All I see happening is your feelings changing again and you’re back to square one.
I am a bit confused with this statement. I do feel for him as a friend because we were good friends initially. So he was always a friend first and a friend for a long time. So would it really mean that im going back to square one because i still consider him to be a friend even today?
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I guess what I’m trying to say is that you’re playing with fire. If you return to being friends you run the risk (and I’m going to go out on a limb and predict a huge risk) of letting things get out of hand again. Don’t do it.All I see happening is your feelings changing again and you’re back to square one.
I am a bit confused with this statement. I do feel for him as a friend because we were good friends initially. So he was always a friend first and a friend for a long time. So would it really mean that im going back to square one because i still consider him to be a friend even today?
What did you think would happen? :whacky:I have a lot of questions about what i did and its consequences. I was in a romantic relationship with a married man (I am single). We were friends at first. Neither of us planned on it but it just happened and i dint have the strength at the time to pull myself out of it. even though we dint want our relationship to get physical in any way it eventually did but not to the extent of adultry. When we both realized how wrong we had gone we decided to break it up but we kept going back to our old ways and it took a while before we finally managed to end it (its been 4 months). We are friends even today ( but it itsnt as good a friendship as it used to be) but have no romantic feeling for each other. But i think he has moved on better than i have. I’ve gone to confession, repented for what i did but this incident in my life has shattered me. I’ve lost a friendship i cherished will all my heart and when i think about all that happened i still feel extremely guilty.I still cry about all thats happened and all the wrong that ive done. Has Jesus forgiven me for what ive done? Ive gone to confession more than once but find it very hard to belive that ive been forgiven for such a grave mistake. I know he loves me but i just feel so far from him.
I would be very grateful for any sort of help and advice offered to help me understand and deal with this. I am in great need of all your prayers kindly pray for me.
1) With him out of your life you could focus on God more and maybe find that one that God has waiting for you.
2) You know that you made mistakes and are trying to get past them and I pray that you can get past this and move closer to God. But remember his has a wife, do not be the cause for him to sin.
3) The pain that he is causing and will cause to his wife will be tremendous. Do not be a part of that. With his actions he is rejecting Gods laws, and the teachings of Jesus to "Go and commit this sin no longer".Yes, this would be a problem, and you should not do even this much.
Do you think his wife would appreciate that if she knew what had happened between you two? I know, if I were her, I would want ALL communication done. I think you need to stop thinking about your needs and think about others’ needs.
I just want to say that I didn’t mean to come off as mean as that sounded. I know this has been bugging you and you are still feeling guilty, etc. I do think that if you focus on his wife it might help you see things more clearly and put things into perspective. Also, I think that if you stop the communication it will help those guilty feelings…like a penance of sorts. The longer you do this, the stronger you will be.
No, it doesn’t take a while. You make the decision today and you stick to it!
When talking about it being gravely wrong and the question of our souls i must specify that the affair has been ended already (been repented for and confessed). Our feeling for each other are’nt romantic anymore either. And as i mentioned in my previous posts (if you havent been through them) we happen to be family friends and hence being in contact on and off may be unavoidable at times. I ask for advice in this context.
When talking about it being gravely wrong and the question of our souls i must specify that the affair has been ended already (been repented for and confessed). Our feeling for each other are’nt romantic anymore either. And as i mentioned in my previous posts (if you havent been through them) we happen to be family friends and hence being in contact on and off may be unavoidable at times. I ask for advice in this context.
When we finally understand the gravity of our sins we are hit with remorse and shame. It might take a bit longer for these feelings to pass but they will if you stay close to God, receive the sacraments and stay firm in your decision not to sin. I have experienced remorse and shame as well and it was the most awful thing ever. But with time it has faded and become a distant memory. Just believe that God has forgiven you, accept it and take it one day at a time.
As the other posters have mentioned, feelings are not necessarily the best guides.