Thoughts on men’s purity rings

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DarkLight said:
But I think you’ll find there’s a lot of us out there from a lot of different churches where “because that’s the rules” was all we got.
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Yes, growing up Catholic that was what I got…because if you do X you, and my mother told us she as well, would go to hell for it.

Ironically, when I was in high school I learned more about sexual purity and morality via Protestant radion, and books written for Protestant teens. Josh McDowell and his “Why Wait” campaign, for instance.

All I got from the Catholic side was how wrong it was and how it would ruin my life. I had friends who were sent away to have their babies so as not to bring shame on their family. That was in the 80’s.
 
I will answer the average reply: ask your priest if he would do it.

In the absolute I don’t see why it would not be possible, unless the priest doesn’t want to do it.
 
Had to reorder the ring to get a smaller size but it’s finally here!!

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I don’t think people will mistake it for a wedding band (hopefully lol) because it’s on my middle finger
 
I am not familiar with what you are referring to. Is this like a “the past is in the past” type of thing?
 
What you have done you have done, yes the past is past.

You have not become a time traveler, gone to the future and taken something from the person who is your spouse in the future.

When you meet a person and discern marriage with them, you bring the person you are at that time. You do not go over a checks and balances of “well, I took this from you and that from you”.
 
Cirdan_XII said:
Not sure if this is a male only thing. I know several women who seem incapable of getting into a relationship, probably through a mix of unrealistically high demands concerning what Mr Right should be and look like, and just being awkwardly poor conversationalists.

In my view this is in part due to changes in society. When I was young (yeah, long time ago) we had things like social dances or went on hikes with the youth groups and you just mixed and mingled doing stuff you enjoyed and just as a side product some people might meet their match there and end up getting married.

Today people seem to gravitate massively towards online dating where there is a much larger choice of possible partners which encourages people to be picky. People who are considered attractive (for whatever reason) get a lot of attention and this massively boosts their own self esteem and perception of their own desirability (and thus also the demands they place on potential partners). Others, who in reality may be only marginally less attarctive get much less attention and consider themselves unnatractive and struggle through half their adult life unable to get even a date. There is thus a massive and unhealthy distortion of perceived attractivity affecting both sexes.
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A) It is definitely part of Purity Culture, and,
B) It is definitely very creepy.
 
Society hasn’t always accepted this, it has, at points, accepted that men would fail, but throughout the middle ages and up until recently, it was fairly well accepted that neither sex should have sex except for between married husband and wife.
 
The church never taught this, while it has been culturally accepted in some Christian times/places, it was always illicit.
 
That’s not actual teaching/history, most of the time it was either culturally acceptable (~Roman era) or legally permitted, not because it was considered okay, but simply unrealistic to try and enforce a legal prohibition of.
 
Men were usually marrying women closer to 3-5 years younger, which even today is fairly normal. University would only take about 4 years and only a minority of the people actually got to go, not only this but until recently, marriage while going to university wasn’t the most unusual thin. The rest would usually continue a trade their father, and father’s fathers worked in, so they would already have the experience. Even in the 50’s people often were married by the age of 24.
 
To reference Fr. Mike Schmitz “Why not?” priests bless just about everything, Fr. Mike was asked to bless his sister’s tattoo, why wouldn’t a priest bless a ring. Unless its fundamentally immoral, I can’t see a reason it wouldn’t be bless-able (I have gotten priests to bless several ring’s I’ve had).
 
I think a lot of people fantasize who their future spouse is to the point where they are blinded by reality and never interact with people and instead wait for some fantasy that isn’t coming because they aren’t actively talking to people in the present.

Jason Evert did a video on this called “don’t date your imagination”
 
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Michael_Anthony said:
That’s not actual teaching/history, most of the time it was either culturally acceptable (~Roman era) or legally permitted, not because it was considered okay, but simply unrealistic to try and enforce a legal prohibition of.
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Didn’t say it was actual teaching. But there’s a lot of things that weren’t actual official teaching that have nonetheless been often widely accepted. The good girl/bad girl distinction originally referenced would find no support in teaching either.
 
Dolphin said:
Thoughts on men’s purity rings.
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I don’t think much of them as they. The rings and movement started in the 1980’s in the US and spread over the years.

Wearing a purity ring is not traditional in the Catholicism where there is clear doctrine and leadership in the area of Chasity.
 
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