I think there are two issues here (are though it seems that only one is being discussed):
(1) Whether the Parish is contributing to scandal
(2) Whether there should be Masses, separately, for those in the believing, practicing community that acknowledge their SSA and want to celebrate together.
In my opinion, the second – believe it or not – is more problematic. Several of us discussed this a full year ago with regard to archdiocese of Westminster in the UK.
I want to explain why I have
slightly come around to be
guardedly supportive of these Masses.
With regard to (1), my opinion is that the burden is on Church leadership and parish leadership (clerical) to use language which clarifies what such a celebration is and is not, what its purpose is and is not. The reason is that – the timing of parades or not – there remains considerable confusion about approaching the Eucharist by those who embrace the title of homosexual,“gay,” etc. In the secular understanding, SSA means living the lifestyle, or certainly with the assumption/permission of that. Many Catholics (those with SSA and those who befriend them)
support an actively homosexual lifestyle as long as those “couples” are “committed and monogamous” (i.e., the language of the secular media), language which no faithful, believing Catholic should be adopting, let alone repeating.
Therefore, it is up to any pastor, both orally and in writing, to distinguish that “a gay Mass” is not like “a gay parade.” He should explain that whatever supportive ministry exists in his parish, the mission of that ministry is chastity for those who participate, mutual support and resources for that chastity, and that participating in a dedicated Mass is one such chastity resource.
There is such a ministry in one parish near me. The people approaching Communion are those, just like the rest of those who approach, who are presumed to be in a state of grace. I can reasonably assume this because they informally discuss their struggles and efforts with me and others in the parish. There are also members of that ministry who are not ready to Approach the Table, and they do not do so. They acknowledge that. However, the ministry provides a function in giving them a supportive spiritual community and in encouraging their possible eventual return to communion with those approaching eucharist.
On # (2), I remain ambivalent. The Church is One. Jesus Himself prayed, during his earthly ministry, that his members be united. We’ve had so much division signaled by ‘special-interest group’ politics in the secular media, that I do not think it necessarily helps to borrow that pattern for Christ’s Church. Nowhere are we more one than when celebrating the sacraments together – not just symbolically but actually.
Second, as has been discussed on several threads, some of which are still active, labeling oneself can encourage a distinct ‘identity’ apart from our common and united identity as children of God. In fact, that common identity calls us to accept our brethren within our midst who are suffering with any disordered or troubling attraction of any kind, and to unite their efforts toward holiness along with everybody else’s. Having a separate Mass reinforces a ‘separate identity’ which has more in common with the ‘identity politics’ of the secular realm than the spiritual identity of the sacred realm. It does not promote a mental transformation of that individual to self-identify as something other than a member of this larger community/parish which has the indistinguishable goal of union with Christ.
For example, there is someone who attends one of the standard Masses at the above parish near me. He describes himself to others as a recovering alcoholic. I.m.o. he is a powerful witness. He often mentions his struggles to several of us, adds his gratitude to God, for his successes, during the Prayers of the Faithful, and is open to several of us about how helpful it is for him to attend this Mass! We learn from him, or at least I do. He has expressed no interest in attending a Mass for Alcoholics, nor should he. His struggles and pain, along with our struggles and pain, are united to the central suffering of Christ our head, recalled at every Mass.
Now, there are retreats in many locations, many parishes & retreat centers, for those who suffer from substance abuse. Many retreats, of all kinds, conclude with a Mass. The Mass is thus an integral part of a conscious effort to ‘collect’ oneself with others sharing similar challenges. I.m.o. this is the best occasion also for a “gay Mass.” In the parish above there are sometimes retreats for the LGBT ministry, which conclude with a Mass. I think that is a better context for it than as a regular, separate liturgy in the parish.