You asked about forgiveness. Repentence is the sine qua non to forgiveness.
We obviously have a difference in doctrine.
That would also mean that G-d holds onto hatred and resentment because He isn’t in control too. Again:
Here is a difference between our personal views of G-d. The Father I pray to does not feel hatred or resentment toward anyone. He forgives immediately.
One must strive to leave sin behind and become a better person. G-d demands that.
Agreed. In Christianity, though, “being a better person” includes that we forgive everyone whom we hold anything against. Again, we have doctrinal differences. I like ours better, but I understand and accept your point of view and your doctrinal differences. It is human to demand repentance.
After the party in the wrong repents (and makes restitution if necessary), the party that was wronged is obligated to forgive.
Catholics are also “obligated to forgive”, but our obligation has no precondition. Either way, I find the word “obligation” somewhat counter-productive. It’s like forcing someone to love someone else. It is quite human to resist any “obligation” to forgive. I like promoting the idea that forgiveness is good for your own well-being, as Fred Luskin also writes.
I encourage Catholics who hold something against Israelis to forgive them. We could argue that the Israelis have done nothing wrong, that there is nothing to forgive, but those arguments, as you know, go on forever. We each have our own rulebook, and each of us has different criteria. Isn’t it better just to make the blanket statement, “if you hold something against someone, forgive”? That way, each of us comes to be at peace with everyone. Jesus is an idealist. Of course, again, this does not mean that we are to stop from protecting ourselves.
- This would endanger your troops.
- Can you give some examples of Christians forgiving enemies before going into battle in the past 1000 years? I would be interested in hearing more about that and what tangible effect it had in battle. Did they refrain from taking the offensive? From killing?
It would not necessarily endanger our troops. However, it would avert a lot of offense and aggressive moves by people. For example, you would have to agree that a lot of progress would be made if Palestinians who hate Israelis would take the time and effort to forgive. If Palestinians loved and forgave their enemies, then we would see more peaceful demonstrations and no bombings, not that the Palestinians do not already do many peaceful demonstrations.
I would also be interested in the tangible effects on battle. If the battle is truly a defensive one, forgiving the enemy may have little effect on the killing. Perhaps people would make more effort toward non-lethal use of weaponry. I don’t know, I never spent any time in the military.
But your observation on Christian lack of dedication to forgiveness is accurate, as I believe I have told you in the past. We’re all a work in progress.