What my wedding might be like

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First, if my supposed wife in existence agree’s to it. And then, finally, if it even happens.

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As I write this, others might oppose the very notion of the idea’s I put forth. But, I will share anyways:

In my Wedding, I might either break with certain modes of tradition (notice smaller “t”. Though, like venial sins, could also set up someone to bigger/greater/grave sins instead.) So in caution, by saying breaking from certain modes of tradition, I’m going to be careful that is not say to break traditions, or Traditions because there’s something I might feels lacks, or is inadequate. Or perhaps too much.

Back to my wedding, I’d like to have the Sanctorum Litanae (Yes, actually sung in Latin) as my bride enters the chambers of the Church, down the aisle way. For me, I’d be kneeling facing the Altar, in unison and prayer. As she approaches, kneeling down herself, wherefore there’s a Rosary in my left hand. She, if she chooses so, may take the Rosary I have. And that the beads might be around both are hands, as if tied together, forming this Sacred bond of Holy Matrimony, in the process.

If I had a wedding, and it was mine. I’d have reviewed/scheduled with priests to have additional hands and Confession open during the whole duration of the Mass in Matrimony. In fact, if barely anyone whom I had invited goes to Confession. Well, at least this opens the Confessional for the person coming by or into the Church during my wedding. Also, if that person is able to receive Jesus during my Wedding Mass, then this allows the Offering of Christ in the Eucharist. And that then would be the self giving of though the Matrimonial participation in the Mass for me and my wife to be. This gives the opportunity to others. Who knows? Christ, and the Holy Spirit, by God the Father, may draw someone’s attention through the Liturgy expressed, and the Homily, and Readings to someone passing by. Or anyone, Guest or not, to be lifted up in God’s glory, His Love, and His Mercy.

The Confession is generous. Not to my own sentiment of generosity from me. But really giving one’s self to Christ, in the Mass, and through the Liturgy during that Celebration of Holy Matrimony. How so many converts, or conversion might come about?
 
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Personally, though I could be completely wrong about this. I’d love to have both the Divine Chaplet Mercy and the Holy Rosary, and the Novena to the Nine Choirs of Angels either all before my wedding. Or say the Rosary before, the Divine Chaplet of Mercy during, and the Nine Choirs of Angels after.

I’d love to have the Rosary prayed in English, Spanish, and Vietnamese, and Latin.

I just think the people attending my Wedding ought to have the robust richness of the Church, as one would attentively have the best held for the Dinner Guests. So all might be refined during the Mass.

Who knows?

Certain person’s who have absolutely opposed the Church, might go because it’s my wedding. And then a conversion of heart takes place. It is to fill them with the richness of the Church.

People need food and sustenance. To be healed and to be loved. So they may do likewise. And that how I’d want it to be at my Wedding.

Does my wife have a say? That’s where my soul must ask before that Wedding happens, to ensure none of the components of something Muslim or dictatingly takes place. Nor any sort of brain washing. Nor any sort of domination. To make sure none of those errors are being pursuant in my ambition of marriage, beforehand. In addition, to make sure also there aren’t other errors of laxity, diminishing or breaking down the terms God has made, for Salvation, either. So a definite preparation must occur before then.

Perhaps I will ask before my Wedding, for prayer requests from people. And have them all offered on the Altar during Mass, during the offeratory prayer.

My wife, or bride at that moment, doesn’t have to do anything…well at least she doesn’t have to lead prayers. Nor does she have to make any of the arrangements of the Mass. She may, should she choose to, select the Best men, bridal maids, ring bearer, flower girl, etc. And all the other components in the marriage Celebration.

But, should she point out something much more deeper and greater conviction for the Rosary, or something I might ask for during the Mass. And she has a deeper conviction than me! 😉 Nah! Can never be, right? Well, actually there’s perhaps where the following happens. With all the in-roads of having Confession offered, inviting all people coming by the One, Holy, Catholic, and Apostolic Church, are always invited to receive Christ. And to be invited though informally. Just by being there. Well, once I make all the arrangements with the Priest on our Wedding Mass. She may call out things as they come. In other words, what I do may come under correction, better arranging, and fixing things. Which, I am sure, she will make that call. And better one’s than I have done so far. And that’s the key to Communion in Marriage. I might make the initial start and work/process of plans. But my wife has the refinement of them. I do the initial groundwork. She then makes it complete, clean, organized, and done right.

But yeah, that would be my wedding plans.
 
It’s nice to daydream, but in the end what happens at your wedding is going to largely depend on what the priest is going to permit you to do. Which will be heavily driven by his own and his church’s resources - do they have enough priests for confession, do they have time for you to schedule a Rosary before or after Mass, etc.
 
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DeniseNY said:
I feel like there’s so much I want to say, but I don’t even know where to begin
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Just did a quick view of your profile. Says Byzantine. Now, you’ve given the other part I was looking for. I want to have my Rosary, each decade in five Languages. I only thought of four. But now I have a fifth language: Byzantine Greek.

Thank you
 
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Buddy, by the time a woman gets married she’s got every aspect of that wedding planned out between her and her mother. Do not expect much say in how it goes. By the time she’s ready to walk down the aisle the easiest aspect to change is the groom.

Best thing you can do if a you find a woman you want to marry and she feels the same is shut up and let her just tell you when and where to be.
 
Church Slavonic would be more appropriate. 🙂

In all seriousness, life hardly ever goes exactly the way we plan it. While it’s nice to have dreams and ideas about what you want, if you focus too much on perfecting the details, you could end up with a lot of disappointments because reality doesn’t live up to the expectations. Don’t do that to yourself.

And don’t forget, there’s going to be another party involved in all of this and she’s most certainly going to have her own ideas about the wedding day.
 
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JanSobieskiIII said:
Buddy, by the time a woman gets married she’s got every aspect of that wedding planned out between her and her mother.
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Not necessarily. I prettymuch was the main planner for my wedding.

Though some stuff in the OP is either not viable or discouraged by the Church.

OP…when you meet a real life woman with opinions and stuff, I’m sure some of your plans will change. lol
 
There are exceptions to every rule I suppose. Most of the couples I’m friends with, the men had virtually no say in anything but what food and beer would be served at the reception.
 
Yeah, I think in my case it was largely because my wife’s family weren’t Catholic and had no idea how to go about planning a Catholic liturgy.

I find it weird though that the Bride’s family are the main organisers. I don’t think I’d have been very happy with that. I really enjoyed organising my wedding.
 
Hahaha…
Fair enough. I guess I just enjoy organising stuff.

My dad, my sisters, and I actually made the floral arragements and bridal bouquet the night before the wedding.
 
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You know who runs the show on the actual day? The wedding photographers.
 
AdamP88 said:
I find it weird though that the Bride’s family are the main organisers. I don’t think I’d have been very happy with that. I really enjoyed organising my wedding
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So there is hope 😉 Awesome!

I mean yeah, for sure, what everyone’ sentiments have gone through Weddings themselves. Yep, I understand the fact there will be changes for sure. I’d be one of them. My heart and soul will have to change for the girl. For I am a sinner. Thus, Adoration, Confession, and the Mass.

But there is discernment. Are all my idea’s and desires qualitatively all what God wants to happen?

And that is where I am stuck. I am ambitious with dreams. But that may not be God’s plan. Just like the Vocation of a Priest. Requires full on discernment.
 
Fair enough.

I do know though that confession during mass is not reccomended, as it takes the focus away from the mass.

Some priests will not allow that.
 
AdamP88 said:
Fair enough.

I do know though that confession during mass is not reccomended, as it takes the focus away from the mass.

Some priests will not allow that.
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If my desire is built in/intrinsically God led (i.e. promptings of the Holy Spirit.) Then I guess it would have to be the long and arduous process like that of Lourdes, Fatima, Guadalupe, and Champion (Wisconsin.)

Bernadette is told by Mary to dig down to the well spring of water the lays underneath. The children at Fatima are to meet Mary up on a hill on particular days, praying. Juan Diego was given Roses as proof to the Bishop. And Sister Adele Brise had everyone pray during the firestorm that left the Church standing. And other places where Mary has appeared and spoke alike.

I do not know if my prayers and desires are encouraged by the Holy Spirit. And that is hard. Truly hard in discernment.
 
" I do the initial groundwork. She then makes it complete, clean, organized, and done right.

But yeah, that would be my wedding plans."

Yeah, good luck with that.
 
“What you should actually do is follow the rubrics.”

I tried to do the normal quote/response. But for some reason not working when I copy and hit “Reply.”

But without further ado. In truth, I am not one who really goes for breaking traditions/rubrics/liturgical practices/Traditions, etc. It would be like asking a Hospital to do things contrary to Protocol or have some laxity. Which would jeopardize the lives of people. So in no way I mean that.

But, something like the man standing at the foot of the Altar where the priest conducts the Marriage, seeing the Bride come down the aisle. Unless I am mistaken (which I could very well be), seems not a rubric of Mass. In my case, I’d rather kneel before the Altar, offer the Litanae Sanctorum. But then again, if I must stand and watch my Bride walk down the Aisle. Then so shall it be. And then, we can both kneel down before the Altar and still pray the Litanae Sanctorum. She may join, or she may sit. And then I’d have to be left by myself kneeling at the Altar praying with the priests. It’s not to put her in the back and say she is not important. However, I am offering our marriage up to the Communion of saints. Asking them to intercede for us. Which would then be Heavenly and Divine.
 
Actually, it is in the rubrics of the marriage rite that the groom waits at the foot of the altar for the bride. That’s one form allowed for the entrance.

All the things you propose are nice, but I doubt any priest would go for most, if not all.

-Fr ACEGC
 
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