Sudden Death of Moe's 13 Year Old Daughter - Part II

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Dear Moe,

I am still praying for you and your family. How hard this has to be! It HAS to get a “little” easier at some point, though. I just keep praying that Our Blessed Mother will take care of you and comfort you. You’re always in my thoughts and prayers. You are loved by many!

Much love,
 
**Hi Friends / Family:

As some of you are aware, McKayla’s 8th grade class had their graduation on Weds. And we were

invited to attend, because McKayla was going to be honored with an honorary degree. You would have

thought we were the VIP’s on this very special day, by how we were greeted by everyone.

I am adding a page to her website with all the details. It was an amazing graduation.

How these young adults shared a good part of the ceremony with remembering McKayla.

After all the initial greetings and pomp and circumstance, the first order of the night was remembering McKayla.

I will get into detail when I add the page … but all I can say is that it was one of the most beautiful

and tearful nights of our lives. McKayla was blessed to belong to this school, and we are blessed to

belong to the communities of Amherst and Mont Vernon.

Below - is the speech that was given and written by McKayla beautiful BFFL … Ally LaManna …so many tears that night.

So many memories … so many - oh why couldn’t she be walking across the stage right now with all

her other class mates.

It was the most impressive graduation I have ever attended and it was the most beautiful testimonial from

a 13 year old angel, who watched it all from Heaven.

Her other special best friends also sang - For Good, from the Play - Wicked. It was simply exceptional. And it was in

honor of McKayla - so many of her friends have written on her memorial that when they saw the play -

they all balled because they thought of McKayla - how special - don’t you think?

**
 
**PART 2

Mrs. Geisinger:

Thank you so much. When the student council asked me if I would like to write a speech and present the bench in memory of McKayla, I immediately said yes.

It was an honor to speak about her, and be such a close friend to her.

This is the speech.

Good Evening. My name is Allison LaManna. This past week, a poem, entitled “The Dash” by Linda Ellis was

introduced to me by our 2008 student council. To me, the poem explains and proves the individual fact that,

in the words of Abraham Lincoln, ‘It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.’

The definition of friendship can be found in a dictionary or in a book, but I think that you can back me up when

I say that those definitions do not do justice to the experience of having a true friend. I experienced this

adventure with McKayla Geisinger, and believe me when I tell you that all of the lessons and experiences that I got from it were enough for a lifetime!

McKayla’s dash was short; too short. 13 years isn’t a lot of time. But the experiences, laughs, hugs, and pure

happiness truly jam-packed into that little line pushed to its capacity.

In the poem that I just read, the last line is as follows:

‘…would you be proud of the things you say about how you spent your dash?’

I am positive that if McKayla heard the various reflections people have made about her life and what an

amazing person she was, she would be immensely proud.

McKayla loved life in general. The side of her that I saw at school every day, smiling and laughing, seemed

to give the impression that no matter what she was doing, she was simply loving life, no matter what.

McKayla enjoyed to care for her goats. She loved them so much! I remember her showing me pictures of her goats,

and she would laugh and snicker the entire time.

Television and movies were what we mainly revolved around at her many sleepovers and parties.

We would watch classic movies, like ‘The Lost Boys’ and ‘Stand by Me’.

Horror movies like the ‘Halloween’ series and ‘Hide and Seek’ were quite enjoyable,

but only because McKayla would make sure to tell me when to put the pillow in front of my face,

to keep myself from screaming, and ruining the experience. Television shows like

‘CSI: Crime Scene Investigation’ and ‘The Fresh Prince of Bell Air’ were the

time-to-go-to-bed-because-its-five-in-the-morning shows, which I enjoyed every

sleepless night I spent in the welcoming Geisinger household.

Her birthday parties always took place in the warm month of June, since it would be very difficult

to throw a pool party in her birth month of December.

Sadly, McKayla and I weren’t close friends until the middle of our third grade year at Mont Vernon Village School,

or MVVS. But, I still remember the first day we met.

A new first grader to MVVS came up to me on the playground. He said very politely,

“Do you want to play with me?”

One thing led to another, and soon, we were playing in the sand. Our very,

complex game consisted of me digging a hole and burying a rock inside. My new friends job?

To find the rock. Simple right? Well, I had gotten so into our intense game play, that it took me a

while to notice the small blonde girl standing next to the tree planted a few feet away.

Her question for me was short and sweet.

“Can I play?”

Now, I’ll have to admit that McKayla and I didn’t exactly become instant friends and click, like in the movies.

We were acquaintances throughout the beginning of our third grade year, and after a few weeks of being gym

partners and eating lunch together, we were inseparable. I hope some day to see that little boy again, because

he has no idea how much he’s helped me.

McKayla liked to travel. She would tell me of various placed she’d been, some being Washington DC and Texas.

I remember sending her emails before she would leave for a trip.

‘Good luck! Have fun!’ I’d say.

McKayla was very athletic. She loved playing sports, and proving herself. I played various sports with her,

not on teams, but for fun, like soccer, basketball, softball, and swimming, and she was good. She was competitive,
and took every game seriously. She would always try to improve her form, her playing habits.

I feel that this made her more disciplined; made her be a better person.

I don’t think that I can stress enough what a good person McKayla was. Many of you knew her the way I knew her.

She was a genuine person. Her heart was made of pure gold. She would care for others, not herself, and

only asked what you wanted to do, refusing to make a choice.

The reason I’m here, other than to tell you about McKayla, is to present to you a bench.

A bench in memory of McKayla Geisinger is being donated to the school from the student council,

to make sure that McKayla’s life is not forgotten for Amherst Middle School’s many years to come.

I’d like to end my speech with a quote that to me, expresses how we should all feel about the death of McKayla.

This is my favorite quote, and it’s from no other than Doctor Seuss.

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”

And that’s what I’ll do. I’ll smile when I think of McKayla, because the dash between those two numbers

represents happiness. It shows that even though your existence on earth is short, the years are filled with laughter,

smiles, kindness, and are truly beautiful.

Thank you.

Moe**
 
I just finished reading yet another book that might interest you (you seemed to appreciate “A Grief Unveiled”).

I don’t know if you are familiar with the author Ann Hood, but as a preface I will tell you that she has been a fiction writer for decades and some of her work is very rich spiritually while other works are full of conflict. She was raised a Catholic but has struggled with faith all through her life. This book that she recently published, after the very sudden death of her five year old daughter, reflects that struggle and is not as clearly “Catholic” as “A Grief Unveiled”.

Nevertheless, I thought of you as I flew through this tiny but poignant and powerful love poem/heart wrenching account of her loss and how she has managed in the last five years.

amazon.com/Comfort-Journey-Through-Ann-Hood/dp/0393064565/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1214378124&sr=1-1
 
I just finished reading yet another book that might interest you (you seemed to appreciate “A Grief Unveiled”).

I don’t know if you are familiar with the author Ann Hood, but as a preface I will tell you that she has been a fiction writer for decades and some of her work is very rich spiritually while other works are full of conflict. She was raised a Catholic but has struggled with faith all through her life. This book that she recently published, after the very sudden death of her five year old daughter, reflects that struggle and is not as clearly “Catholic” as “A Grief Unveiled”.

Nevertheless, I thought of you as I flew through this tiny but poignant and powerful love poem/heart wrenching account of her loss and how she has managed in the last five years.

amazon.com/Comfort-Journey-Through-Ann-Hood/dp/0393064565/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1214378124&sr=1-1
**Hi Blessedto - I just ordered it on Amazon. I appreciate all types of Grief books and I thank you sincerely for thinking of me. At one point I am going to do a page on McKayla’s site just dedicted to books that I have read and helped me in this nightmare — but if only for a minute.

I enjoyed thoroughly a Grief Unvieled … it taught me a lot about our Catholic Faith and death. There is not one Mass that I go to and I don’t ball after receiving the Eucharists … because I learnt that we are most closest to the ones who have gone before us at that very moment than at any other moment in our lives.

Thank you so much. I will let you know what I think.

I have read so much … and have so much to read … but it is good. It takes my mind of me for a while … the world doesn’t revolve around me and I know it.

Thanks again my friend. Hugs and more hugs,

Moe, McKayla’s Mom**
 
Crying at work while reading this. Praying for you even harder.

Vester
 
Boy, that Ally really shows how speacial McKayla really was, (and how special she herself is.) This part really spoke to me… "I don’t think that I can stress enough what a good person McKayla was. Many of you knew her the way I knew her. She was a genuine person. Her heart was made of pure gold. She would care for others, not herself, and only asked what you wanted to do…(No doubt she learned that by your loving example.) Then this part when she said…“a quote that to me, expresses how we should all feel about the death of McKayla. This is my favorite quote, and it’s from no other than Doctor Seuss. “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” And that’s what I’ll do. I’ll smile when I think of McKayla, because the dash between those two numbers represents happiness. It shows that even though your existence on earth is short, the years are filled with laughter, smiles, kindness, and are truly beautiful”…(I’ve read that poem the Dash too, so I understood what she was talking about here.)
God sure blessed those girls with a beautiful friendship didn’t He? Then those other special friends of her’s singing that tribute to her. Just goes to show how much of a wonderful, loving impact she made in such a short, sweet, loving life. God love you and thank you for sharing that with us.
Prayers for you all, as always, and for all her friends and class mates(I will check her website soon too.) I’ll make sure I have some kleenex :tissues: close by when I do so.
 
MacKayla’s Mom,
What really struck me about “Comfort” is how her ongoing struggle with God comes to a head. I thought of you especially during the moments in the book where she says her “screams of anguish are an argument with God”. Can’t imagine how any of us could escape anger and rage at God and she does a great job capturing this without the platitudes so often heard when loss breaks into our lives.

God bless.
 
**Hi Blessedto - I just ordered it on Amazon. I appreciate all types of Grief books and I thank you sincerely for thinking of me. At one point I am going to do a page on McKayla’s site just dedicted to books that I have read and helped me in this nightmare — but if only for a minute.

I enjoyed thoroughly a Grief Unvieled … it taught me a lot about our Catholic Faith and death. There is not one Mass that I go to and I don’t ball after receiving the Eucharists …** because I learnt that we are most closest to the ones who have gone before us at that very moment than at any other moment in our lives. ****
Thank you so much. I will let you know what I think.

I have read so much … and have so much to read … but it is good. It takes my mind of me for a while … the world doesn’t revolve around me and I know it.

Thanks again my friend. Hugs and more hugs,

Moe, McKayla’s Mom
The communion of the saints!

When I was working on my family history I found the name and information about my great-grandmother that was previously unknown. This was right before her 150th birthday, so I had the mass dedicated to her memory. When I took the eucharist, faced the altar, looked up to heaven and said (quietly) “Happy Birthday Grandma Mattie!” I talk with my mom and brother during eucharist sometimes too. Next year is my older brother’s 50th! Mom and Dad only got to keep him for 71/2 months. Mom went home in 1996 (Mother’s Day weekend. That was fun :nope: ).

Time helps. The communion of the saints helps more :console: .
 
Boy, that Ally really shows how speacial McKayla really was, (and how special she herself is.) This part really spoke to me… "I don’t think that I can stress enough what a good person McKayla was. Many of you knew her the way I knew her. She was a genuine person. Her heart was made of pure gold. She would care for others, not herself, and only asked what you wanted to do…

KK was an exceptionally special child … very gifted. Not as spiritual as her Sister … but gifted in other ways. I miss her - I ache for her.

(No doubt she learned that by your loving example.) Then this part when she said…“a quote that to me, expresses how we should all feel about the death of McKayla. This is my favorite quote, and it’s from no other than Doctor Seuss. “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” And that’s what I’ll do. I’ll smile when I think of McKayla, because the dash between those two numbers represents happiness. It shows that even though your existence on earth is short, the years are filled with laughter, smiles, kindness, and are truly beautiful”…(I’ve read that poem the Dash too, so I understood what she was talking about here.)

I am crying now as I re-read your words … they were truly soul mates.

God sure blessed those girls with a beautiful friendship didn’t He?

Most definately … truly a blessing. KK loved Ally … and vise versa!

Then those other special friends of her’s singing that tribute to her. Just goes to show how much of a wonderful, loving impact she made in such a short, sweet, loving life.

IT was beautiful. The girls love McKayla - when it first happened - they came over the house crying and crying … and I told them that McKayla woudln’t want them crying … I said think of the most horrible thing she did to you … maybe that will help stop the crying … all of them said there wasn’t one bad or mean thing that coudl think of … that was my KK.

God love you and thank you for sharing that with us.
Prayers for you all, as always, and for all her friends and class mates(I will check her website soon too.) I’ll make sure I have some kleenex :tissues: close by when I do so.

**I hope to get to it this weekend. I am taking a few days off work …

Hugs and love and kisses.

Moe, FOREVER McKayla’s Mom**
 
MacKayla’s Mom,
**Hi blessedtoo:

**What really struck me about “Comfort” is how her ongoing struggle with God comes to a head. I thought of you especially during the moments in the book where she says her “screams of anguish are an argument with God”. Can’t imagine how any of us could escape anger and rage at God and she does a great job capturing this without the platitudes so often heard when loss breaks into our lives.

**I started reading it … and it didn’t take me too long to be in tears … I love it so far … I will probably finish it the next two nights.

Thanks for the suggestions … Hugs,

Moe, FOREVER, McKayla’s Mom**

God bless.
 
The communion of the saints!

When I was working on my family history I found the name and information about my great-grandmother that was previously unknown. This was right before her 150th birthday, so I had the mass dedicated to her memory. When I took the eucharist, faced the altar, looked up to heaven and said (quietly) “Happy Birthday Grandma Mattie!” I talk with my mom and brother during eucharist sometimes too. Next year is my older brother’s 50th! Mom and Dad only got to keep him for 71/2 months. Mom went home in 1996 (Mother’s Day weekend. That was fun :nope: ).

Time helps. The communion of the saints helps more :console: .

I pray for peace - for we are missing her greatly … have a safe 4th … if you celebrate it 🙂
 
Hi Moe,

The graduation sounds like it was very special, I am so glad it was a positive experience for your family.

I think and pray for you all often.

I hope you are able to get your wanted few days off this weekend.

Mary
 
Hi Moe,

Hi Mary

The graduation sounds like it was very special, I am so glad it was a positive experience for your family.

It was unbelievably special - and we are so thankful for the kids to allow McKayla to be remembered in their very happy day. Middle schooler usually can’t wait to get to HS … which they all can’t wait … and to include KK was very special!

I think and pray for you all often.
Oh thank you Mary - we need - we are still struggling … more minutes of peace, albeit minutes and that I shall be thankful for - life is just so very sad … so very sad.

I hope you are able to get your wanted few days off this weekend.
**Have a blessed weekend … mine starts today … I work at a compay that has a 9/80 work schedule which we have every other Friday off - all though i wll be bringing work home to help with a crunch!

Peace and hugs my friend … please keep praying.

Miss hearing from everyone! Hugs - Moe**

Mary
 
Hi Moe, :hug1:

Greg and I still remember you and KK and everyone else in our prayers, especially at Mass. I hope your weekend goes well … many, many prayers from here in (hot) MT.
 
:hug3:
Still keeping your special intension in my daily prayers. I just wanted you to know that, I think of you often and pray for you, still praying that you have moments of peace often throughout your day.
 
Hi Moe, :hug1:

Greg and I still remember you and KK and everyone else in our prayers, especially at Mass. I hope your weekend goes well … many, many prayers from here in (hot) MT.
**And I you … and the new to be addition. So exciting … this is going to be the happiest time of your life.

Can’t wait to meet her! Huggles, Moe**
 
:hug3:
Still keeping your special intension in my daily prayers. I just wanted you to know that, I think of you often and pray for you, still praying that you have moments of peace often throughout your day.
**Thank you so much … I can’t even tell you how much that means to me.

Peace does find me more often … in fleeting moments … but at least they come. Thank you so much … keep praying … and especially for my intention.

Hugs and hugs,

Moe**
 
**Hi Family and Friends:

I wanted to share with you, who have all been in one way or another, an integral part of McKayla, of our lives, to inform you of such a wonderful honor in her memory.

The

Amherst Board of Selectmen
Amherst School District Board
Amherst Recreation Commission
Cordially invite you to the official opening and ribbon
cutting ceremony and of the
Bean Athletic Fields
And dedication of the
McKayla Geisinger Field
Boston Post Road

(Next to Souhegan High School)
Amherst, New Hampshire
On
Saturday, August 16, 2008
9:30 AM**

I know many of you can not possible make this dedication. We just wanted to let you know that again, the communities of Amherst / Mont Vernon are keeping the Memory of McKayla alive.

Not too long after McKayla left us - a very special friend wrote me:

I am always amazed at how a head and a heart, both contained in the same body, can work so separately; my head knows things that my heart will not let go of.

We will make it through this hurdle, mothers, side-by-side, on this path we have no choice but to walk down. An entire village of friends is beside you.

No words ever rang so true … that we have entire villages, as well as our family and friends, even strangers, that walk with us daily, who still struggle 16+ months later, over the loss of such a special young lady.

We would love to see you, if you can make it. Words can’t even convey the depth of our gratitude Greg, I and Amanda feel regarding this honor.
 
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