Yes, the refuse to alter baptismal records to reflect my actual identity.
Hi Pathia,
My heart, once again, goes out to you. I want to thank you for remaining here on CAF to be a voice for others in your circumstance. Please understand that the Church has to move exceptionally slow on these very deep, delicate matters. For the Church to remain “free from error” a struggle such as yours has to be examined from every angle.
A century ago the medical advances didn’t exist to correct the inter-sexed condition. All inter-sexed were called to celibate chastity. Let’s take for example the topic of this thread, genetics. If there is a genetic cause for your inter-sexed condition does it change that you, in fact, have the condition? What about the person who is not actually inter-sexed but instead has had a traumatic life that has led him or her to believe he or she is inter-sexed? How does the Church discern the difference between them and you?
Just because medical science has advanced to the point to make men appear as women, it doesn’t change the very soul of the person. Has the Church (or anyone for that matter) been able to design a “what is the sex of the soul” test? Marriage is only possible between a man and a woman. I know you agree with that. We know that marriage is not just a biological uniting of complementary bodies (though that is necessary) but it is also a uniting of complementary souls.
I am on your side in this. I do believe that there are some people with your condition. I also believe there are some people who erroneously believe they are “women trapped in a man’s body.” I completely support medical correction for the inter-sexed to match their biology with their soul. But, I am also very insulted that there are men out there who believe they can
be a woman with a lot of surgery and adapting female affectations.
That is what the Church is facing, discernment of the sex of the soul. She must discern the sex of a soul to ensure complementarity. Without complementarity, there is no marriage. It doesn’t matter if pastor Bob wants to say the words, he doesn’t join them, God does. We are a perfect complementary design from God. His design is flawless.
Why are you, personally, called where you are? I don’t know. I hope it is to help others like you. Your sterility is one of the things that has given you credibility with me. Men who have fathered children don’t hold much water with me when they claim to be “in the wrong body.” Also, same sex attraction people who “discover they
knew they were gay all along” also don’t impress me.
I didn’t know I was opposite sex attracted until I was about 6-8 years old. Why do they “get” to know so much earlier?
Long story short (oops too late once again) is that it isn’t
just about biology. It is always about the soul first and foremost. I can’t
prove that my soul is female any easier than you can. My biology is female and I am opposite sex attracted. I have no idea why I, personally, was called to marriage. I am certainly no expert at it. But the Church is the Bride of Christ. I have to trust her that she knows what marriage is and follow her lead.