I ended up taking a six-year maternity leave when my babies were born.
I was able to work part-time with my older daughter, but breast-feeding ended at 6 months. It just wasn’t working to breast-feed sometimes and not other times, and for me, pumping just didn’t work. (Perhaps with today’s better pumps, it might have worked for me.)
But when I was 8 months pregnant with my second daughter, i clearly remember wondering how on earth I was going to manage losing sleep with TWO young children, breastfeeding, and working, and I totaled up the tiny amount of money I would bring home after paying the cost of a daycare or sitter–and I talked it over with my husband, and the next day, I walked into the lab manager’s office and told him, “I’m not going to be back.”
For a year, he called at least once every two weeks to ask if I was ready to come back to work (there is a big shortage of lab techs that has always been and probably always will be).
I am SO GLAD that I stayed home with my daughters! They were extremely-well reared by me. Both of them were reading BEFORE they went to school–a goal that I had ever since attending college and seeing with my own eyes how the education majors were the wildest party-ers in the entire college, even worse than the music majors (most of them were playing gigs in the bars where everyone else was partying).
I was NOT going to have my daughters end up in a 1st Grade class with a teacher who partied his/her way through college and barely graduated with passing grades, and enjoyed trying new educational theories out on his/her students. Nope, I was determined not to send my kids to school until they already knew how to read just in case they ended up with a dumb-head teacher.
And it wasn’t just reading–they had a fantastic childhood–playing outdoors, hiking, meeting all kinds of people (we did “field trips” to meet people and learn about their different professions), reading stories to them at least an hour a day, gardening experiments (which always failed for me), cooking, picnics, chores, games, prayers, VBS, music–lots of music and singing…
…I just wish every parent could this. We were poor–always in debt–our one crumby car kept falling apart at least twice a month, but we didn’t have money to pay for a different car. We bought our kids Christmas presents at yard sales (they didn’t know the difference).
But it was worth it. I take credit (and give a lot to my husband, too!) for how my kids turned out.
I think a lot less money should be spent on public education (which is a failure for many kids and their families), and the money should be given to moms (or dads) so that they can stay home for that crucial first year of baby’s life and rear them well.
In other words, I would take the tax money AWAY from public schools and give it back to the parents. A much better investment, IMO.
I do realize the problems with this. A lot of young parents have no clues about child-rearing and would go crazy within a few weeks. To me, that’s sad that child-rearing has become a lost art/skill.