Who do you love more ,your spouse or your kids

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It is not a matter of who you love more. You love them differently. For instance your love for your spouse has an erotic love component (eros) and your love for children is an agape form of love. Both are parents are called to love their children and put their children’s needs first knowing these children will grow-up and start families of their own. Additionally spouses need to know their children will move on so they must maintain their relationship for they will be without these children one day. In essence, sustain your marital love as you parent so your marital relationship takes you into a future without children.
 
Jessie5000 said:
It is not a matter of who you love more. You love them differently. For instance your love for your spouse has an erotic love component (eros) and your love for children is an agape form of love. Both are parents are called to love their children and put their children’s needs first knowing these children will grow-up and start families of their own. Additionally spouses need to know their children will move on so they must maintain their relationship for they will be without these children one day. In essence, sustain your marital love as you parent so your marital relationship takes you into a future without children.
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Do you think its possible to agape our husband ? I think i really agape my husband .I do things for him selfless and don’t expect anything in return and he do the same for me .So its possible.
 
JackieMom said:
Apples and oranges. Husband’s opinion matters more than kids’ opinions, but the kids’ needs come first. They are dependent, my husband is a grown man.

I’ve been asked that horrible question - if you could only save one person in an emergency, your child or your husband - who would it be? Hands down, I’d save my child. And I think that’s normal for a mother to have that instinct, and most fathers would want it to be so.

I wouldn’t say I love my kids more, but I can see myself eventually carrying on after the death of my husband in a way that I would not be able to if I lost one of my kids.
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You can look at it another way too. People come and go. Sometimes your kids go before you. That’s just the way it is. And if they’re young and you are they can always be replaced by new ones. I agree it’s apples and oranges.
 
billcu1 said:
You can look at it another way too. People come and go. Sometimes your kids go before you. That’s just the way it is. And if they’re young and you are they can always be replaced by new ones. I agree it’s apples and oranges.
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You cannot replace a human being . 🤷
 
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