Catholic dating websites. Ummmm

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You just have to be open to whoever God sends to you. For me, it wasn’t about finding a lot of people on a dating website. I just wanted one. So I prayed that God would send me that one and I signed up for Catholic Match. Even though he was in another state, God put us on paths that brought us together in Chicago and that’s how we were able to meet. I think dating sites are a great way to bring people together who wouldn’t otherwise meet, but one has to go into it with the mindset of finding the one right person and not an enormous pool of candidates, or they will feel disappointed. What I liked about Catholic Match was the forums where you could talk to people about how their faith interacted with their spiritual life. My parents had no outward expressions of their faith whatsoever when I was growing up, so it was really helpful to read about the experiences of all those other Catholics. Once I got married, I had to leave that forum, so that’s when I found this one!
 
Sure, you CAN make a lot of money as a lawyer, but it’s far from a sure thing. To hear some people tell it, passing the bar is a license to print money.

Anyway, sorry for derailing, OP. 🙂 good luck on the bar.
 
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I’m graduating without any debt. I don’t tell many people that but I’m well off. Condo paid off and car too

I know that I’ll be able to make a decent amount of money from it. Besides if I don’t I can use the money I do make to use for my other business.
 
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Haven’t met many catholic Musicians. Most musicians I know aren’t people I’d date because they smoke marijuana
 
I don’t mean you specifically. More just that a lot of people have that lawyer = rich. There are a ton of lawyers who are really, really struggling.
 
Sure. But that’s because they decided to take out over 200K in loans for college and law school. Starting salary for a lawyer is over 50K. That’s not bad but it is when you have really high loan payments
 
Yeah, loans are a huge part of that. And while 50k isn’t bad (at least, in a low cost of living area) it’s far below what the average man on the street thinks a lawyer makes.

Anyway, back on the subject of dating: do you live in an area with a critical mass of single young women? If you’re in the sticks, or an area with a predominantly older/married population…that’s tough
 
Not to sound rude but there are other options. Many young men that could’ve joined the military should’ve just so they they wouldn’t be in such debt when they decided to go to college later
 
That’s starting salary. After ten years or so it’s closer to 90 – 100

Depends on the field too. An environmental lawyer may not get as much as a corporate attorney
 
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Honestly, the dating sites are next to useless… I was a member on Catholic Match for 6 months and I didn’t get a single date. Not one. I had to have sent out at least 75+ messages to many different ladies on there, many within a 3 hour drive from where I live, and less than 10 or so replied. At least I’ve become friends with one of the people I met on there.

Honestly other than that, you’d be better off creating a Catholic singles club in your diocese. I’m planning on creating such a club for those 18-30. Even if nobody liked me, at least it’d help somebody else. 🙂
 
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Not to sound rude but there are other options.
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Sure, but I´m - not to sound arrogant - really good in my field. I started my studies when loans were reduced for the best 10 percent of a year. I was among them. The law changed in the middle of my studies. I decided not to leave - because of already spent workload and love for my work.
One should make this decision with prudence, for sure, and not everybody should make dept for a degree. But on the other hand, it´s not “one´s own guilt” after all, just a more difficult start into (married) life.
 
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I understand no one wants a deadbeat but if that’s someone’s main focus so that they’re only interested in me after I reveal what I do then they’re not worth it
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Depends on how you come across.

I cannot tell you how many men on Ave/CM said they looked forward to being a father and having many children but then worked as a janitor or other completely low wage, unskilled job that was barely enough to support themselves, never mind a family. Within the first few exchanges of emails, it was clear that they were not planning to better themselves, ie skilled trade or college. I ran far and fast from those men, because I saw the dichotomy as pure delusional behavior.
 
Either I’m ugly, or their rude. Maybe both lol 😜

It’s actually a pretty common problem both guys and gals have when they send messages from what I gather.
 
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I get it; I’m a lawyer. I’m not saying you can’t make a good living in the law, I’m just saying it’s not the guaranteed path to riches the general public often thinks it is
 
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Honestly, the dating sites are next to useless… I was a member on Catholic Match for 6 months and I didn’t get a single date. Not one. I had to have sent out at least 75+ messages to many different ladies on there, many within a 3 hour drive from where I live, and less than 10 or so replied. At least I’ve become friends with one of the people I met on there.
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Mel, you’re 20.

6 months is NOT long on dating sites. I joined CM in college and Ave shortly afterward. I was on and off for many YEARS. I met my now husband on CM after about 8 years of free membership and 2 years of paid.

My husband was on for about 2 years. As I’ve told you before, while dating in college is a thing, many wise young adults wait until after. You can’t serve two masters.

As a side note.
-we both went to the same parish
-we both had attended the same TOT events
-I was deeply involved in Bible Study, helped run a young adult group and volunteered often at not only my parish but neighboring ones.
-he was an EM, went to a different Bible Study and parish events.

We never met until CM.

It takes time.

*side note. As a 25yo I had 20yo men message me. I ignored them. I was not looking to date someone still going to college full time, working part time or not at all. It just didn’t appeal to me. At first I said “sorry not interested” but eventually I just gave up responding.
 
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You’re not ugly. But you do have a very specific look, what with all the vintage clothing, hair style, etc. not saying that’s bad, but it might limit your appeal to girls who are into that specific look.
 
Getting out and about to meet new friends will take effort when you have time. Classical Music people are usually straiter laced, not Pot Heads. Our area has monthly Guitar Society Meetings, great people. Maybe your area has a similar group. If you look online for Open Mics, there’s probably one scheduled almost every night of the week - fun, and interesting. Coffee House mini concerts are fun : maybe a guitarist from your Church Group would enjoy going out to play with you. Musicians are not all Pot Heads 🙂 And Facebook ( although I understand preference for privacy and avoiding FB use of personal information ) can help you socialize a bit, and to get a glimpse of new friend’s actual lives.

Just thoughts… My son is happily married, your age. He met his beautiful wife at work.

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