how little we miss the money and how well things go. And I think he will defer to me. He may not trust God, but I think he trusts me. Despite this crazy “God thing” I have going on
I also learned about a condition called “dysthymia” recently, which is chronic mild depression that can last for decades - and when I started reading up on it, it was like reading a textbook written about DH! Every annoying behavior, every frustrating thing he does is listed as a symptom of this condition. And he has all the symptoms except those that indicate “atypical features.” Two is sufficient for diagnosis (assuming no other conditions exist that could explain them).
DH and I have looked over the information on dysthymia and talked about it, and he agrees that it seems likely that he has this condition, and could have had it for around two decades (since his pre-teen years). It would explain so much - his poor work history, his inability to make decisions, his tendency to give up, his avoidance of responsibility and risks of failure, his willingness to be labelled as “lazy”, his irritability sometimes - even how hard it is for him to apply to jobs. Now we need to see what the medical community thinks. The condition is treatable, too, although it often takes years to fully treat. This may also be the main stumbling block for his faith right now.
Also, DH has scheduled his Network+ exam! This is a certification exam for network / lab technicians. This is really big, as it is a significant step in him returning to work. AND he is interested in becoming the sole income, and is working towards this goal and willing to talk about it - despite the fact that it looks unreachable from where we are right now. This is very impressive, since he normally writes difficult tasks off as “hopeless” and gets frustrated if he is reminded about them. Quite frankly, he’s starting to show symptoms of faith - not in God, perhaps, more in me and in life in general - but it’s a start.
Thanks, ladies, for giving me someone I can share this with who undrestands how great it is.
Things are good, overall. DH has agreed to support me in giving a 10% financial tithe, *as well as * a 10% work-time matching tithe of time. Although he’s not entirely sure about this all - he was asking me today if we could count the time against the funds we give and keep more of the money. I said I’d rather not, since giving time and treasure both is the ideal anyways, but that I’d be open to the idea if he wanted to discuss it. He’s the man of the house, and if he takes a stand on this I’ll follow his lead . . . but if he defers to my judgement on this, I think he will be touched by how little we miss the money and how well things go. And I think he will defer to me. He may not trust God, but I think he trusts me. Despite this crazy “God thing” I have going on
I also learned about a condition called “dysthymia” recently, which is chronic mild depression that can last for decades - and when I started reading up on it, it was like reading a textbook written about DH! Every annoying behavior, every frustrating thing he does is listed as a symptom of this condition. And he has all the symptoms except those that indicate “atypical features.” Two is sufficient for diagnosis (assuming no other conditions exist that could explain them).
DH and I have looked over the information on dysthymia and talked about it, and he agrees that it seems likely that he has this condition, and could have had it for around two decades (since his pre-teen years). It would explain so much - his poor work history, his inability to make decisions, his tendency to give up, his avoidance of responsibility and risks of failure, his willingness to be labelled as “lazy”, his irritability sometimes - even how hard it is for him to apply to jobs. Now we need to see what the medical community thinks. The condition is treatable, too, although it often takes years to fully treat. This may also be the main stumbling block for his faith right now.
Also, DH has scheduled his Network+ exam! This is a certification exam for network / lab technicians. This is really big, as it is a significant step in him returning to work. AND he is interested in becoming the sole income, and is working towards this goal and willing to talk about it - despite the fact that it looks unreachable from where we are right now. This is very impressive, since he normally writes difficult tasks off as “hopeless” and gets frustrated if he is reminded about them. Quite frankly, he’s starting to show symptoms of faith - not in God, perhaps, more in me and in life in general - but it’s a start.
Thanks, ladies, for giving me someone I can share this with who undrestands how great it is.
L
LongingForLight
Guest
WHOO-HOO!!! So very encouraging, thanks a ton for letting us know!!. . . I wanted to come back and share that very shortly after my post, my husband’s heart began to soften and within weeks he even agreed to join RCIA with me. Praise be to God, we are both going to be joining the Church this Easter and afterward both our young children will be baptized.
Are things still on track? Will you be baptized at the Vigil tomorrow?
D
desiringhim
Guest
Yes, everything is going wonderfully.
We will be confirmed (already baptized) at the Vigil and we both cannot wait!
J
JLCecilia
Guest
Please pray for me as I prepare to break baby #3 news to DH. This is our 3rd ‘unplanned’ child in 3.5 years of marriage. There are just so many things I could post here about how terrified we both are of this prospect and how it interferes with our ‘plans.’
Right now, I just need all your prayers and support as I deal with not only rearranging and surrendering my life to God in all of this, but also dealing with DH’s reaction to the news - he is NOT going to be happy.
He JUST started going to mass with us again at the beginning of Lent (after being away for over a year). He is on week 6 of the patch to quit smoking and he has given up drinking soda as a couple of ways to get in better health. He is also taking very seriously all of the efforts he needs to make in taking his medicine and using all the ointments for all of his skin disorders. I say all of this because I’m afraid that he’s going to give up on all of this.
We talked about our family plans a few weeks ago and DH already feels a great burden in providing for our family and even thinking about planning for our future. I must confess that I too feel overburdened in caring the 2 we already have.
But I know that God will provide for us to give this child what he/she needs because He wants this baby. I know that God has provided for us in the past in ways we could have never of imagined. Although things feel tight and they probably will for some time, we have no dire needs. Already having 2 children, we already have most of the expensive ‘startup’ items and I have held on to all of my maternity clothes and in-between ‘fat’ clothes. We have also worked at getting out of debt the last couple of years. I would love more than anything to get a minivan, but we are still paying on the car and I really want to avoid accruing anymore debt. If you would, ask a special prayer that we can find a good used minivan to trade our car in for the same or less that we owe now.
I know this sounds silly amidst all of this, but I’m really praying for a girl this time. Also, keep in your prayers my OB care. I work at the only hospital/clinic in town and I’m afraid to even have my initial labwork done because I am not prepared for people to know and word travels fast. I am also hoping to have a little fun with this one and not tell our family for some time. We live in a small town and if DH can’t keep his mouth shut, word will likely get to my parents. My mom will not be able to keep a secret and I have a sister who is IVFing right now - her first attempt was unsuccessful and I just think this news would be burdensome to her.
Just keep us all in your prayers. As I read back over this, I know that things will work out, even as I know that my faith will wane throughout the pregnancy.
Thank You all.****
Right now, I just need all your prayers and support as I deal with not only rearranging and surrendering my life to God in all of this, but also dealing with DH’s reaction to the news - he is NOT going to be happy.
He JUST started going to mass with us again at the beginning of Lent (after being away for over a year). He is on week 6 of the patch to quit smoking and he has given up drinking soda as a couple of ways to get in better health. He is also taking very seriously all of the efforts he needs to make in taking his medicine and using all the ointments for all of his skin disorders. I say all of this because I’m afraid that he’s going to give up on all of this.
We talked about our family plans a few weeks ago and DH already feels a great burden in providing for our family and even thinking about planning for our future. I must confess that I too feel overburdened in caring the 2 we already have.
But I know that God will provide for us to give this child what he/she needs because He wants this baby. I know that God has provided for us in the past in ways we could have never of imagined. Although things feel tight and they probably will for some time, we have no dire needs. Already having 2 children, we already have most of the expensive ‘startup’ items and I have held on to all of my maternity clothes and in-between ‘fat’ clothes. We have also worked at getting out of debt the last couple of years. I would love more than anything to get a minivan, but we are still paying on the car and I really want to avoid accruing anymore debt. If you would, ask a special prayer that we can find a good used minivan to trade our car in for the same or less that we owe now.
I know this sounds silly amidst all of this, but I’m really praying for a girl this time. Also, keep in your prayers my OB care. I work at the only hospital/clinic in town and I’m afraid to even have my initial labwork done because I am not prepared for people to know and word travels fast. I am also hoping to have a little fun with this one and not tell our family for some time. We live in a small town and if DH can’t keep his mouth shut, word will likely get to my parents. My mom will not be able to keep a secret and I have a sister who is IVFing right now - her first attempt was unsuccessful and I just think this news would be burdensome to her.
Just keep us all in your prayers. As I read back over this, I know that things will work out, even as I know that my faith will wane throughout the pregnancy.
Thank You all.****
M
MonicaRose
Guest
JL Cecilia,
Congratulations!! Praying for you! God will provide!
Congratulations!! Praying for you! God will provide!
L
LongingForLight
Guest
Prayers! Congratulations, although I can imagine how scary it will be. Let us know how breaking the news goes.
R
Rammy
Guest
DH went off all of his meds, back to drinking and even driving under the influence at a pace of every other day now. We just moved due to the other place in March flooding out three times, and we are not quite unpacked right now. Our seasonal self employment as nursery growers just started, and we are starting the season behind.
DH simply does not do well under stress at all when it includes finances. He also turned 50 on Saturday…i am seriously hopeing it is a mark in time for him to grow up.
please pray i have the strength to turn him away at the door if like this, so he gets it through his thick head to not come here like this. Over the years, he has never done this before, knowing it was never tollerated, but lately he simply staggers saying he never had a drink…
I am deaf, not blind…and i know what beer smells like…even at the pickled stage!
Besides that…the girls and I are doing so much better at the new place. They both have their own room now once again, and love the space to be indeviduals i guess. For as much as they wanted away from each other, the silly things planned to sleep over at each others sisters new bedroom this next weekend.
Also, being at ground level, i can actually bring in my own groceries, laundry etc…i do not feel so dependant on others to help me due to severe sore ankles and dealing with stairs. NOOOO stairs here, and i am loving it.
Please pray that funds will come through for the new 15 windows i have to cover. It is an old high school, so every single room, excluding the bathroom, has wall to wall windows on one side (40x60 inches for each one…3 in most rooms)
we went from no light in the basement, to sun…sun…and some more sun!
grin
Lana
DH simply does not do well under stress at all when it includes finances. He also turned 50 on Saturday…i am seriously hopeing it is a mark in time for him to grow up.
please pray i have the strength to turn him away at the door if like this, so he gets it through his thick head to not come here like this. Over the years, he has never done this before, knowing it was never tollerated, but lately he simply staggers saying he never had a drink…
I am deaf, not blind…and i know what beer smells like…even at the pickled stage!
Besides that…the girls and I are doing so much better at the new place. They both have their own room now once again, and love the space to be indeviduals i guess. For as much as they wanted away from each other, the silly things planned to sleep over at each others sisters new bedroom this next weekend.
Also, being at ground level, i can actually bring in my own groceries, laundry etc…i do not feel so dependant on others to help me due to severe sore ankles and dealing with stairs. NOOOO stairs here, and i am loving it.
Please pray that funds will come through for the new 15 windows i have to cover. It is an old high school, so every single room, excluding the bathroom, has wall to wall windows on one side (40x60 inches for each one…3 in most rooms)
we went from no light in the basement, to sun…sun…and some more sun!
grin
Lana
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Rammy
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JLCecilia…what lovely news in Gods eyes…and for DH to eventually see it this way!
Congradulations!
Lana
Congradulations!
Lana
J
JLCecilia
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Well, I broke the news to him and he still really hasn’t sat down to talk about it yet. I don’t think it has really sunk in yet. The only thing he has talked to me about is my prenatal care. He is not crazy about me going to a dr who is 30-40 min away, but I expressed my need for confidentiality until I myself come to grips with the pregnancy. I am simply not ready to tell people yet and get the 3rd degree. I am not even all that psyched . . .YET. I know that part will come.
I broke down this morning because I am feeling very alone right now since he is not talking about it - I need to give him the time and space he needs to adjust to the news and it is hard because I need to sit and talk through everything and figure it all out right now. DH wasn’t feeling well again yesterday, so he did not get out of bed until after 5pm. He did at least go to work for a few hours, but then b/c he slept all day, he stayed up late again and probably will not go in until after noon today.
I really have not been able to count on him at all to help with the children since we started having them almost 3 years ago and I have never come to a peaceful resolve about this. DS #2 is very attached to me and so it is difficult trying to potty train DS #1 and corralling him to sit still while #2 is fussing for my attention as well. I just wish DH would give up the computer already and start getting on our schedule - get up and help with the kids in the morning, get to work on time so he can be home the same time as us to help with the kids in the evening as well. I was able to get a word in about my distress over having to get THREE kids ready by myself in the mornings. I have some work to do on teaching DS #1 to dress and undress himself and otherwise learn how to help mommy.
I cannot imagine how SAHMs feel!
I broke down this morning because I am feeling very alone right now since he is not talking about it - I need to give him the time and space he needs to adjust to the news and it is hard because I need to sit and talk through everything and figure it all out right now. DH wasn’t feeling well again yesterday, so he did not get out of bed until after 5pm. He did at least go to work for a few hours, but then b/c he slept all day, he stayed up late again and probably will not go in until after noon today.
I really have not been able to count on him at all to help with the children since we started having them almost 3 years ago and I have never come to a peaceful resolve about this. DS #2 is very attached to me and so it is difficult trying to potty train DS #1 and corralling him to sit still while #2 is fussing for my attention as well. I just wish DH would give up the computer already and start getting on our schedule - get up and help with the kids in the morning, get to work on time so he can be home the same time as us to help with the kids in the evening as well. I was able to get a word in about my distress over having to get THREE kids ready by myself in the mornings. I have some work to do on teaching DS #1 to dress and undress himself and otherwise learn how to help mommy.
I cannot imagine how SAHMs feel!
R
Rammy
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It sounds like he is concerned for the “needs” of the child, and this is good.
The distance is a mans way of processing it. Try telling him you are glad that he is spending this time alone to process this, and if it is hard for you, it must be hard for him as well. Remind him that your heart goes out to him in this, and you can not wait for the return of routine in the house. Remind him that this is the way a woman processes things…much differently than a man. But hey, what ever gets the job done.
This way, you are letting him know that you are aware of his distress, and it too shall pass. This may make him feel less bombarded…and less depressed. He may not be aware that he is processing things. So in a way you are coaching him through it in a way that is validating the feelings he is having, and sympathetic as well.
I will pray for you and your family over this situation…and remember, what we can not change, we must gather the strength to endure. So i pray for the gift to endure what is difficult, so that the family can see a stronger mamma. This makes a mom feel better, when at least the things that HAVE to be done, can be done.
God bless!!!
Lana
The distance is a mans way of processing it. Try telling him you are glad that he is spending this time alone to process this, and if it is hard for you, it must be hard for him as well. Remind him that your heart goes out to him in this, and you can not wait for the return of routine in the house. Remind him that this is the way a woman processes things…much differently than a man. But hey, what ever gets the job done.
This way, you are letting him know that you are aware of his distress, and it too shall pass. This may make him feel less bombarded…and less depressed. He may not be aware that he is processing things. So in a way you are coaching him through it in a way that is validating the feelings he is having, and sympathetic as well.
I will pray for you and your family over this situation…and remember, what we can not change, we must gather the strength to endure. So i pray for the gift to endure what is difficult, so that the family can see a stronger mamma. This makes a mom feel better, when at least the things that HAVE to be done, can be done.
God bless!!!
Lana
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