What's the point in dating in today's society

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For those of you who don’t believe in miracles. This thread.
 
You’re right, I was just frustrated. I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to offend anyone.
 
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Better to abstain from something sinful than go to hell for it. Modern dinner-sex date sex should always be rejected. If potential spouses do not want children then marriage is not a good idea I think. If marriage to a non-Catholic will endanger one’s faith, then that is the wrong union to pursue.
 
My oldest daughter met her husband in law school. He was Presbyterian, but went to Anglican schools. Great guy. He converted after they got married. They dated for years before they got married.

My younger daughter is a PhD in Psychology. She met her Catholic orthodontist husband on eHarmony. There is also at least one Catholic dating site I know of, maybe more.

As far as why you date, it is to get to know the other person and see if you are a match. I think the sex thing and the religion thing are kind of a litmus tests, among many other things that you discover through the process.

But dating is not absolutely mandatory. I can tell you that my wife and I met through our parents, but we lived in different cities. We had a two year mostly letter and phone call relationship before we got married. I would say we went out on only about a half dozen dates and we were the same town and able to be face-to-face only about two or three weeks the whole time. We are still married coming up on 40 years. I don’t recommend doing it that way, but it can work.

Here is one thing about being devout I think you are missing: Remember, it is not all about you. It is about God, it is about the children you might have and the love of your life. You need to put what you want about 4th on the priority list. Get out and meet people. All kinds of people. Get interested in them and befriend them whether they are potential mates or not. Volunteer at church. I guarantee that at least half the families at any Catholic church know a Catholic single girl who is looking.
 
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redbetta said:
A lot less cringey than a lot of people’s first threads.
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Yeah.

Any single CAF guy who isn’t posting about compulsive masturbation or why women are terrible has already made a good impression.
 
If I were single and not Catholic I might be married sooner rather than later… maybe even a couple times. TIC

Offering this thread for the gift of Holy matrimony in the Sacrament of Marriage, in Jesus name amen. : )
 
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jdavani,

Have you considered the possibility you might be falling into depression?

I’ve been in grad school before and felt beaten down and saaaad–law school may be hurting your mental health. At least get yourself over to student counseling.

Your affect sounds very depressive.

Edited to add: I should mention that I perked up right after I got out, but being a lawyer may also be depressing.

 
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Yeah, I think so. I’m a guardian ad litem and I studied a lot of family law at school–it’s all divorces and child abuse. Not to mention my school is filled with people my age who seem to only care about money. The thing about student counseling is that medical records can be subpeonaed by the bar and can hurt your chances of becoming an attorney.

I’ve been making use of regular confession though, and it has helped. I’m a lot happier now than I was when I started law school.
 
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thats absurd! i had no plans to become a lawyer, but that medical records thing is bull you know what!
 
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