Wife wants a divorce

[Karin]

micatholic:

Do you mean the person who initiates divorce or the person who is the recipient. In my case, I really can’t do anything to stop her from going to court and obtaining a divorce.

either person. As long as neither remarries/dates/enters into a relationship before getting an annulment they are free to get /recieve communion.

actually depending on what state you live in you may have a say in that you could make it harder for her to get one. An example…here where i live (NJ) you have to PROVE grounds for a divorce (adultrey) so most divorces take on an average 2 years to complete…many married couples never complete the divorce process but reconcile.

 

[Katie1723]

JSmitty2005:

… The Church doesn’t even allow divorcees to receive Holy Communion. And Jesus Christ did say that if we don’t eat His flesh and drink His blood we will have no life within us.

I think you, sir ,had better read up on the rules. The Church most certainly DOES allow us “divorced persons” to receive Communion so long as we are not remarried without benefit of annulment. Don’t go making blanket statements about something when you don’t have the facts.
~ Kathy ~

 

[momtofivekids]

Getting A divorce for adultery is a very Protestant teaching. If you wanted a divorce through the church all one would have to do is go out and commit adultry.
From what I understand adultry is how divorce was “allowed” in the protestnat church, then things just grew from there.
I pray for you and your family.
God Bless

 

[smartblkchick]

momtofivekids:

Getting A divorce for adultery is a very Protestant teaching. If you wanted a divorce through the church all one would have to do is go out and commit adultry.
From what I understand adultry is how divorce was “allowed” in the protestnat church, then things just grew from there.
I pray for you and your family.
God Bless

I would get a divorce because of adultery for one reason: I could never trust that person to not bring an unwanted fatal disease into my bed again!

 

[momtofivekids]

I heard a comment from Dr. Ray once that I found very intersting. We are very poor at predicting what we would do in a situation until we are faced with it.
This I found to be true as I have gone through my life.
I pray that you and your wife can work things out.
Sorry if this is a little off the topic.

 

[luvmykids]

smartblkchick:

I would get a divorce because of adultery for one reason: I could never trust that person to not bring an unwanted fatal disease into my bed again!

Then you must not believe that by the grace of God, people DO change and really can be truly sorry. I can understand if your husband or wife puts you in that situation continually with no signs of remorse, but people can change for the better. Have you ever done things that you would never do again and are completely sorry for doing? Have you ever done anything to hurt someone or made you think to yourself, “I can’t believe I did that”?

 

[smartblkchick]

luvmykids:

Then you must not believe that by the grace of God, people DO change and really can be truly sorry. I can understand if your husband or wife puts you in that situation continually with no signs of remorse, but people can change for the better. Have you ever done things that you would never do again and are completely sorry for doing? Have you ever done anything to hurt someone or made you think to yourself, “I can’t believe I did that”?

Yes… but none of those things were potentially life-threatening. My husband sleeping around on me is a deal-breaker because, as you know, I am sleeping with whoever else he has decided to sleep with. My marriage is not worth risking my life for and I would not trust him not to cheat.

 

[stbruno]

“Two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided divorce or separation ended up happily married five years later.The bottom line is, you have to make a decision to stay at the table and be committed to making the marriage work. There are some things you can do to keep the vow you made…until death do us part.”
growthtrac.com/artman/publish/article_488.php

This was taken from a wonderful website called
www.growthrac.com. And the article is called Till Death do us part.

You can also receive a free enewsletter if you are interested in subscribing. The information posted there is very valuable. With all things, pray, pray and pray some more.

 

[embertx]

micatholic:

My non Catholic wife of eleven months today told me she wants a divorce. I would appreciate any prayers.

I will keep you and your wife in my prayers.

God bless

 

[luvmykids]

smartblkchick:

Yes… but none of those things were potentially life-threatening. My husband sleeping around on me is a deal-breaker because, as you know, I am sleeping with whoever else he has decided to sleep with. My marriage is not worth risking my life for and I would not trust him not to cheat.

God gave his life for us. We are in turn to give our whole selves over to our spouses when we marry for the good of the other. I’m not sure how to put this, but some spouses may risk their life for the other, because they love them. It isn’t suppose to be a conditional love. It’s suppose to be a commitment. Not…I love you only if you…or only if you don’t… EVERYONE is at risk for being cheated on. If you are married, you are at risk.

It’s potentially life threatening for me if my husband smokes. Am I suppose to divorce him if he doesn’t quit? It’s potentially life threatening if my husband is a doctor and he brings home some disease, heck, it’s potentially life threatening for me if he has a cold and I kiss him. It’s potentially life threatening if he leaves something on the stairs and I trip. It’s life threatening if he is lazy and doesn’t get a good job with health benefits or if he acts like just a plain old jerk and I get lonely and stressed about it and get sick.

Your marriage should be worth risking your life for, because it was a vow made to God and it is a covenant that cannot be broken. The two shall become one.

 

[smartblkchick]

luvmykids:

God gave his life for us. We are in turn to give our whole selves over to our spouses when we marry for the good of the other. I’m not sure how to put this, but some spouses may risk their life for the other, because they love them. It isn’t suppose to be a conditional love. It’s suppose to be a commitment. Not…I love you only if you…or only if you don’t… EVERYONE is at risk for being cheated on. If you are married, you are at risk.

It’s potentially life threatening for me if my husband smokes. Am I suppose to divorce him if he doesn’t quit? It’s potentially life threatening if my husband is a doctor and he brings home some disease, heck, it’s potentially life threatening for me if he has a cold and I kiss him. It’s potentially life threatening if he leaves something on the stairs and I trip. It’s life threatening if he is lazy and doesn’t get a good job with health benefits or if he acts like just a plain old jerk and I get lonely and stressed about it and get sick.

Your marriage should be worth risking your life for, because it was a vow made to God and it is a covenant that cannot be broken. The two shall become one.

That covenent is broken as soon as he puts me in a position to contract AIDS!

 

[rayne89]

smartblkchick:

That covenent is broken as soon as he puts me in a position to contract AIDS!

Not in God’s eyes, and since God’s is the one who created the marriage covenant he get’s to decide.

 

[Youngcatholic]

melbourne_guy:

yes jesus said you can divorce only if one commits adultery. which is fair enough.

Divorce is not permissible even in the case of adultery. Jesus never said this. The act of adultery itself is not grounds for divorce even though the act is a sin and destroys trust.

 

[smartblkchick]

rayne89:

Not in God’s eyes, and since God’s is the one who created the marriage covenant he get’s to decide.

Well then… God and I will just have to disagree… this assumes of course that you have a watts line to God to know exactly what he wants.

 

[JSmitty2005]

smartblkchick:

Well then… God and I will just have to disagree… this assumes of course that you have a watts line to God to know exactly what he wants.

HAHAHA, it’s called His Word, which is found in Sacred Scripture and Sacred Tradition. Choosing to disagree with God just might have some repercussions.

 

[JSmitty2005]

JSmitty2005:

Where did Jesus say this? I always thought that there were never grounds for an annulment unless there was abuse or some other evidence that it was never a valid marriage to begin with.

I was right about questioning melbourne_guy’s assertion that Jesus permitted divorce in the case of adultery.

catholic.com/thisrock/2000/0007bt.asp

 

[momtofivekids]

JSMITTY22005,
Wonderful article. The truth of the teachings of the Catholic Church. Tough pill to swallow sometimes, but none the less it is the truth.

 

[JSmitty2005]

momtofivekids:

JSMITTY22005,
Wonderful article. The truth of the teachings of the Catholic Church. Tough pill to swallow sometimes, but none the less it is the truth.

Indeed. It reminds me of one of G.K. Chesterton’s quotes:

“The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting;
it has been found difficult and left untried.”

 

[shannin]

micatholic:

Thanks for all the replies. Economics and truth. My wife feels I have not been truthful with her about economics and feel that I cannot provide for her and son. I had a bad year in my business.

Economics and truth about finances are NO reasons to break up a family You married a very selfish woman who doesn’t have a clue about what it takes to work at a marriage.

You have a big problem on your hands and I will certainly pray for you. God Bless.

 

[melbourne_guy]

to all those that think you arent allowed to divorce even if one spouse commits adultery
read “And it was said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of dismissal’; but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the cause of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matt 5:31-32)