Any one else find it hard to meet a good Catholic woman to marry?

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1Lord1Faith said:
Some women have the ability to be tactful beyond a man’s understanding. 😅 I’m sure your beard was worthy of praise and your wife thought so as well.
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I’ve spent something like two weeks out of the there decades we’ve known one another without one. And then I mowed two lawns on a 110 degree day with scar tissue under my chin . . .

(never trust a man that will run sharp metal across his throat every morning before he’s fully awake!)
 
It will happen in God’s timing, don’t feel pressured. And just know that it is just as difficult for us Catholic women to find a devout Catholic man!
 
SPONP4US said:
am happy being single and trusting in the lord’s timing but 5 years single is proof enough I don’t think I can take another five years let alone be single all my life. My Dad died last year and I’m sad he will never get to see my children and my mother is I’ll and I feel the same. I would make a great Dad and Husband and I want to be those things someday (soon).
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I understand you. When we have values we want to share them. Have you tried Catholic Match?
 
SPONP4US said:
I have been asked by many a sweet old lady at Church “Would you ever join the seminary? I can see you as a Seminarian” e.t.c and my answer - Yes I’ve thought, Yes I’d make a great priest and I’d love to be a confessor and would look great in a black shirt and dog collar) But I am NOT called to a religious or priestly life 🙂 like Never ever ever going to happen. Never!
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I’m sorry to hear that. Assumptions can be annoying. I grew up as the tallest kid in my class. Everybody asked why I didn’t play basketball, a sport I never enjoyed. (I hadn’t yet been taught the retort, “No. Why? Do you play miniature golf?” 😏)

While online dating is certainly an option, it may be time for you to take action locally. Why not approach your priest or parish council about starting a local ministry for Catholic singles, or just young Catholic adults? It could involve adult ed, Bible study, or just casual, unstructured time together at a pub.

We have Theology on Tap in the U.S., which is both structured and unstructured. Individual parishes often have singles ministries, as well.
SPONP4US said:
Single Mother’s (even women alot younger than me)
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Where you’d like to be a father one day, would you be open to a younger, Catholic single mother?
 
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By the way, unlike you, I did NOT want to get married for a long, loooooong time. I ended up engaged at age 20. We’ve now been married over 20 years, and he’s still my best friend. I’m not saying this to brag. On the contrary - I got married with cold (frost-bitten!) feet! My point is just that God’s timing is really weird, (if not a little annoying), and may not always make sense to us.
 
catholiclala said:
Maybe because said 40 year old woman is having the same difficulties dating as anyone else and this is just how it’s playing out.

Discern based on where the person is in the moment not why they are where they are.

I’m about to be 40 and single. I’m not defective. I just had a talk with my RCIA sponsor who met and married her husband, who is seven years younger, when she was 40. They have been happily married for over 30 years now.
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Thank you. I am in my 40’s too. Catholic and never been married, it does not mean there is anything wrong with our age group. I found that question quite offensive.
 
dochawk said:
“I shot a man in Reno. Just to watch him die.”
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The next time someone asks me what’s wrong with me since I’m not married I could just say this.

Add to it a thousand yard stare worthy of Ted Bundy.

Yes, I’ve been to Reno. What’s done in Reno stays in Reno.
 
You mentioned praying, but I would say make sure you are praying right. I used to get infatuations and pray, “God please give me a chance at dating this girl.” As soon as I started praying, “God please take me to whoever it is your will for me to be with.” I met my wife.

Granted I started praying that way just as I was leaving for college. The college also turned out to be very inhospitable to Catholic views, so we were quite the escape for eachother on campus.

Other than praying I think all you can do is make as many friends as you can and have patience to see where those friendships lead. Maybe try visiting other Catholic churches nearby and hanging out if they have donuts after Mass. Best way to meet Catholic women is to attend Catholic events. Participate in Church group activities. Visit a Catholic bookstore/shop and initiate conversations.
 
Willing_Spirit said:
You mentioned praying, but I would say make sure you are praying right
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This is not right. To suggest that God withholds someone or something because we don’t “pray right” is wrong. God hears all of our prayers, he is not concerned with our exact choice of words or our grammar.
 
Around me, I see a lot of Catholic women who are singles and in their 30’s. I don’t know what percentage truly seek an husband. There is much more women than men in the Church,

I I think it is possible for a man in his 30’s to find a catholic woman if he or she is ready to moove geographially. Who is still childless.

I would advise you to surround yourself by Catholic friends, Catholic activities and Catholic network to improove your chances. And let others people know that you are searching a wife. You woud never met her if you search her in the wrong place who is the ordinary world.
 
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I’ve been married twenty years to a bad Catholic woman, so there’s that…
 
Exactly, which is why if your intentions are wrong, if you are praying wrong, your prayers will not be answered. God is not just some genie that grants wishes. Your prayers need to be in line with His will.
 
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