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Peter_J
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Two thoughts …Semi-ditto, my experience was IRL. I had absolutely zero opinion on Catholics or Catholicism until my family joined our first Parrish as a family. That is where I was turned off to, what I see as, exclusionary portion of Catholicism.
It was putting off, and quite confusing, to see my name in the Church directory, on our Church mailbox, Collection envelops, mailers, etc…with an asterisk to denote that I, in fact wasn’t Catholic. When talking with the Father when joining, when he found out I wasn’t Catholic he wanted zero to do with me. At festival time, all the teen and adult members of the Church were assigned duties for the weekend…except myself and the other one or two non-Catholics.
Now, that was my first real experience with Catholicism. Is it getting better…ya it is. We have a new Father now. Is he keen on me, not 100% sure yet but he seems to be much more open. Do I feel comfortable at Mass yet. Not really, but it’s getting better. Has asking questions to the Father helped, yes…it has (once we got passed the I don’t want to convert part). Has this website helped. Ya, a whole lot. Have I been a touch offended a couple of times…sure. But for every post like that, here have been 5 more like FC34’s that are civil in nature and have been part of a healthy discussion.
Coming from my non-denominational background this is all quite different. My first experience with Catholicism was one of exclusion where growing up all that I learned was inclusion. That has been something that I struggle with, and maybe I’m missing something.
If there’s anything I’ve noticed, we’re probably all (myself included) guilty of throwing too large of blanket over too many people.
Not 100% sure how much sense I made there, but I’ll stick with it.
First, thank you for talking about Catholicism IRL – it’s amazing how tired I can get of people saying "Well, somebody called CatholicPerson1234 said such and such on such and such webpage, so what that tells us about Catholicism is … "
Second, fwiw, there’s a parish where I live that I now make a point not to go to, because of judgmental/triumphalistic/whatever comments that I have heard the priest (yes, the priest) make when I have been there in the past. I’ll grant you that’s rather troubling (imagine if there were, oh say, a kindergarten class where the worst behaved person in the class was the teacher
Hope this helps.