Catholic Dating

[montanaman]

This thread reminds me of a stand-up comic I saw once. He was lamenting the fact that he was in his 30s and still not married. He said something like, “I think often about my future wife…and how disappointed I am in her that she hasn’t bothered to contact me yet.”

This is how I feel sometimes too!

No. Kidding. Who was this comic? It also sounds like a line from a John Mayer song–Love Song to No One, or something…

Having recently become single after dating a girl I had serious marriage thoughts about, I wonder what my future wife will be like–she must be amazing. That’s assuming a LOT, of course. Right now, so soon after the breakup, I don’t want anything to do with relationships.

Then again, there’s another Theology on Tap starting up again soon…

 

[webdezyn]

Ask Mr. Keating and the catholic.com people for good catholic singles websites ! i know there are one or 2 good ones …i forget the name though.

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[ktm]

KellyEr:

Maybe we should start a ‘fixing up young catholics’ thread!http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon12.gif

KellyEr

Put me down for slot #1.

 

[ktm]

JDS2oo6:

I think often about my future wife (that I have yet to meet)…and how disappointed I am that she is probably currently a pagan

LOL! This made me laugh out loud, very funny!

 

[ktm]

montanaman:

No. Kidding. Who was this comic? It also sounds like a line from a John Mayer song–Love Song to No One, or something…

Ah sorry I have no idea who it was, as it was quite a while ago. But I guess it struck a cord since I remember it still.

 

[LilyOfTheFather]

My fiance is not a Catholic, but he agrees with the Church’s teachings on family, for which I thank God. I pray for his conversion every day… he believes in most of what the Church teaches, and the rest could be sorted out in RCIA, but he lacks the courage to approach anybody…

 

[Jessica]

As Powe0186 stated when beginning this thread, forums are good for discussion, communication, and venting. Well, we’ve definitely done all three of these things, but the beautiful thing about being united in faith as sisters and brothers in Christ is that we can do more. Jesus promised us that when 2 or 3 of us asked something in His name, we would not be denied. So, I hope I’m not being too bold here, but I propose we start a prayer campaign, and then, as KellyEr suggested, start contacting each other. If you’re interested, just post a yes or no, but here’s what I’m suggesting…

Starting this Sunday (July 11), or whenever you read this, begin a novena to St. Joseph. St. Joseph is the model of the true Christian husband, and also the Protector of Virgins, so it makes sense for both women and men to ask his intercession. However, do not pray solely for yourself, but for everyone on this thread. Pray for 3 things: 1) That God will help you to see the beauty of your current vocation, single life, and ease your loneliness, if you have any. 2) That God will grant you knowledge of, and submission to, His will. 3) That He will give you the grace of meeting your future spouse.

After, and only after, you have completed the prayers for St. Joseph’s intercession, start contacting the other people on this thread. However, I would caution everyone that this is not necessarily because you will find your future spouse here. Rather, e-mailing each other will provide support from people who know exactly what you’re going through. And, hey, maybe it is God’s will for you to find your future spouse in this manner. The important thing for us right now is to stop venting and start praising. God knows what He’s doing, and we must praise Him for all His decisions (even if we don’t understand them). In the end, He is all that matters. If you are called to marriage, you should want it so desparately because it is a relationship with Christ. In the Sacrament of marriage, you become the domestic Church. That is why marriage is beautiful. However, we cannot possibly comprehend God’s plan, and if He has not yet revealed His will to us regarding our vocations, or if He has not yet presented us with our future spouses, we must trust Him. God is good!

So please, let’s start praying for each other. When we pray, we put all our trust in God and allow Him to act, and that’s when miracles happen! I hope God blesses all of you, and I’ll begin asking for St. Joseph’s intercession for your vocations this Sunday. Peace be with you!
In Christ,
Jessica

 

[newsjag]

Just this past Tuesday, my girl and I broke up. I am still so depressed. She was Baptist but came to love the Catholic church and did fully join. Well, she has decided that the Catholic life is just to hard or something. She has decided to go and drink excessisively, has not attended mass since May, and other sad things. (What can I do for her? I pray for her but cant talk to anybody or her about this)

Well, I am at a point in my life that I have just turned my life over to God. I dont know what is best for me, only He does. I dont know who is out there for me, but I pray for her every night. This is all that I can do. Love will find me. The Holy Spirit will lead me to her.

When I read posts from people like ya’ll it just makes me feel that there are other great people out there, that feel the same was as I do. Thank you so much for giving me HOPE!

 

[Lida]

Jessica:

So please, let’s start praying for each other.

Jessica, I think this is a wonderful idea. I’m also a college student (I’ll be starting my third year in the fall), and I know the sort of frustration you must have been experiencing.

I’m really glad that I found this thread, because for a while now, I’ve been struggling to accept that what I have now, being single, is wonderful and blessed in its own way. I try not to complain too much, but sometimes it does get difficult. It will be uplifting to know that there are others feeling the same exact way.

Jessica:

God knows what He’s doing, and we must praise Him for all His decisions.

Let’s keep one another in our prayers.
Peace in Christ,
Lida

 

[misericordie]

Jessica:

As Powe0186 stated when beginning this thread, forums are good for discussion, communication, and venting. Well, we’ve definitely done all three of these things, but the beautiful thing about being united in faith as sisters and brothers in Christ is that we can do more. Jesus promised us that when 2 or 3 of us asked something in His name, we would not be denied. So, I hope I’m not being too bold here, but I propose we start a prayer campaign, and then, as KellyEr suggested, start contacting each other. If you’re interested, just post a yes or no, but here’s what I’m suggesting…

Starting this Sunday (July 11), or whenever you read this, begin a novena to St. Joseph. St. Joseph is the model of the true Christian husband, and also the Protector of Virgins, so it makes sense for both women and men to ask his intercession. However, do not pray solely for yourself, but for everyone on this thread. Pray for 3 things: 1) That God will help you to see the beauty of your current vocation, single life, and ease your loneliness, if you have any. 2) That God will grant you knowledge of, and submission to, His will. 3) That He will give you the grace of meeting your future spouse.

After, and only after, you have completed the prayers for St. Joseph’s intercession, start contacting the other people on this thread. However, I would caution everyone that this is not necessarily because you will find your future spouse here. Rather, e-mailing each other will provide support from people who know exactly what you’re going through. And, hey, maybe it is God’s will for you to find your future spouse in this manner. The important thing for us right now is to stop venting and start praising. God knows what He’s doing, and we must praise Him for all His decisions (even if we don’t understand them). In the end, He is all that matters. If you are called to marriage, you should want it so desparately because it is a relationship with Christ. In the Sacrament of marriage, you become the domestic Church. That is why marriage is beautiful. However, we cannot possibly comprehend God’s plan, and if He has not yet revealed His will to us regarding our vocations, or if He has not yet presented us with our future spouses, we must trust Him. God is good!

So please, let’s start praying for each other. When we pray, we put all our trust in God and allow Him to act, and that’s when miracles happen! I hope God blesses all of you, and I’ll begin asking for St. Joseph’s intercession for your vocations this Sunday. Peace be with you!
In Christ,
Jessica

I agree Jessica.:clapping:

 

[ozgirl]

Kellie wrote:
***If any of you want to move to Melbourne, Australia, you can marry me.

I can sort of cook, well I can follow a recipe, I dont nag, and I dont mind what side of the bed I sleep on

Seriously, I find it difficult too, to meet single guys, who are as dedicated to their Faith as I am.

The only single guys at my parish, are too young, too old, or priests

Oh well, I will keep asking Mary to guide me to the right one.
She is my Mother, and mothers always know best

Love Kellie***

I second that!
If there are any young men out there who are nice, intelligent, kind and caring and willing to move to Australia I’ll marry you too!! LOL!!! Like Kellie I find it difficult to meet guys that share the same values as me. Perhaps I’ll have to move to the USA eventually to meet the type of person I’m looking for. sigh

 

[misericordie]

Kellie wrote:

If any of you want to move to Melbourne, Australia, you can marry me.

I can sort of cook, well I can follow a recipe, I dont nag, and I dont mind what side of the bed I sleep on

Seriously, I find it difficult too, to meet single guys, who are as dedicated to their Faith as I am.

The only single guys at my parish, are too young, too old, or priests

Oh well, I will keep asking Mary to guide me to the right one.
She is my Mother, and mothers always know best

Love Kellie

I second that!
If there are any young men out there who are nice, intelligent, kind and caring and willing to move to Australia I’ll marry you too!! LOL!!! Like Kellie I find it difficult to meet guys that share the same values as me. Perhaps I’ll have to move to the USA eventually to meet the type of person I’m looking for. sigh

Well, the attributes you describe in a nice guy, etc, seems like me? Just kidding, how sad that there are good guys and women, they just have a hard time meeting I guess.

 

[ozgirl]

Misericordie: Well, if you ever wanna chat, just PM me!

 

[montanaman]

Just this past Tuesday, my girl and I broke up. I am still so depressed. She was Baptist but came to love the Catholic church and did fully join. Well, she has decided that the Catholic life is just to hard or something. She has decided to go and drink excessisively, has not attended mass since May, and other sad things. (What can I do for her? I pray for her but cant talk to anybody or her about this)

Well, I am at a point in my life that I have just turned my life over to God. I dont know what is best for me, only He does. I dont know who is out there for me, but I pray for her every night. This is all that I can do. Love will find me. The Holy Spirit will lead me to her.

When I read posts from people like ya’ll it just makes me feel that there are other great people out there, that feel the same was as I do. Thank you so much for giving me HOPE!

Sorry to hear it, bud. My girlfriend and I just decided to “take a break” last Tuesday as well. She’s “nothing,” basically, though she made some noises about looking into the Church.

Only time will heal it. And I guarantee it does. I got dumped once about six years ago and she right away moved in with a loser and started popping out kids. She named one after my sister’s name, and another after the name we would have named our first girl. I didn’ think I’d ever get over that, but I did.

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Now, did I hear that there’s a single Aussie here? I told my recent ex that if things didn’t work out after all the work I was putting into that relationship, I was moving to New Zealand to start a surf shop. But hey–Austrailia! I do love that Nicole Kidman…

 

[misericordie]

ozgirl:

Misericordie: Well, if you ever wanna chat, just PM me!

Okay, sounds good, I will.

 

[EsclavoDeCristo]

newsjag:

Just this past Tuesday, my girl and I broke up. I am still so depressed. She was Baptist but came to love the Catholic church and did fully join. Well, she has decided that the Catholic life is just to hard or something. She has decided to go and drink excessisively, has not attended mass since May, and other sad things. (What can I do for her? I pray for her but cant talk to anybody or her about this)

Well, I am at a point in my life that I have just turned my life over to God. I dont know what is best for me, only He does. I dont know who is out there for me, but I pray for her every night. This is all that I can do. Love will find me. The Holy Spirit will lead me to her.

When I read posts from people like ya’ll it just makes me feel that there are other great people out there, that feel the same was as I do. Thank you so much for giving me HOPE!

I had a similar experience but my girlfriend never fully entered the Church. We broke up then she quit RCIA and quit attending Sunday Mass. Then the partying and excessive drinking began.

I’ve learned from experience that you can talk to her but can’t change her mind for her. Besides that, all you can do is pray. Keep your spirits up and give God’s grace time to work on her heart! Thank God for prayer.

 

[newsjag]

Trinitatem:

I used to keep a journal I would write in when I was in college. One day, (I dated it of course) I wrote about the perfect man for me. I kind of made it into a prayer. I got pretty specific, right down to hair color. Humor, Catholic, etc. Well, wouldn’t you believe that I met him years later after I graduated? I had forgotten about the journal entry and fell head over heels, and of course, married him. When I was making a scrapbook of our first five years together (greatest hits, volume 1), I found the entry, and needless to say was quite surprised, as was my husband. I ended up pasting it to the front of our “Love Story,” and that where it stays. To this day, he is my soul mate, and I feel like it was only yesterday when we met.

I don’t think there is a perfect “place” to meet your soul mate. People used to say to me, “well, you know, it happens when you’re not looking.” And I was all like, “yeah, great, when is that? I’m always looking…” But truly, I envisioned it, gave it to God and just forgot about it. Funny, huh?

Lucky you! I enjoyed your story. I know that I have to just let God guide me and I will be a-okay! I have to turn my life over to Him. How difficult that can be sometimes. But I will never give up trying

 

[StratusRose]

SarahSmile:

Hey all…
Catholic Singles is a good site to go to as well! I have met some really great friends on there.
I met my boyfriend at a young adult bible study.

I met my boyfriend on Catholic Singles, and I couldnt be happier! I knew I wanted to date/marry a Catholic and sites like CS weeds out all the riff raff. We’re actually talking about getting married in the near future, I really believe he is my soul mate. God works in mysterious ways, even if they are web based!

 

[EsclavoDeCristo]

StratusRose:

I met my boyfriend on Catholic Singles, and I couldnt be happier! I knew I wanted to date/marry a Catholic and sites like CS weeds out all the riff raff. We’re actually talking about getting married in the near future, I really believe he is my soul mate. God works in mysterious ways, even if they are web based!

So is Catholic Singles better than Ave Maria Singles or is there another site that is better? Which one is the best?

 

[zzzimbob]

Montanaman and Newsjag, it must be in the air - my girlfriend and I broke up recently. She is not Catholic (cradle Catholic who now belongs to Assemblies of God), but she was supportive of me in my faith. It’s very sad for both of us - she is a wonderful person and we get along very well, but the faith issues are what drove us apart. I made the mistake of thinking that it could work out for us, but our faith differences were bigger than I envisioned. She is now saying that she’s opposed to raising kids Catholic, even if I wouldn’t compel her to convert.

For us it pretty much came down to being guided by what the Church teaches vs. personal interpretation. So, from experience, I would advise against dating a non-Catholic with marriage in mind unless you are absolutely certain that he/she would support the raising of your children as Catholics.

I agree that reading all of these posts from other single Catholics gives me hope. I’ll be praying for you and for all of the other Catholic singles out there. And thanks for the novena suggestion, Jessica.