Why Am I Single? Where to Find Catholic Men?

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Why not do both. In the Marriage Encounter group that we are apart of there are two couples who met through CM. I’m sad to here there is no Theology on Tap near you. I had a great time when I was in my late 20’s early 30’s just socializing at TOT.

An hour really isn’t that far away as you might only meet up every few months with the school group.

Did you take my suggestion of starting a positive journal?
 
Go for it. My mother was fond of saying “God helps those who help themselves.”

I don’t think God is going to drop someone on your lap. So stop waiting, and get busy contacting people on CM.
 
Yes I took your suggestion. Thank you!

I shall look into more stuff near me. I’m not making this as an excuse but my area is really small and there’s nothing to do. I really want to move.
 
How about those people who were at the right place at the right time or they get lucky? Like they’re out and about and boom it happens.

I’m worried about fake people, the idea that the people might not like me back or even people ghosting or leaving eventually over time.
 
Here’s another idea (I don’t know if it has already been suggested yet) - have you considered going to the Extraordinary Form (also know as the old-style Tridentine Latin) Mass? (That is assuming that Masses have not been suspended where you live due to the Coronavirus).
 
bostonsportsforever said:
How about those people who were at the right place at the right time or they get lucky? Like they’re out and about and boom it happens.
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But they were out and about. In my case I was actually rude to the lady who is now my wife. See you never know how things will pan out 🙂 I was having a bad day and the church function at night I was helping at the lady in charge changed stuff without telling us. My wife was also volunteering and asked me a question and I was down right rude to her. Luckily she has a sense of humor and as we got to hang out we just clicked. But if we weren’t out there we never would of met. Just relax and have fun and that is when you will find someone. Glad you are giving CM a whirl.
 
Look, you can just sit around waiting for something that might never happen or you can do something to bring it about.

You really are making lots of excuses, Boston. 🤨
 
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I’m worried about fake people, the idea that the people might not like me back or even people ghosting or leaving eventually
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Yeah, there are going to be people that don’t like us, or people that ghost us or leave us. But that’s what dating is all about. You try, it doesn’t work out, you move along. You are quitting before you even get started.
 
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Please listen to all this great advice!
You can’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket 🙂
 
I know how you feel, I want my Son to meet a good Catholic down to Earth woman, and Pray for God to pick the right one for him…
My Son has gotten to where if it happens it happens…
 
He has the right idea. I was trying toohard when I was in my 20’s and when late 20’s hit I decided to go out more for me and really was having a good time meeting people with no pressure. Really never expected to meet my wife but that is how God gets you 🙂
 
Whether it’s church, the internet, you have to be someplace! And, you’re not likely to meet someone if you just stay home. You should, wherever you are, be likeable. To everyone you may meet. As I said, those you wouldn’t date because of gender, age, etc. have brothers, sons, uncles, nephews…but you have to appear interesting and likeable. So, pursue things you like, and that interest you. It may take time, but if you try, you just may find someone you can love. And can love you. None of us is guaranteed anything. And some may seem luckier.

Most likely, you’re just worrying too much. And doing too little.
 
Update - I signed up for CM and viewed and liked a profile I was interested in. This profile, I felt like he’s my soulmate - exactly everything I could ever want but I got no interest. Thoughts? I am guessing he is not interested. If so, how do I move on because I feel like he is the man I’ve been praying for my whole life.
 
I am guessing he doesn’t like asian girls but it makes me very sad!!
 
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This profile, I felt like he’s my soulmate - exactly everything I could ever want but I got no interest.
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First of all, this is an odd thing to say. You should not even be thinking like this about someone you haven’t even had contact with. He is not the man you have been looking for your whole life. You are coming across as a bit dramatic. 🤨

I don’t know what kind of stuff is included on a profile or not, but perhaps yours needs a bit of fine tuning to get more interest.

Again, stop with the looks already. Stop saying he doesn’t like Asian girls. You don’t know that!

Now answer this. Have you contacted anyone or are you just sitting around waiting for some special guy to fall into your lap?

You know, looks are not everything. I think that you are probably only looking at guy’s profiles for their pics. Forget what people look like. If a guy that is not your ideal look, but contacts you, talk to him anyway, at least for a while.
 
My profile is fully loaded and my photos are decent. Since I don’t like myself and how I look, I only have very few photos of myself but the ones that I do, I put up.

I know that because if there was some remote interest, he would have viewed my profile, liked or even messaged. Also, when I first made a CM profile, I used a fake photo as I was uncomfortable using my own photo at first and he viewed me but no message or like.

I have not contacted anyone as I am waiting for God to answer my prayer and mainly because I don’t want to pay the fee.

I have to like the way a guy looks to some extent. And it’s not only the looks that attracted me. It’s the quality of his writing and interests - similar interests and knows how to write and speak well.
 
So, why aren’t you contacting him then? Do you really think God is sitting there waiting to choose some guy for you and he wants you to do nothing until then?

Sounds like an excuse on your part. If you don’t try, you won’t get rejected, right? You also won’t meet anyone.

It is also possible that if you are using the same name on your profile, that people have seen them both and wondered why are you doing that.
 
Because I’m waiting for God to answer my prayer. How about those people or women the guy messages first or makes the first move? I also don’t want to pay the fee as I’ve read on other sites that they kept getting charged after the subscription is up.

I already got rejected since he didn’t view my profile, like, or message first. If a guy is truly interested, he will make the first move.

I used a different name.
 
Wow, that’s pretty shallow.

Well, keep waiting then. But please don’t blame God if you don’t meet anyone.
 
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Because I’m waiting for God to answer my prayer.
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There was a man who lived beside a river.

The news reporter came on and said “everyone who lives by the river needs to evacuate! There is a dangerous flood!”

The man said “I am waiting for God to answer my prayer”

The river rose, soon the water was up to the windows. A rescue boat came by and said “Get in the boat! The flood is dangerous!!”

The man said “I am waiting for God to answer my prayer”.

Soon the river covered all but the roof of the house. The man stood on his roof, a helicopter came by and dropped a rope shouting “climb up! The flood is deadly!!”

The man said “I am waiting for God to answer my prayer”.

The man drowned and went to heaven.

God said “why are you here?”

The man said “I was waiting for you to answer my prayer!”

God said “I sent you a news reporter, a boat and a helicopter, what more do you want?”
 
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