Well Brother, sometimes we just can’t help things from being complicated. The conversation with your Catholic neighbor where you have to explain that you really don’t have much contact with the parish down the street, because you go elsewhere so you can attend the EF.
Let’s begin here. It is one thing to go across town to attend the EF and quite another to shun the local parish by not participating in its ministries or parish activities. In fact, that’s one of the nice things that the priests who celebrate the EF down here do. They do not have any activities or ministries separate from the rest of the parish. You can attend the EF mass at 10:00 and you have no other choice to but use the parish’s religious education program. There is no alternative, nor will these priests consider it. That’s just an example.
I can see how things become complicated when you tell your neighbor who attends St. John’s parish that you are shunning his parish. It is quite another thing to say that you attend St. Mary’s because there is no EF at St. John’s, but there is one at St. Mary’s. That’s a reality. That’s not a put down. If the neighbor wants to interpret it as an insult, he’s being too sensitive. To say that I will have nothing to do with this parish, to the face of a parishioner is certainly rude.
The astonished look’s I get on occasion from people who still think the EF was permanently abolished.
That’s normal and it does not have to be complicated. It can be a simple teaching moment. When I get that look my answer takes all of 45 seconds. “The Tridentine form of the mass, which many people call the old mass is still allowed. Many people mistakenly thought it was forbidden. By the way, how is your father feeling today?” That’s it.
The explanation’s we sometimes have to give regarding how we were unable to attend the noon EF on a Holy Day during the week at a church several miles from home and then had to drive even further to attend it at church that had it 7pm.
This begs the question, why does one have to give such explanations? A few weeks ago someone asked me if one of our brothers who loves the celebrate the EF could do so for a large group of people. I simply said, “I’m sorry, but that’s not going to be possible.” Immediately I got back, “But Brother, why not?” “It’s just not. Excuse me. I have to attend to some things. Have a nice evening.” I went to take the dog for a walk.
On the flip side, when people became upset because we celebrated the feast of St. Maximilian Kolbe using the EF, which meant that we had to pull pieces from the Roman-Franciscan Missal, in Latin, again we got questions. The brothers’ simply said, “The person you want to ask if Father Superior.” Those who came to me and said that this or that is not in the 1962 missal, I simply said, “I know. It’s a real problem. I can’t wait until they get the two calendars harmonized. By the way, are you going to the Flea Market at the parish?”
And we have to be able to take it on the chin (verbally speaking) by those here on the traditional subforum who don’t want to see an increase in TLM’s offered around the world.
First of all, I don’t think that anyone has to defend why he or she cares about a point of the faith. It is one thing to defend the faith from misrepresentation and another to justify oneself. One need never feel that one has to justify himself, if he is being faithful.
Second, I am no so sure that what you’re seeing is a resistance to having more EF masses. I think that what we’re all seeing is a resistance to language. Fulton Sheen once said that more people disagreed with what they thought the Catholic Church is than with that Catholic Church itself or something like that. You get my meaning.
Sometimes, the way that the language is used, it comes across as if the EF is the only option for Catholics. I see this especially the moment someone complains about something wrong in his parish. It never fails that if there is a Trad in the house, he or she will say, “Find the nearest TLM,” rather than, “Let’s look at the problem and let’s see how you can help to fix it, it is a real problem.” That, “Run to the nearest TLM” is going to create a resistance. It comes across the wrong way.
Another example of language is an expression as “the TLM produced great saints”. That’s not true. Men and women became great saints because they cooperated with grace. God has not stopped pouring grace upon his people. Whenever the mass is celebrated there is an abundance of grace. When we receive the sacraments as we should, there is an abundance of sanctifying grace. If this statement were true, the people like John Paul II and Mother Theresa of Calcutta would not have made it to beatification. Someone like Giana Molla would not have made it to canonization.
We have to think of the resistance this way. If I push you, you’re going to exert force toward me to keep from falling. If I pull you, you’re going to exert force away from me. When we use language that is interpreted as forceful or that is deliberately forceful, it’s going to be met with counterforce.
We need not justify ourselves. We need to defend the faith from misrepresentation. We need to explain that the EF is allowed and where it can be found, if one wishes to attend and we need refrain from language that diminishes the OF and from suggestions that there is no hope for a parish that offers the OF. We can help people identify real problems and solutions. We can also help people see that they are over reacting too.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, FFV
