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I didnt attack anything-I stated the facts. I am not denying Homosexuals anything. Their disordered behavior is what denies them marriage-not the law. And no law is going to change that.Originally Posted by estesbob
I don’t think its really fair to look at monogamy statistics for gay couples, or whether or not they take the oppertunity to get married in the very few places that it is allowed. Not yet at least.
As a homosexual myself, just in the process of coming out of the closet, I’m finding that my fear of being seen as wierd, depraved, or being insulted and attacked by others for my sexuality is a significant obstacle with the guy that I am seeing right now. I feel that we can only be close behind closed doors, which at this point, is really just my dorm room. I am constantly feeling trapped, and its getting in the way of our growth. You may think homosexuality is accepted, but try to hold hands or express love to your parnter in the middle of a crowded street or restaraunt or campus, and you’ll find that there are still significant obstacles. I imagine it is like this for many couples.
I wonder how many inter-racial marriages lasted during the times when it was not socially accpetable, or even legal? How long did those relationships last? I doubt the rate was high. Similarly, the intense social distate for homosexual relationships certainly has a negative affect on their growth.
The homosexual community, which has become more evident in the last thirty years, has spent a very long time being forged on the very fringes of society, already cast out and despised by most, it is no wonder that we have not formed ourselves into a community that is a nice little parallel of your own. How many gay couples could “wait until marriage before they have sex?” Until the last two or three years, marriage was not a concept to homosexuals. We can’t look at same-sex marriage and judge it so early. Its only legal in a fragment of the world.
Especially in the United States, you can not take these statistics seriously. If I am correct, same-sex marriage is only legal in two states. This means that a homosexual couple will only have their marriage recognized in two states out of the entire country, every time they cross a state border, their marriage becomes invalid. Additionally the idea of the Federal Marriage Amendment Act looms overhead. In Canada, same-sex marriage just became legal nation-wide in June.
The homosexual community is simpley going through so many changes so fast that is impossible to guage the final outcome in regards to monogamy. With a new emerging generation accepting homosexuals (hopefully), homosexuality will become normalized and the community can begin to establish itself with norms and some boundaries. But this requires acceptance. You might think that gay people all live in segregation in San Fransisco or on Church St. in Toronto, but they fact is our “community” is dispersed everywhere, there isn’t an oppertunity to establish norms and standards the same way a heterosexual dominated society has.
You attack homosexuals for not being monogomous enough, yet then, you seek to deny them the very institution that exists to secure monogamy?