Are women attracted to nice guys?

[gaothdearg]

Madaglan:

I think I may have asked something similiar to this before: but do girls (women) ever like nice guys as more than just a friend.

Of course. I love nice guys! I am from Ireland by the way e-mail me

 

[jrabs]

CarolAnnSFO:

No, he doesn’t. Girls may like jerks, but women like nice guys.

Crazy Internet Junkies Society
Carrier of the Angelic Sparkles Sprinkle Bag

Now that is the most accurate answer I can think of also. Soooo true.

 

[didymus]

Feanaro's Wife:

But in defense of us females, it takes boys quite awhile to realize that what they want in a future wife is NOT just big boobs and great hair, lol.

Hair???
Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

Just keep yourself focused on the type of woman that would make a good wife…but, more importantly, make yourself into the type of man that would make a great husband!

Malia

Amen!
And maybe don’t be so focused on looking and just see what happens.
Or try riding the bus – that’s where my Mom and Dad met and they’re about to celebrate their 50th anniversary.

 

[manualman]

Nice is a turn-off to women only if you include being timid as part of the definition of nice!

Women are attracted to confident men. Often immature women mistake arrogance or cockiness for confidence. Reading between the lines here, I’d say if you have a social anxiety problem, THAT’s the source of your romantic difficulty. (speaking from experience here!)

Go out and conquer your social anxiety. Only human interaction will do that. (Web interaction doesn’t count) Get into public speaking via classes or church activities. Nothing conquers social anxiety like experience in public speaking.

 

[Elizastaci]

Madaglan:

Interesting. So hope is not lost for me yet?

I’m 22, and although I am 6’2" and I have people tell me that I’m good looking, I still haven’t had a girlfriend, much less ever been a date. I think a lot of it has to do with my social anxiety, but I think some of it also has to do with the fact that my interests are much more academic than most people; plus the fact that many have commented in many ways I am much more intellectually mature than most people my age. QUOTE]

Oh believe me, I know whereof you speak. I’m 18 and have never had a boyfriend, my interests are way more academic than most people’s, and, oh, did I mention I am also 6’2, which on a girl is actually a bit of a problem for most guys?

Because of my height and mental maturity, people think I’m older than I am, so I do get asked out- by 40-year-old businessmen at Starbucks, who usually open conversations with lewd comments about my very long legs.

So don’t despair- I haven’t yet.

 

[Island_Oak]

Madaglan:

Interesting. So hope is not lost for me yet?

I’m 22, and although I am 6’2" and I have people tell me that I’m good looking, I still haven’t had a girlfriend, much less ever been a date. I think a lot of it has to do with my social anxiety, but I think some of it also has to do with the fact that my interests are much more academic than most people; plus the fact that many have commented in many ways I am much more intellectually mature than most people my age.

I’d say you’re way ahead of the game. Most women have to wait until their peers “grow up” enough to be interesting to them and interested in doing more than demonstrating how much beer they can drink at a single sitting. I think that’s why so many young women are attracted to older men. Your interests will serve you well…but you may have to wait for some of the gals to catch up with you.

 

[Sojouner]

Please don’t forget who else is interested in “nice” people. God!
Maybe the reason that you haven’t found anybody is that He is at work in your life.
I became very close to a nun who is in her seventies at our parish. One day I asked her how she became a nun. She told me that when she was in her twenties all her friends were getting married and she felt kind of left out because there seemed to be no interest in her. Then one day she met a sister and they began to talk. Well, she ended up with the best spouse anybody could have.
One more thing. The church had a farewell party for her because she was going into semi-retirement. They had pictures of her that extended throughout her life. Let me tell you I was surprised when I saw a picture of her when she was in her twenties. A beautiful and vibrant young woman was looking back at me. Don’t forget that God has good taste also!

 

[Feanaro_s_Wife]

didymus:

Hair???
Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

Yes, hair, lol!

As a woman who decided to have very short hair for a time in my early twenties, I can tell you that long gorgeous hair is on the top of the list (right after big boobs, lol) for immature males.

Malia

 

[turboEDvo]

I think girls like nice guys (or let me rephrase: girls that I like to be friends with like nice guys). It hasn’t failed me yet (and I do, of course, hope that people see me as a nice guy…who you wouldn’t want to cross)

Eamon

 

[edward_george]

I would certainly hope women are attracted to nice guys…if there’s anything I’m not it’s a jerk or anything like that. I tend to follow the example of one of my patrons–St. George. Chivalry isn’t dead. Welcome to the Boy Scouts.

-ACEGC

 

[Peace-bwu]

My husband is as nice as they come, God broke the mold when He made my man!

Before I met him I was attracted to my fair share of jerks, but because they were jerks, I refused to date them. even though I really liked them… most of them were turned off by the fact that they couldn’t get more than I was willing to throw away… if you know what I mean. I made a list of requirements and waited until I met that young man of integrity and good looks. Too many women settle for mere attraction, when they could hold out for and a nice guy who is also attractive to them.

Yes, good women are attracted to good men!

 

[Peace-bwu]

edward_george:

I would certainly hope women are attracted to nice guys…if there’s anything I’m not it’s a jerk or anything like that. I tend to follow the example of one of my patrons–St. George. Chivalry isn’t dead. Welcome to the Boy Scouts.

-ACEGC

My husband was an Eagle Scout. The last time he wore the uniform was about age 17. I’m sure there were girls who might have thought that was “geeky” but he was one of the coolest guys in school! I saw it as an asset. I was also the girl he chose to date, not his second choice, by any means. He says that when he saw me it was love at first sight. Luckily I was an outdoor lover. Anyone who enjoyed everything Boy Scouts has to offer, and doesn’t worry about it affecting his coolness factor can’t be all that bad! Boy Scouts prepared him to serve God and Country all his life. Now he loves his career in the Air Force.

 

[Peace-bwu]

Feanaro's Wife:

Yes, hair, lol!

As a woman who decided to have very short hair for a time in my early twenties, I can tell you that long gorgeous hair is on the top of the list (right after big boobs, lol) for immature males.

Malia

My husband was in a state of shock when I cut my hair into a bob during our first year of marriage! I thought he was going to cry. At least I still had the big boobs! I never got my hair cut above the shoulders again!

 

[Peace-bwu]

OK, it’s time to get Elazistaci and Madaglan together!

\BTW, I think tall women get more respect. I am 5’1" and people usually think I am alot younger. When I was 20-26, I can’t tell you how often people would come to the door and ask if my parents were home. My husband is 6’2 and was a track star… I always tease him and say the grey hound got together with the Dashound.

Interesting. So hope is not lost for me yet?

I’m 22, and although I am 6’2" and I have people tell me that I’m good looking, I still haven’t had a girlfriend, much less ever been a date. I think a lot of it has to do with my social anxiety, but I think some of it also has to do with the fact that my interests are much more academic than most people; plus the fact that many have commented in many ways I am much more intellectually mature than most people my age. QUOTE]

Oh believe me, I know whereof you speak. I’m 18 and have never had a boyfriend, my interests are way more academic than most people’s, and, oh, did I mention I am also 6’2, which on a girl is actually a bit of a problem for most guys?

Because of my height and mental maturity, people think I’m older than I am, so I do get asked out- by 40-year-old businessmen at Starbucks, who usually open conversations with lewd comments about my very long legs.

So don’t despair- I haven’t yet.

 

[Peace-bwu]

Madaglan:

I honestly thank each person for the advice he or she has given.

One of my friends told me tonight that many psychologists believe women are attracted to certain qualities found in jerks; in particular, the qualities of cockiness and humorlessness (yes, it’s a word ).

Now, I know that women are attracted at any age, and thank God I have the gift of humor So, I’m not concerned about any lacking this so-called attractant.

But what about cockiness, arrogrance, conceit–whatever you want to call it? Do girls ever get tired of this charade, or is it constantly attractive to them, even after they find the “nice” guy they decide is best to marry? I’m just curious (because I fear future cuckoldry ).

When I was very young and immature I was attracted to the cockiness and arrogance, but thankfully was very hurt by a guy like that in my early dating experiences, he broke my heart and I realized that they were very bad qualities!

I can’t understand the lack of humor being an attractive trait. I am most attracted to my husband when he is making me laugh! I don’t like people who make jokes at the expense of others, though! Also, I could never be attracted to a guy who is less intelligence than myself. He must me a *tiny *bit smarter, but not arrogant about it. I like humility. Nothing turns me off more than a man who thinks he is smarter than everyone else, and puts others down because of it! A man who knows he is smart, yet realizeds he has much to learn is great!

 

[Donna_Mc]

The first thing I had said about my husband the first time I met
him was what a nice guy he was, so for me the answer is yes!

 

[NFPfamily]

You sound a lot like my hubby at your age (he’s now 28). Just hang in there- someone will come along and snatch you up like I did to him! I am soooo glad I married a nice guy- they make great dads too!

 

[Madaglan]

Originally Quoted by deb1:

My friends all ended up bitter over men. They would make comments like…all men are jerks. I never felt that way and quickly discovered that it wasn’t the men that were at fault but the girls themselves. They all went after the typical bad boy and ignored nice guys.

That should be made into a bill board!

 

[Madaglan]

Originally Quoted by Peace-bwu:

I can’t understand the lack of humor being an attractive trait. I am most attracted to my husband when he is making me laugh! I don’t like people who make jokes at the expense of others, though! Also, I could never be attracted to a guy who is less intelligence than myself. He must me a *tiny *bit smarter, but not arrogant about it. I like humility. Nothing turns me off more than a man who thinks he is smarter than everyone else, and puts others down because of it! A man who knows he is smart, yet realizeds he has much to learn is great!

Yeah, sorry, I made a typo. I caught it yesterday but forgot to comment on it. Humorlessness should actually be “humorousness.” I accidentally put in “less” although I didn’t mean to. Sorry.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

Genesis315:

Anywho, think of it this way: do you really want to be with a girl who thinks jerks are a good catch? What does that say about her? Yikes. So just be yourself, pray a lot, and don’t worry. You’ll find a woman with a nice head on her shoulders who can appreciate what you bring to the table.

Exactly. I married a nice guy who was overweight and had his skin done over by acne. He is a prince. I am so lucky. How the seemingly intelligent women he used to hang out with ever let him get away is beyond me. But their loss is my gain!! As long as you aren’t one of those guys who think they have to lick shoes to get a steady girlfriend, there is someone like me out there looking for you. She’ll still be with you when you have a bald head and a bum knee, so hang in there!

I used to think jerks were boring. Now I think they’re scary. Run, girls, run!!