What makes a person beautiful?

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Beauty is health of life, everything which is conducive to the propagation of life.

Also, I’m very available, uh BoomBoom 😉
 
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It’s a good question.
If he was not objectively attractive maybe he would still be attractive to me.
But at the same time,I also “hate” myself for also being shallow like others because if the guy was extremely unattractive then maybe I wouldn’t want to date him.
On one hand I hate being shallow like this,but then on the other hand when you try to “force it” (the attraction and relationship) then you are likely being a fake and really insulting the very “ugly” person because they (or ugly me) doesn’t need a “pity date” and you are trying to force compatibility when you might not be.

I don’t know who has it worse -men or women- because men have nothing to cover it if they are very unattractive (except cosmetic surgery).Women are blessed with makeup but the expectations for women to have to be attractive are much higher then they are for men.
 
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would you be happy to date or even marry a physically unattractive man?
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Depends on his bank account, and I’m not kidding. The days of me paying for dinner (or trips or airline tickets or symphony tickets, etc.) because my super-attractive dates are “short on cash” are over. I’ll pay for my own, but he’s got to pay his share. Men always say, “When a woman is attractive, it shows she cares about herself.” Same for them.
 
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Rozellelily said:
But at the same time,I also “hate” myself for also being shallow like others because if the guy was extremely unattractive then maybe I wouldn’t want to date him.
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I sure don’t hate myself for being shallow. Men expect me to go to the gym and keep in shape, get my hair and nails done regularly, keep my skin glowing, keep my hair shiny and long, and a host of other things. So now, I expect the same of them, i.e., look good, and if they don’t, do something about it.
 
Cindy Crawford without make-up:

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Lisa Rinna without make-up (and with):

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I wouldn’t have thought make-up could do so much! I don’t think it changes my looks that much. Men are at a disadvantage in this department as it’s not socially acceptable for men to wear much make up, if any. TV and film cameras today can smooth out wrinkles, etc. and make a person looks years younger and much, much better.

For me, the “beautiful people” and the ones in the classic films of the 30s and 40s. Like Ava Gardner. No camera filters to smooth out the wrinkles (if she had any at that time, I doubt she did). Doris Day was authentically beautiful as well.
 
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No camera filters to smooth out the wrinkles
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Actually, camera filters (some as basic as stretching hosiery over the camera lens to slightly blur the image), skillful lighting and heavy cosmetics (pancake makeup, colored wax makeup) have been around as long as there have been cameras.
 
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Actually, camera filters (some as basic as stretching hosiery over the camera lens to slightly blur the image), skillful lighting and heavy cosmetics (pancake makeup, colored wax makeup) have been around as long as there have been cameras.
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Yes, you are right. I’ve read Doris Day like cheesecloth over the camera lens, though I don’t know if it’s true. It’s just that today’s cameras can do so much more.
 
I can understand how you would have come to that mentality.
Sounds like your just beating them at their own game.
Me personally,I would prefer a guy who wasn’t so shallow or had those expectations and that much focus and value on externally appearances/superficiality and so I don’t want to be that way either.
 
Oh, I won’t stay with them if they’re shallow. I couldn’t bear that. But I think we deserve a guy who takes care of himself, too. For example, I wouldn’t be attracted to an overweight, sloppy guy with dirty nails. But I wouldn’t remain with a shallow, great-looking man.
 
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Sure the women of the classic films were the most beautiful.
The actresses/models/whatever in the above photos obviously look more attractive with makeup but I think they still look ok without.
Magazines/websites often choose the most horrible and unflattering photos they can find in an attempt to make the reader feel better about themselves but anyone can take a bad photo and to be honest I really feel some of these examples are just bad photos and they probably don’t look as “bad” in real life without makeup as the bad photo/s.

The real question is why do we put women who are externally beautiful on a pedestal?
By making statements like 1950’s or classic actresses were actually naturally beautiful…sure that statement may be factually true…but so what?
Did she (classic actress) do something to earn that beauty or did she just win the genetic jackpot?
Why do we as a society worship people for things that people can’t change or better?

No wonder why there are so many teens and even little girls crying with self esteem probs who feel they are ugly compared to someone who is more pretty-the reason is because we reward external beauty.
The reward might be compliments,adoration,money,better jobs,love,etc…regardless of the reward type,it is rewarded.
No wonder why the Cosmetic Surgery industry is flourishing more and more-because women “everywhere” are given the message that you valued higher if you are beautiful!
 
That to me is more then about self care and self respect than superficialness.
I think the sloppy guys an extreme (at least where I’m from).Some people though aren’t sloppy or lack of effort-they are just naturally unattractive:(
 
A soul by it’s nature is beautiful, in one sense anyways, because it comes from the hand of God. Sin obscures that beauty, it darkens it.

As the soul becomes purer through love of God and hatred of sin, it becomes more beautiful because it is becoming more fully human. The human fullness that God intended for man.
 
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Yes, some are. It seems if we care for someone, they get better and better looking to us as time goes on. If we don’t like them, they never look better. But of course a certain amount of self-care is necessary.
 
Yeah, there are different kinds of beauty. I was thinking about my hypothetical wife. (I am single.) I would tend to hold that a distinction would need to be made between beauty and attractiveness. Well, it’s all a bit complicated in my book, once we get into the idea of what humans call beauty etc.

I would tend to think that my wife would find me more sexually attractive when I’m not fat and unkempt, that sort of thing, and I her. But I’m aware that marriage and that bond of marriage goes well beyond physical desirability, i don’t know. Maybe I should read all the posts above. hehe
 
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Oh dear, your phrase “beautiful people” brought to mind that one song… 😱
 
I think pale is sexy. 🙂 Seriously, I don’t mind if a woman is very fair skinned.

Anyways, I wanted to leave you all, as I retire for the evening, with one of my favorite scripture passages and one I try to keep always before my eyes when I’m out in the world, looking at beautiful women or whatever it may be, All is so transient except the soul.

All flesh is grass,
and all its beauty is like the flower of the field.
The grass withers, the flower fades
when the breath of the LORD blows on it;
surely the people are grass.
The grass withers, the flower fades,
but the word of our God will stand forever.

-Isaiah, chapter 40
 
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Oh, pale can definitely be beautiful, but when you’re so white you’re basically translucent (like me), it’s very easy for your complexion to look washed out if you wear the wrong colors. Hence why I gravitate toward black and deep blue tops, while avoiding neons.
 
Sounds like you’ve got it down. 🙂

I would think the main draw back would be sensitivity to UV.
 
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