The Duggars Respond to Reports That Josh Duggar Was Accused of Child Molestation

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Nothing was done and he fully knew what he was doing. 14 year old aren’t babies. They should have learned about inappropriate touching long before 14. He made the decision, multiple times, to abuse his sisters. I refuse to make excuses for him or to make it seem less than what it was.
14 year olds are not babies, but they are not fully consenting adults, either. If they were, they could vote, serve in the military and we wouldn’t need stat rape laws, even for the girls

He probably should have learned more about it, but no one is making excuses for him.
 
I agree he could have benefitted from actual mental health professional services there are many residential treatment centers that deal with juvenile offenders.
Yes. I don’t hate Josh for this. He needed help when he was a kid, and he was denied it, and he and his sisters all suffered for it.
 
First of all, thank you for your insight, and God bless you for the work you do.

Also, your forum name is the last thing I’d expect for someone that works with juvenile sex offenders. :eek:😛
I registered on this forum when I was 21 and it was my online username for many forums at the time that I had been using since my teens. I think it’s time for an upgraded username now that I’m nearing my 30’s though.
 
The kid is grown up and is an upstanding adult, the people he hurt have forgiven him, and the family is intact.
I think calling him an “upstanding adult” is questionable. This guy isn’t a saint; he’s an influence-peddler and a political operative, a profession where amorality is a necessary attribute.
 
Well, perhaps that is just too bad then because we live in a country where someone is innocent until proven guilty.

Being 14 means being a child.

Or by that logic should we abolish all of the statutory rape laws?

That means if a 14 year old girl wants sex with a guy who is 30, it’s legal and acceptable, because hey, she’s not a kid and can make her own choices.

That’s the other thing—if the genders were reversed in all of this, would we REALLY be having this conversation?
It’s “just too bad” that these parents allowed their daughters to be molested for at least a year and did nothing? That is simply appalling. And there is no question of innocence, he admitted the abuse then and admits it now.

I am not saying that a 14 or 15 year old is the same as an adult, but its not a little kid. The 9 year old victim is a little kid. I am also not saying that a 14 year old should be treated like an adult. But there were adults involved - his parents - and they knew about this abuse and let it go on for at least a year. Maybe you think that is “just too bad” but I think it is inexcusable. And, no, I don’t think reversing the genders would make it OK or that no one would care. You would not care if a 15 year old girl was abusing a nine year old boy?
 
As someone who works with juvenile sex offenders at a residential treatment center he definitely needs professional treatment. A licensed professional is trained to deal with how juvenile sex offender’s work because those urges don’t just go away and will always be there.
That’s the fundamental issue right there. Something that the Duggar parents unfortunately don’t seem to grasp…or Anna Duggar for that matter.

To ME, the issue here isn’t about forgiving Josh and moving on. That’s totally beside the point. The issue is that we have a man who molested very young children and never received proper treatment and now has access to a daughter of the very same age of the child he molested…AND a wife that’s clueless about how this stuff works.

This is like a ticking time bomb.

Nobody can sit here and say that Josh isn’t a threat anymore.

There is now one female child and one about to be born that are living in the same house with this man…with a clueless mother.

This isn’t about forgiveness. That’s God’s business. This is about concern for children who are directly in harms way. That’s society’s business.
 
Jim Bob essentially handed over his daughters to be repeatedly molested by Josh, because Josh’s reputation was more important than the safety of his sisters.
Concur to the first part, but “we don’t know” to the second.
I guess Jim Bob only had a problem with men outside of the family threatening his daughters’ “purity”. This is disgusting.
Jim Bob (is that really his name?) has a lot to answer for, but let’s not cloud it with speculation of his intentions.
 
Jim Bob essentially handed over his daughters to be repeatedly molested by Josh, because Josh’s reputation was more important than the safety of his sisters.

I guess Jim Bob only had a problem with men outside of the family threatening his daughters’ “purity”. This is disgusting.
This comment just goes to show how the real issue in all of this is forwarding the gay “marriage” movement by attacking FRC.

What if Josh were gay and worked for GLADD? The media would be downplaying this left and right and trying to hide it, I’m sure.

It’s just like those secularists and Protestant denominations for so-called gay “marriage” who attack the Church over the abuse scandal by take painstaking measures to avoid the fact that almost every single case was of a homosexual nature.
 
That just isn’t true. Juvenile sex offense is dramatically different than pedophilia. The “desires” you think won’t go away are often rather easily channeled so that recidivism doesn’t happen. To treat a juvenile offender like an adult offender is not only clinically wrong, but it is morally wrong, too. Our justice system has been doing that since the early 90s, but over the last decade or two we’ve moved away from that almost entirely. Because it is garbage, basically.
Ok, that may be true if the offender actually gets professional help. That did NOT happen in this case. So imo, Josh Duggar is still very much a danger to children.
 
Thank you for the link. I wanted to read it for myself as I thought this was being over sensationalized. I just finished reading the police report (narrative starts on page 11). I was hoping that this was just some isolated thing but it wasn’t. On the couch while they were sleeping, in the mother’s chair while they were reading a children’s book about a raccoon, in the laundry room, etc. And then after all that one of the siblings tells the investigator he was still allowed to babysit for “short times” or with another babysitter present. :eek:

My older boy cousin did this to me and I never told anyone. Shame on the adults for knowing about it and continuing to allow him to be in charge as a babysitter for even 5 seconds. I can’t believe I ever paid for this show on itunes and looked up to the parents.

If what the scientists/experts/psychologists say is true that you can’t help who you’re attracted to then I would be extra vigilant if I was his wife. If he found little girl private parts attractive once he might again. This may sound harsh but after reading the account from the girls themselves in the police report it’s the truth.
 
In my mind, this is much less about Josh than it is the “adults” in this situation. He was a kid who was terribly wrong, but he was still a kid. It’s the actions, or rather, inaction of those responsible for him, that is so appalling and inexcusable. He could’ve gotten some help early, instead he was allowed to exhibit a longstanding pattern of sexual abuse, one that I’m not convinced that “repentece” is enough to correct.
I agree.
 
That’s the fundamental issue right there. Something that the Duggar parents unfortunately don’t seem to grasp…or Anna Duggar for that matter.

To ME, the issue here isn’t about forgiving Josh and moving on. That’s totally beside the point. The issue is that we have a man who molested very young children and never received proper treatment and now has access to a daughter of the very same age of the child he molested…AND a wife that’s clueless about how this stuff works.

This is like a ticking time bomb.

Nobody can sit here and say that Josh isn’t a threat anymore.

There is now one female child and one about to be born that are living in the same house with this man…with a clueless mother.

This isn’t about forgiveness. That’s God’s business. This is about concern for children who are directly in harms way. That’s society’s business.
Perhaps you might give some time to researching sexual offense, especially among juveniles, before you decide who is and who isn’t at risk. There is a lot of hysteria out there that frankly should not be. I don’t think that Josh Duggar is any more of a threat to children than you are.
 
It is entirely possible that you basically just slept through that year of your life. Or maybe you just forgot it. Or maybe you’re an absolute angel.

When I was 14 I was really, really dumb. I’d like to think that as an adult, I’m an awfully different person (hopefully for the better).
You didn’t know at the age of 14 about inappropriate touching? I didn’t sleep through being 14 and I am no angel. I did know by then that molesting people was wrong and since I had been molested a few years before, I knew how traumatic that experience is. Maybe I was just intelligent. I was VP of the Jr. Beta Club at that age. Maybe that is why I think 14 year olds should know better because I had sense at that age.
 
Ok, that may be true if the offender actually gets professional help. That did NOT happen in this case. So imo, Josh Duggar is still very much a danger to children.
So, the only way to rehabilitate a teen guilty of sexual misconduct is professional help? It’s impossible to outgrow it, provide positive and constructive mentoring, or other more mundane means? The idea that only through professional help are people rehabilitated is IMO the arrogance of the social sciences.
 
This comment just goes to show how the real issue in all of this is forwarding the gay “marriage” movement by attacking FRC.

What if Josh were gay and worked for GLADD? The media would be downplaying this left and right and trying to hide it, I’m sure.

It’s just like those secularists and Protestant denominations for so-called gay “marriage” who attack the Church over the abuse scandal by take painstaking measures to avoid the fact that almost every single case was of a homosexual nature.
I’m sorry, you must have trouble reading. No where did my comment mention gay marriage or the FRC. In fact, you are the one who keeps defending Josh because gays are bad or something.

I don’t care what his orientation is or who he works for. He and his sisters needed help a long time ago, and the adults who were responsible for protecting and guiding these young people failed in a monstrous way.
 
What a silly question. Nobody is suggesting that molestation is okay, and it is still wrong if it involves members of the same sex.
My comment was aimed at those who are insinuating that certain people criticiziing Josh are being hypocrites because they are part of a culture that supports homosexual sex, or praising the Duggars for not seeking outside help because the culture is so hedonistic.
What we are suggesting, though, is that it is entirely possible to move on from the scars of childhood and live a wonderful, holy life. It seems that Josh Duggar is doing exactly that and that deserves admiration rather than condemnation. If we let our past sins define who we are today, our world would be even messier than it already is.
Why are we talking more about the “scars of childhood” of Josh Duggar, the PERP? Why are we ignoring the “scars of childhood” his actions left on children who were even younger than he was?

I’m not saying Josh should have been locked up. But I am disturbed at how this discussion has focused on the one who was morally in the wrong and whether he has moved on. Many posters seem to be assuming that his victims have all moved on, too, and therefore there’s nothing to see here, that they are just one happy family.

But we don’t really know if they’ve moved on. We don’t know this family, just because we saw them on TV.

And PLEASE, stop politicizing this. Yes, some people have double standards depending on the political beliefs of public figures, cutting people more slack if they agree with them politically. But I haven’t seen anyone posting in this topic doing that.
 
Thank you for the link. I wanted to read it for myself as I thought this was being over sensationalized. I just finished reading the police report (narrative starts on page 11). I was hoping that this was just some isolated thing but it wasn’t. On the couch while sleeping, in the mother’s chair while reading a children’s book about a raccoon, in the laundry room, etc. And then after all that one of the siblings tells the investigator he was still allowed to babysit for “short times” or with another babysitter present. :eek:

My older boy cousin did this to me and I never told anyone. Shame on the adults for knowing about it and continuing to allow him to be in charge as a babysitter for even 5 seconds. I can’t believe I ever paid for this show on itunes and looked up to the parents.
IME, the worst thing next to being sexually abused as a child is telling your parents and they do nothing to protect you. Parental inaction causes more long term damage than people think. At least in this case, it sounds like the parents believed the girls and at least attempted to do something about it, but they didn’t go far enough. Deep down, those girls know it.
 
You didn’t know at the age of 14 about inappropriate touching? I didn’t sleep through being 14 and I am no angel. I did know by then that molesting people was wrong and since I had been molested a few years before, I knew how traumatic that experience is. Maybe I was just intelligent. I was VP of the Jr. Beta Club at that age. Maybe that is why I think 14 year olds should know better because I had sense at that age.
Not an illogical deduction, but what is important to realize is that is anecdotal at best. Not everyone is the same, and someone who raised differently or has mental issues is not always aware of the gravity of what they are doing.
 
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