What my wedding might be like

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casslean said:
Seriously, I was at a rehearsal recently and I swear I’ve gotten less direction on the stage than he was providing to the couple.
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Good point - I should have said he’s not an assistant choreographer…
 
BoyGenius said:
I’d rather kneel before the Altar, offer the Litanae Sanctorum. But then again, if I must stand and watch my Bride walk down the Aisle. Then so shall it be.
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To be honest, I think most brides would take issue with this.
I mean, she only gets to walk down the aisle once in her life and she probably will want you to be looking at HER. There is an appropriate time for everything, and sometimes it’s more appropriate to look at your bride than pray.

I think a lot of these ideas will fall by the wayside if and when you meet a woman. You will undoubtedly have to accommodate your bride’s preferences as well.
 
BoyGenius said:
Thus, if he came to my wedding with the Liturgical Celebration, and having the Litany of the Saints, that would merit him to the prayers we have. Because, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob for whom as we see in the Transfiguration, there my brother-in-law may see hope for his own family and deceased. Wherefore there may open for him the desire for Baptism.
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I think it’s admirable to want to have a wedding mass that is geared toward evangelisation. I had this in mind too when I planned the liturgy for my wedding. And I had lots of ideas on how this could be done. But there’s only so much you can fit in to a wedding ceremony.

Instead of trying to plan everything down to the last detail, perhaps concentrate on preparing yourself for your vocation, whatever that may be. When it comes time to plan the ceremony, you’ll have to consider the (name removed by moderator)ut of your wife and the celebrating priest.
 
StRaphaelPray4Us said:
Confession should be done by the wedding party after the rehearsal. Time and appropriateness usually do not allow for confession prior to a wedding.
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Is this a thing? To have scheduled Confession for the wedding party after the rehearsal?

My husband and I each went to Confession on our own, according to our usual schedule, some time before the wedding. I went a week before and my husband went 2 weeks before the wedding. The priest came to each of us right before the wedding and asked if we’ve been to confession recently and offered to hear our confessions if we needed it.

I have no idea when or if the rest of our small wedding party went to Confession. I have no idea if they received Communion at our wedding. That was really none of my business.

There was only one non-Catholic member of our wedding party. She was Orthodox and I knew that she would not be receiving.
 
Gertabelle said:
Relax a little with your planning. Work on your own salvation and necessary conversion of heart. Pray and make sacrifices for them, and then allow God to work in their hearts. Only He can change the heart. ❤️
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The “arrogant” part I would have to disagree with. And, even the “adding.”

But the quoted portion, I wholeheartedly agree with.

Thank you
 
AdamP88 said:
I mean, she only gets to walk down the aisle once in her life and she probably will want you to be looking at HER. There
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Depending I guess on the Rite of Marriage. The man has only one time he gets to watch her walk down the aisle or to walk with her too.

But even with that said, if my wife exists, then she may very well have idea’s already in her mind just as I have 🙂

In that case, it would really take on my part spiritual devotion and lifting it up all to God.

For as Saint Padre Pio is often quoted saying, “Pray, hope, and don’t worry.”

Which lets me count on the Saints.

Hopefully meeting my bride to be, if she exists - since that is discernment and purification of one’s heart and intentions. But should she exist - and I must be ready for “didapppinments” on what I expect she would be like. I should/need to surrender myself to God the Holy Spirit.

If God wants to put two people together, a man and a woman, by their own freewill. Then it shall be.

I had already prayed and discerned on the girl I would like to Mary. I even saw a girl with talents and unbelievable intelligence. She is way smarter than me. But I have only observed from a distance. But in all honesty, she, though my heart soared and day dreaming followed. She may not actually like/love me.
 
We switched from wearing ours on our left hands to the right about 3 years ago. I started thinking about how symbolically the right hand was (sign of the cross, binding during matrimony) and that sealed the deal.
 
I love my mother, but I’d never let her near the planning stages of my wedding.

My parents are divorced, so thankfully she just kind of does what I ask of her when it comes to my life.
 
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JanetF said:
That’s what my hubby said 32 years ago…then his mother got involved 😦
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My mother wasn’t of the disposition to interfere like that (and probably wouldn’t have been even if she hadn’t been 450 miles away . . . tell me that the white/blonde clump in my mustache makes it looks like my nose is dripping in an attempt to get me to shave my beard, sure 😱:roll_eyes:, but not try to push around a bride before the wedding . . .)

hawk, who lacks the vanity to die his beard, but may very well darken that one spot . . .
 
Angel_Gabriel said:
We switched from wearing ours on our left hands to the right about 3 years ago. I started thinking about how symbolically the right hand was (sign of the cross, binding during matrimony) and that sealed the deal.
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We wear ours on the right hand, too. It´s custom in the orthodox environment I belong to, also in my middle-east family´s background. I do almost everything with my right hand, so it´s more openly viewable to wear the ring right for me.
The german custom really wasn´t a thing for us to consider. Most people you meet here are unmarried, but this is another problem :roll_eyes:
 
Oh that I believe…marriage has lost all sorts of importance everywhere 😦 .

My brother married a German girl a while back and he wears his ring on his right hand probably b/c of the German influence (he’s not religious at all). I am of German decent so I could claim that as well being Eastern Catholic lol…but the real reason I give is the one I mentioned…binding during the marriage rite. (We were married in the Roman rite as I was Roman Catholic then.)
 
Interesting thread for many reasons, one of which is I’m juggling with cross-denomination and cross-cultural practises.
It’s reasuring to hear that walking in together is allowed, but I would really like to have the rings blessed before exchanging them, which is part of my background, but I can’t find a good rubric for that.
And singing? A wedding without the congregation offering praise and blessing in hymns? (Been googling for advice, and I can’t believe what I’m reading)
 
SnowRose said:
Interesting thread for many reasons, one of which is I’m juggling with cross-denomination and cross-cultural practises.
It’s reasuring to hear that walking in together is allowed, but I would really like to have the rings blessed before exchanging them, which is part of my background, but I can’t find a good rubric for that.
And singing? A wedding without the congregation offering praise and blessing in hymns? (Been googling for advice, and I can’t believe what I’m reading)
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I’m pretty sure the rings are blessed as part of the marriage ceremony already. And I’ve been to plenty of weddings with congregational singing, my own included.
 
babochka said:
Is this a thing? To have scheduled Confession for the wedding party after the rehearsal?
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It is a thing that was discussed and got a thread shut down not that long ago 🤣

About half of the priests I know offer confession before the wedding rehearsal.
 
Just worry about finding a wife before you think about marriage
 
Op over here is thinking about his five language rosary and I’m over here thinking I hope I actually find a woman worth my time lol
 
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