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Dolphin
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Anyone have them or have a BF or husband who had or has one? Thoughts?
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F_Marturana
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I think the Jonas brothers used to wear them.
I haven’t met a real life person who wore them.
I haven’t met a real life person who wore them.
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CTBcin
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My thoughts…
I’m all for purity, but purity rings are stupid.
Just in my own opinion.
I’m all for purity, but purity rings are stupid.
Just in my own opinion.
Tis_Bearself
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If a person, man or woman, wants to wear something as a reminder to stay chaste, fine. No need to announce it to the world though.
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TheLittleLady
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The whole notion of purity rings is odd.
Does it match my “I will not murder” necklace or my “I am not a thief” watchband?
Does it match my “I will not murder” necklace or my “I am not a thief” watchband?
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Sarcelle
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It’s more a symbol of being countercultural I guess.
Being a thief or being a murderer has always been condemned by society in general but being chaste is now seen as an aberration and those who practice it are often the objects of ridicule.
Personally speaking, I choose to not wear the ring but I don’t have any problems with those who choose otherwise.
Being a thief or being a murderer has always been condemned by society in general but being chaste is now seen as an aberration and those who practice it are often the objects of ridicule.
Personally speaking, I choose to not wear the ring but I don’t have any problems with those who choose otherwise.
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HopkinsReb
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I think the main issue with it is that it’s tightly wound up with purity culture, which is an unhealthy and unchristian approach to sexuality.
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Dolphin
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I have never heard of this purity culture
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HopkinsReb
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This recent piece would be a good intro to what I’m referring to.
www.nationalreview.com
Basically, it’s an approach to sexuality that focuses on purity instead of chastity. In purity culture, losing virginity is treated as a permanent stain on the soul and sexuality becomes a dark, forbidden thing (the mocking line from critics is “sex is so bad you should only give it to the person you love most”). The focus should be on chastity, which allows us to define and value ourselves not by our sins but by God’s love and forgiveness.
Whither Evangelical Purity Culture? Thoughts on the Legacy of a Lost Pastor | National Review
Repenting of his past legalism, Joshua Harris is leaving the faith, to which he did unintentional but great harm.
www.nationalreview.com
Basically, it’s an approach to sexuality that focuses on purity instead of chastity. In purity culture, losing virginity is treated as a permanent stain on the soul and sexuality becomes a dark, forbidden thing (the mocking line from critics is “sex is so bad you should only give it to the person you love most”). The focus should be on chastity, which allows us to define and value ourselves not by our sins but by God’s love and forgiveness.
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Dolphin
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I agree completely with you. Never thought about it any other way or know anyone who thinks that way. Chastity I think too often is looked at only in the lense of sex but it also applies to your entire lifestyle
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HopkinsReb
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It’s a big problem in the Evangelical Protestant world.
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Sarcelle
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What is this purity culture?
I have not heard of it.
Never mind, saw your link.
I have not heard of it.
Never mind, saw your link.
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PetraG
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More to the point, chastity recognizes the positive gift of sex as being subordinate (as all gifts are) to the grace of giving oneself to God and the life of sanctity that God intended for us when we were made, even to the point of giving that gift up entirely, if that is God’s will for us. That is, after all, the point of everything.
Or, as Steven Covey likes to put it: The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
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HopkinsReb
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Bingo. Purity culture views sex as a dirty thing, while proper sexual theology views sex as a good thing that has a time and a place.
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Dolphin
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Sex should be viewed through the eyes of Theology of the Body. We are all beautiful creations of God and therefore we should honor and respect ourselves and others. Love others instead of using others
For a man to wear a “purity ring” is about as counter-cultural as it gets. I suppose it would be good, in and of itself, for a man to declare publicly that he is a virgin and intends to remain one until marriage, but this would invite mockery and ridicule of the highest order. Few would wish to take on this cross.
In some circles it’s assumed that a man who has never had sex by a certain age, or who is determined to avoid having sex, has something seriously wrong with him — he could be homosexual, or have some loathsome sexual deviation (such as pedophilia). Society is only now beginning to accept that some people, of both sexes, are asexual — don’t desire sex with anyone and may never have that desire. And then there is the phenomenon of intersex. Some choose to identify themselves this way, some do not.
In other words, it’s just assumed these days that a man will eventually have sex with a woman, or alternatively, with another man. Abstaining from either is seen as an abnormality, and “incels” are seen as either being too picky or not willing/not able to make the improvements in themselves that would make them attractive to women.
In some circles it’s assumed that a man who has never had sex by a certain age, or who is determined to avoid having sex, has something seriously wrong with him — he could be homosexual, or have some loathsome sexual deviation (such as pedophilia). Society is only now beginning to accept that some people, of both sexes, are asexual — don’t desire sex with anyone and may never have that desire. And then there is the phenomenon of intersex. Some choose to identify themselves this way, some do not.
In other words, it’s just assumed these days that a man will eventually have sex with a woman, or alternatively, with another man. Abstaining from either is seen as an abnormality, and “incels” are seen as either being too picky or not willing/not able to make the improvements in themselves that would make them attractive to women.
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Dolphin
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I am very familiar with Emily Wilson, I’ve seen tons of her videos, including this one. I just never would of called this issue a “culture”
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HopkinsReb
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It definitely is in certain environs.
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twf
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The “I give to the poor” band is typically gold set with a large diamond. Go figure.
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